How To Be More Masculine?

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I know I shouldn't be asking this... but i'm so tired of people looking at me or mocking bc of my voice or gestures. So anyone has any tip to share on how can I become more masculine?

I think I need to "improve" my voce and maybe reduce my gestures
 
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I think one characteristic which many associate with masculinity is confidence. Feeling and worse still, acting as if you think you're not good enough as you are, is not confident behavior. Just be yourself.

PS. Mocking is usually something only people who themselves are feeling insecure about themselves tend to do.
 
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I know I shouldn't be asking this... but i'm so tired of people looking at me or mocking bc of my voice or gestures. So anyone has any tip to share on how can I become more masculine?

I think I need to "improve" my voce and maybe reduce my gestures

You are, talk and express yourself the way you do because that's who and how you are.
Masculinity is a social construct, completely subjective and as with many other social constructs, acts as a sort of steamroller that flattens and homogenises, crushing individual identity.
The idea of masculinity changes from culture to culture, and even in the same country has plenty of variations, so what iteration of masculinity are you even looking up at greatly depends on your birthplace, social level, status... that's how subjective it is.
Imho focus on yourself, there's nothing wrong in being who you are, don't seek validation in conforming to the mass, to blend in or let others define who you are.
People will always criticise, insult, mock or scorn, for whatever the reason, the only thing that matters is that you rise above all that and accept yourself the way you are.
 

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1. Buy some clothes at Boot Barn.
2. Wear cowboy boots.
3. Get a real dog...no toy breed.
4. Grow a 5 o'clock shadow.
5. Get a voice coach. They can do wonders.
6. Drink bourbon or scotch.
7. Stop watching Broadway musicals.
8. Learn to bowl and line dance.
9. Work out and build muscle.
10. Go to a PRCA rodeo, not to ogle, but to see how working men handle themselves.
11. Quit worrying about it.
 

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Sit on your hands or put them in your pockets when you talk. Do it until you don't have "fly away" hands. Talk slower. Talk more "purposeful". Don't sit and jabber away. Move slower in general. Look at your wardrobe. Throw out the faddish stuff. Tone down your look whatever you wear. It don't have to be cowboy. A pair of boots, cowboy or work boots or hiking boots are good though.
 
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Yeah just relax and be yourself, the most masculine thing is being comfortable in your own body.

For me spending time nude, freeballing and peeing outside has helped me feel manly and embrace the body I'm in, just naturally makes me comfortable with who I am on more than just a physical level.
 

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Body language, posture, tone of voice, how you speak, what you wear - all part of how you present yourself to the world, and in turn how the world sees you.

You don't need to ask us how to be "more masculine" - just pay attention to the people around you and see how they present themselves, and try being more intentional in what behaviours you want to emulate.

It is important to be comfortable with yourself, but also understand that we all have different versions of ourselves that we present to different people. The 'you' that turns up to work, is going to be different than the 'you' that hangs out with friends, or the 'you' that spends time with family.

Part of navigating life is learning to see what situation you're in, and adapting accordingly.
 

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Become comfortable with yourself, and the reactions you are perceiving will fall away. I spent many years self-conscious of my voice and gestures. Now I just don't give a shit and life is so much better. I am who I am and I love who I am, You are who you are and the only person that needs to love who you are is you. Once you do that, no matter the gender people assign to your voice and gestures, your command for respect from others will be noticed and honored. Love yourself. You are a beautiful living being.
 

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I know I shouldn't be asking this... but i'm so tired of people looking at me or mocking bc of my voice or gestures. So anyone has any tip to share on how can I become more masculine?

I think I need to "improve" my voce and maybe reduce my gestures

Feminine affect serves a purpose. You list yourself as 100% Gay. I am going to go out on a limb and guess that you are predominantly a bottom.

Feminine affect evolved in developmentally gay men as a means of attracting men. Not necessarily for attracting gay men, who are attracted to masculinity, but as a means of signaling what most folks think of as straight men, that you would play the role of the female, sexually, as they might need.
Your voice and gestures signal submission and the willingness to be penetrated to men who normally evolve to want to penetrate women.
Thru most of human history, having a percentage of men effectively born gay was helpful in early human cultures that made access to females extremely limited.
Its not for example, that certain greeks had such a thing for homosexuality... its just that women were largely cloistered, and a feminine appearing man or boy would do in a pinch.
Thru most of history, being gay meant illicit sex with men who were either actually bisexual, or who were passing for straight in a world where effeminate men were targets for abuse.
Feminine affect was a means of signaling sexual access to these men.

Today in the west- gay people live openly in whole communities of other gay people. They mostly meet and seek other openly gay men... and yet- many of them have affectations evolved for signaling str8 men.

This is a bit of a dilemma... because most gay men are attracted to straight male affect.
And so in recent decades there has been an increasing pressure on gay men to curate a more masculine affect... to appeal to the widest spectrum of gay men.

For a lot of these men this masculine affect is just faking. a form of theatre where they pretend to be overly masculine... because that is how you attract other gay men. I've seen a lot of lumberjack looking muscle jocks whose voices go soft and feminine when they relax around people they are not trying to appeal to.


You can learn to fake a more masculine affect- but it will always be performative. Tho it will become easier to stay in character the longer you try.

Perhaps take an acting class.
Or Just practice Impersonating the kind of man you find attractive- they way they dress and the way they walk and move.
 

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I think one characteristic which many associate with masculinity is confidence. Feeling and worse still, acting as if you think you're not good enough as you are, is not confident behavior. Just be yourself.

PS. Mocking is usually something only people who themselves are feeling insecure about themselves tend to do.
Confideence is a non gender specific characteristic. Masculine / fenimine is limited by defined gender role.....an identification not an idenity.
Independence of permimeters shares further with person .With this no one can ever be that importantant that their mockery can interupt your growth.
 

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I'd say most men will be who they are no matter what. I don't put down any type and my best suggestion is to get around your kind and be happy. But, if you just want to make a more masculine statement get a hot pair of cowboy boots, a pair of Wrangler jeans and a nice, down to earth preppy shirt. Will do wonders no matter how you like your wonders.
 

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I know I shouldn't be asking this... but i'm so tired of people looking at me or mocking bc of my voice or gestures. So anyone has any tip to share on how can I become more masculine?

I think I need to "improve" my voce and maybe reduce my gestures

I'm tired too. The way i walk is like girl. Wish i can be more masculine
either you live happy or make people happy, you can't do both
 

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I know I shouldn't be asking this... but i'm so tired of people looking at me or mocking bc of my voice or gestures. So anyone has any tip to share on how can I become more masculine?

I think I need to "improve" my voce and maybe reduce my gestures

Sure, beat your boyfriends or girlfriends and their kids...

Drink or get high til you're known for fighting family, friends, animals

Tailgate the drivers in front of you and then blow your horn and flash your lights at them, plus maybe a finger or 2 salute and if you really want to show how masculine you are, wave a gun at them...

You can work on calling people disparaging names and throw in some racial epithets too..

Master the art of poor hygiene from tooth brushing to body washing to no hair cuts

or, just be confident in yourself....you matter and that's all there is, you cannot make anyone change who they are, so do not let people change who you are.:sun:
 

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1. Buy some clothes at Boot Barn.
2. Wear cowboy boots.
3. Get a real dog...no toy breed.
4. Grow a 5 o'clock shadow.
5. Get a voice coach. They can do wonders.
6. Drink bourbon or scotch.
7. Stop watching Broadway musicals.
8. Learn to bowl and line dance.
9. Work out and build muscle.
10. Go to a PRCA rodeo, not to ogle, but to see how working men handle themselves.
11. Quit worrying about it.
I'm not sure much of that would fly in London, mate :joy::joy::joy:
 

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I know I shouldn't be asking this... but i'm so tired of people looking at me or mocking bc of my voice or gestures. So anyone has any tip to share on how can I become more masculine?

I think I need to "improve" my voce and maybe reduce my gestures
Next time someone mocks your voice

Punch them in the face!!! And yell who next!

that’s pretty butch
 

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Know how you feel I was made fun push spit on kick it was terrible time for me I was call name I try be different but ok be you sorry this happen to you it go bad for me in school I almost took my life thing will get better just be you bet your amazing person my heart goes out to you .