How to be happy again

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I was looking at some old photos of my self how can I be happy like I was in the photo


I look at it at think that could never happen again or be like that again

i really got nothing to look forward too so it's really hard to pick my self up..
 

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It sounds to me like you are starting to have emotional problems with your life...looking at old photographs and want to live in the past is not going to happen. You can only visit those through looking at old photographs. What and who made us happen in the past may not / won't make us happy now or in the future. You need to look forward build on what you have now and going to attain in the future. If you can't overcome these emotional issues on your own or with those around you please seek professional help. The short piece you wrote about sounds very much like you need to seek professional assistance in your issue. I do wish you the best.
 

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Don't look back. Look ahead. Life is too short to try living in the past.

Of course remember that it's your past that has made you who you are today. Keep pressing onward.

Most things happen just when you least expect them to. A new beginning is just around the corner. The past is where it belongs in the past. Look to the future with optimism. There are brighter days ahead. Good luck.
 
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I was looking at some old photos of my self how can I be happy like I was in the photo


I look at it at think that could never happen again or be like that again

i really got nothing to look forward too so it's really hard to pick my self up..


Meditation. YouTube has great guided meditations.

I feel the ping of age....but it can not be controlled.

What is truly troubling you?
 
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As others have said look ahead not back.

But dont forget to learn from your past too - what is it that has made you happy in the past? With modern frantic busy lives we sometimes forget those elements of what makes us us.

If its a deeper malaise then do speak with a doctor and ask for help.

Good luck
 

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Don't dwell. Reminiscing can be fun and healthy, but dwelling on what what once was or can't ever be is a straight, boring, and deadly road to depression.

Also, find something your value about you Now and focus on that. Don't think about what you Don't like about yourself.

Everything changes. It's something to embrace. New experiences can be had, if you can find a way to look at things in a different way.

Blinding yourself with memories that can't be replicated is how to stay in a rut.
 
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Don't dwell. Reminiscing can be fun and healthy, but dwelling on what what once was or can't ever be is a straight, boring, and deadly road to depression.

Also, find something your value about you Now and focus on that. Don't think about what you Don't like about yourself.

Everything changes. It's something to embrace. New experiences can be had, if you can find a way to look at things in a different way.

Blinding yourself with memories that can't be replicated is how to stay in a rut.
it started after i had gotten hit by a car 16 years ago.. frequent headaches since then.. i have 16 hours of sleep to day trying to sleep it off.
 

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I'm truly sorry you're going through all of this. It sounds as though you are dealing with a lot. I trust you've spoken with a doctor about the headaches and excessive sleeping? I would echo what others have said about speaking with a counselor or therapist, if you haven't already. Someone who specializes in trauma and grief.

And please be sure to treat yourself with kindness and compassion. I can tell you with my own experience with trauma and grief that there was a time several years ago that if I managed to get out of bed, brush my teeth or shower then I counted that day as a success. And if I didn't manage that or anything else, then I allowed myself that space. You don't have to figure everything out, just find a way to make it through each day and let the past and future take care of themselves for a little while.

So while I can't tell you specifically what you should do to feel better, I can tell you that what happened in the past happened, and what has changed in your life has changed, and, unfortunately, yes, whatever has been lost has been lost. But some things have not changed, and some things can never be lost--you are still here, you are still strong, and you most definitely have the chance to be happy again, possibly in surprising and wonderful ways. So hold on and take that chance.

I wish you all the best and be sure to keep us updated on how you're doing!
 

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it started after i had gotten hit by a car 16 years ago.. frequent headaches since then.. i have 16 hours of sleep to day trying to sleep it off.

Have you tried CBD?

For what it's worth, I give a fuck. I hope things do get better.
 
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cherish the past, live full in the present, and plan for the future.

no matter how bad things get, it can always get worse. looking at old pictures brings back good memories that you may be wishing you had now. think about how you were back then and see if you're doing it today. how can you be better. what else can you do to make you the best that you can be.

life is truly what you make of it. is it hard? hell yea it is and it's all up to you. without knowing more these are the best words i can share. good luck!
 

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I can empathise here so much. I feel like a shell of the person I used to be. I have little motivation, energy, ambition or even just general interests. I feel I am no fun at all compared to how I used to view myself. I don’t look forward to anything. I don’t see how someone can help because I can’t even see what I’d want them to say to change how I feel.
 
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I don’t see how someone can help because I can’t even see what I’d want them to say to change how I feel.
Usually it's the listening and understanding from others that helps. The Samaritans are wonderful to talk too :)
 

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it started after i had gotten hit by a car 16 years ago.. frequent headaches since then.. i have 16 hours of sleep to day trying to sleep it off.
I know it may not parallel what you’ve been through but I have been through a kind of hell myself, a lot of it self made, but for the last 12 months I have gotten no rest from the time I do sleep. I feel like a zombie and it’s really starting to show. Marriage is in the gutter, I have no patience with my kids and I literally loathe the idea of trying to sleep because I know I will wake up more tired than when I started. Definitely get to a doctor, there could be a plethora of things contributing and knowing what’s wrong and being able to fight it is better than not knowing and letting it ruin you. Keep your chin up and get help :)
 

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it started after i had gotten hit by a car 16 years ago.. frequent headaches since then.. i have 16 hours of sleep to day trying to sleep it off.

I'm going to take it as given that you received medical attention for this and for any and all chronic symptoms or conditions you've suffered because of it since. If not hie thee to a doctor.

Absent a medical diagnosis my advice is to stop looking back through rose-colored glasses. You probably had plenty to complain about back then (and did) which you don't remember because a) things are worse now and b) you've forgotten what made you unhappy then.

Yoga, TaiChi, Zen, meditation arts, cognitive behavioral therapy, counseling? Sure. Change your expectations, change way you think, change the way you feel.

Maybe stop wanting to be happy so much and realize you already are? That these are the good old days? Your halcyon days?;)
 
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We all get beat up at times...emotionally, mentally, physically etc. We all can look back on the past and lament a happier easier time. You are not unique in that. Some people are dealt a tougher hand than others..that is true and you may have been for now. But its attitude bro.

Go to the instagram page of a guy named Nick Santos @nicksantosnastasso Im not a big self help, meditation type guy ( not badmouthing that at all..just not my thing) But this guy will put you in a frame of mind that will get you out of your funk. He is a guy who was born without legs, one arm and the arm he does have has one finger. What this guy has accomplished will blow your fucking mind. His attitude is unbelievable. But not only that he I think is in 20s or early 30s and his bod is ripped, he is a good looking dude, he is nice and inspiring as hell and he actually oozes sexuality. I dont follow a lot of people on IG..but when I am feeling bad or frankly sorry for myself..I go check out his IG and id be like WTF is wrong with me.
 
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It's just so hard to deal with anything anymore everything sucks for me

I was serious about the CBD.

I think it could help, with several different issues you may be having.

If you have access/are interested do some research.

Just want to be helpful.
 
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Do things you like to do and don't be afraid to say no when there is something you just don't want to do at this time. Don't sit on your computer by yourself on here, go out and do stuff outside.
 

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Do things you like to do and don't be afraid to say no when there is something you just don't want to do at this time. Don't sit on your computer by yourself on here, go out and do stuff outside.
there is really nothing to do where i live (i'm in the desert area) I don't even have a car the one I had took a shit .I was spouse to get a pickup truck but my uncle is being greedy embezzled the vehicle for him self even though my grandpa directly told him it was for me before he passed away.. he also took $30,000 in other stuff for him self he is a no good felon greedy thief..(he has like 6 other cars too) it sucks cause i don't have a lot saved up for a decent vehicle ( if you don't have a vehicle you can't really do anything since everything is far away)

Just to get to the city it takes 3 hours by rail and bus...