How to be a HUNG exhibitionist

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Dorset, not sure how to respond to what you wrote above, alcohol can be a fun escape for some, addictive too. I hope you weren't being too serious here.
Lol, yeah I was joking, I take my work outs too seriously to drink too much
 

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Very interesting thread, HG, and something I think about too.

A whole generation has come to sexual maturity under the specter of AIDS, and will never know what it was like when people worried every minute of every day about the prospect of testing positive before AZT -- or worse, contracting an opportunistic infection before the ELISA test was even developed. Whole neighborhoods were decimated. In New York City, where I grew up as an early bloomin' gay kid, I was going to funerals every weekend in the early to mid-1980s.

The epidemic inspired various sexual reactions. Some of my friends figured they had to be HIV-positive, so fucked away anyway. Some became celibate. Most, though, seemed to find new ways of safe sexual expression.

And all this happened at a time when gay men became hypersensitive about appearing to be HIV-positive, and assiduously avoided giving any signal they might be. So, as an antidote to AIDS-related wasting, gay gym membership blossomed in the Reagan era. Gay men bulked up.

It always seemed to me that exhibitionism at the gyms replaced old school bathhouses -- many of which were closed in the early days of the epidemic anyway. For many, displaying the goods in the 1980s and 1990s was a safe expression of (especially homo-)sexuality that grew directly from the sexual revolution of the 1970s.

All that is to say that HG's experience -- as a (very very hot) man in his mid-40s -- is not atypical. Personally, I find exhibitionism liberating, whether in a lockerroom, on a nude beach, or here.

But I, too, find myself wondering why I spend the time I do on here. I came here originally, many years ago, to get some advice about buying less-binding swimwear, but stuck around after I developed "friendships" with some guys who are cool and easy to chat with. I have a great real life, friends and family and I really like my job. And, while I have the best boyfriend on earth, he and I are often apart -- and I guess LPSG fills a gap by allowing me to express my own exhibitionism (and practice some hardcore voyeurism) in an easy, non-threatening and safe way.

But, hey, that's just me.

Thanks for making me think about all this, HG.
 

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Yes... thank you!

HungMuscle knows what I am talking about here and I appreciate his comments. I lost friends, roomates from college... knew of so many others that were losing friends and lovers. Exhibitionism, as a way of staying "safe" may have saved my life! It gave me a sense I was desireable when being close and physical posed so many risks back then. A poor substitute but as HungMuscle observes, there were many others at the gym putting on this kind of show. After a bit of "show and tell" in the steam room or sauna we showered afterwards quickly, it felt clean and safe. It did form an addiction I think. This kind of thing still goes on in gyms and it is natural in many ways. But during the epidemic's dark early years it served a different purpose.

Here's another confession: I don't feel so guilty about showing off now but back then I did feel very guilty, scared and ashamed! I had a real sense of "survivor's guilt." I was enjoying sex, on my own terms, in frequent anonymous encounters (a large cock is good for this as you can imagine) while others were becoming sick and others were dying from their own sexual encounters. Fate was hard to understand. I was angry too. I knew how unfair this whole thing was. I felt rebellious. I was lucky to have had a taste of that sexual freedom as a teen just before AIDS, before any of the fear. I was raised thinking it was pretty cool to be an adult, so much sexual enjoyment just before that freedom disappeared. So, in a way, I felt kind of determined to keep that torch of sexual freedom burning. I was going to be sexual no matter what... and often... and safely. Somehow I did it.

And what about the survivor's guilt? Around the corner from the gym was GMHC. I volunteered my ass off back then. I helped with both the Walk-a-thons and Dance-a-thons. Back at a time when walkers from all over the area could raise over $11 million in one day! I sometimes showed up daily, working late into the night. It was fun but other volunteers, friends were also dying. A very strange time to have lived through. I guess what you are seeing in my pics is a guy well-trained in exhibitionism, but now you know how those skills were developed, and how I survived.
 

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Hard Guard: I appreciate this topic and your question. As I read all the replies and your comments, I think that your number 23 above clearly indicates that the question has now been answered.

Indeed, you and many, many others have lived through some very trying times. You developed a coping mechanism and you are to be complimented on surviving. You have been able to keep your self fit and healthy. I commend you.

That is the wonderful feature about Large Penis Support Group. We can all learn from each other. We can all respect each other for the information that we can share with our peers.

Thanks, again.
 

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thanks Hung and thanks trufitjock. Glad my comments could be taken seriously here. Now I can get back to showing off my cock. (did I say that??)
 

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Hardguard

I can relate to much of what you wrote - and at the same time I have tremendous respect for your willingness to be so open and honest about your feelings. We are about the same age and I too have been involved with the HIV/AIDS community since the beginning. I have always said that I am HIV negative simply because I was such a prude in the 1980's. I use to be teased and would emotionally beat myself up for being such a prude. But the truth is - being a prude in the 19080's saved my life.

I have never loved my body - although I have always known I was hung. it was not until 6-7 years ago that I enjoyed showing it off. Since I used to be such a prude - I would also tend to hide being seen naked by guys at the gym. Now - I walk around the locker room with my cock visable for all to see and even get a bit of a rush from it. And if I get slightly erect - even better. It's just a body. I think we as Americans place too much on nudity. And there is are differences between nudity, sex, and eroticism.

On a personal note - I am totally turned on by your body and cock - and would be sad to see you stop posting photos - but I would also understand and respect your decision.
 

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Hey HardGuard, I’d have to agree that it would be a shame for you to give up something you enjoy that brings enjoyment to others, and I too can relate to what you’re going through.

In my own personal soul searching along these lines, I’ve realized that I’ve been an exhibitionist my entire life, having sought out opportunities to be naked from childhood. As a teen I was heavy, and this tendency of mine became somewhat suppressed, no doubt because of my own body consciousness, though even then I always liked my penis… the fact that I was well-endowed was a joy and I was never shy about showing that particular part off. Before I’d ever had sex with my now wife, I had shown her my penis. In fact we’d only just gone on a few dates when I showed her (it’s a bit of a long story, and there was a good reason, I didn’t just whip it out for the sake of doing so, but I’ll save that for another thread).

Anyway, I say all that to say, that if a person is genuinely an exhibitionist I don’t think it’s something you outgrow. I think it’s a part of you. I’m sure it qualifies as a type of fetish in head-shrinker speak, but it certainly seems about as harmless and benign as a fetish can be. It brings joy and generally hurts no one.

In my personal situation, being that I am married, it does bother my wife that I am an exhibitionist (yes, I’m very honest with her, she knows all about my on-line stuff), and being that I love my wife dearly, this in particular is what has caused me to ask myself if I should quit exhibiting. I’ve been on LPSG for years, and elsewhere all over the web, and for long periods I will often slip into hibernation when I’m trying to “Quit” being an exhibitionist. So far I always come back. The thing is, I know it bothers my wife that others get to see her husband naked, but I am absolutely faithful, I genuinely believe in monogamy, and so I know that she has nothing to fear, and I know that being an exhibitionist is just who I am.

So HardGuard my advice for you is the same as my advice for myself. If one day you “outgrow” exhibition, you won’t really need to question it, you’ll just wake up one morning and you won’t feel that urge to be seen and admired by an audience anymore. Growth can’t be forced and it can’t be stopped, if it’s going to happen it just happens. Until then, as long as showing makes you feel good, I say keep at it, that’s what I plan to do.
 

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I've gone through stages where I have wanted to show off more than other times.

I remember a time when I was lifting pretty hard (and therefore feeling good about my body?) and was more open to walk around the apartment nude after a shower or whatever -- even when I had buddies over. Sure, I was showing off. I kinda got off on it.

But I generally don't walk around naked. Don't lift as hard anymore!
 

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I've gone through stages where I have wanted to show off more than other times.

I go through stages too. In the gym lockerrom in the morings before work, sometimes I'm just getting ready and that's it. Some days, I'll shave at the counter in briefs which show off my package really well.
 

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can't really add anymore here hardguard than what has already been very well written by others, and just wanted to thank you for a great topic and good thoughts. and Yorkie said it best, if someone wants to view it as an illness, that's their cross to bear. but your curiosity as to the origins of your need or habit is definately shared by many, myself included, in what possibly is a quest to fill some holes somewhere in life. i'm fairly certain my predilection for exhibitionism is (no doubt like everyone here) multi-faceted from the pure erotic thrill of the act to the freedom and joy in nudism to the electric jolt of engaging in a taboo to the self-therapy of those self-image issues of the formative years in not feeling i was 'desired' enough to my own satisfaction to gain any true set sense of being 'desireable'.
 

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thanks sk_bum, it has been a very engaging conversation here, much more so than I would have anticipated when first posting this here. I took a chance and really let my (hard) guard down to explore a question and to see what others might have to offer. I did this after reading other posts and seeing that there are some very thoughtful and generous contributions. It was kind of a relief to share these thoughts after sharing all the hard core naked shots in my profile. In questioning this I have allowed myself to see other views here and this has been helpful to me. In a way, it is a part of accepting who I am and accepting where I have come from. This is helpful in deciding where I would like to be in the future with this... there have been some very warm words shared so far, and also in the form of pm's I've received. I'm very thankful to those that are taking time to share with me their own ideas about this subject and hope others will continue to share their own experiences here. Honesty and revealing more of ourselves here seems a lot more intimate than all the pics in the gallery.
 

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I know this thread is pretty old now but just wanted to add something I thought was pretty funny.
I'm a bit of a shameless exibitionist in the gym locker rooms, which is quite accepted at my gym as the vast majority of guys there seem to be gay, but yesterday my guy downstairs was looking particularly impressive after my shower (even if I do say so myself) and the receptionist man was in the changing room at the time.
I go there today and the welcome and goodbye I got were VERY friendly, seeing as he's never really said anything to me for the previous 10 months I've been going there.

So exibitionism obviously has it's advantages if you time it right ;)
 

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Hey Dorset ... which gym do you go to <grin> London based here but I spend most weekends over the summer at the nudist beach at Studland - a GREAT place to be a hung exhibitionist!
Lol, not sure I want to give too much away because I don't want people I know to realise it's me but my gym is near Soho