How to become a stud - lessons from women

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  1. dongalong

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    OK ladies, I'm sure that you'd prefer to be with an amazing lover than someone who thinks he is, right? :wink:

    Please share your most amazing sexual experiences and teach us what we need to know to do things right.
     
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    Pay attention.
     
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    I'm easy: Let me have my way with you, lick my pussy, fuck me, and shut the fuck up - that's it.
     
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    Sorry. I gave a short answer because I was heading out.

    Pay attention to each partner you're with each time you're with them.

    Listen for the sounds of her breathing, sighs or 'ouch's.
    Watch for expressions indicating pleasure, pain, boredom or 'you're kidding, right'.

    Read up on whatever you like, watch as much porn as you like, practice with as many partners as you like but...

    Don't assume what you read or saw or experienced before is "The Way" with every woman or even for the same woman every time. Our tastes will vary from one to the next and our bodies and sensitivity levels are constantly in flux.

    Ask. And when she speaks, pay attention.
     
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    What Gillette said!

    First though, recognize that the term "stud" is all in your mind. It's a once-in-the-sack fantasy term, not a reality for any length of time, such as a relationship. Less talk is better. Learn to use your hands firmly but delicately -- they can guarantee orgasms when other parts don't. Finally, open up. I might be thinking the same thing!
     
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    It's all about feedback. Look at oral for example, some women like you to grind your face into their cunt, aggressively sucking or even biting their clit while others go wild for the lightest touch, never even focusing directly on it and find anything more painful and/or distracting. You need to read the situation. Sex is also much more fun if you are totally 'there'. I spent several years at the end of my marraige fantasising about other stuff during sex, not healthy and not good for the enjoyment of either of you.

    I consider myself very lucky in that my current girlfriend was very critical if I didn't do everything exactly right for her (she'd even tell me if I was stroking her arm in a 'slightly irritating way' as we watched TV), it was a pain in the ass for a while but caused me to adjust aspects of my personal bag of tricks that i'd never even considered.

    I know i'm not talking about actual fucking here but at the end of the day that's fairly simple. My 'studliness' in that department usually consists of a woman appreciating, to a greater or lesser extent, my inability to cum easily (which masquerades quite well as fairly impressive stamina) and my girth (my length rarely gets a compliment).

    The other stuff, oral technique, other foreplay, the way you talk during sex makes far more difference to most women and, in my case at least, had far more of an impact on my own sexual confidence.

    It's kind of nice to be in a position that when it comes down to sex, i'm very confident that I can show a woman a good time, if not in absolute terms then at least be a surprisingly good fuck for an old fat bloke :)
     
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    Sweet ass I will comply with your wishes as always when are you cumming here!!
     
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    Do you think that there is a difference between stud and great lover?
     
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    Mmm, compliance. Always the correct response, Kevin. :09:
    I would cum there, but, not sure I want to get into a cat fight with your other women... you should be giving stud lessons. :biggrin1:
     
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    Work on dick control and stamina. You cannot be a stud without those two basic elements.

    Do not talk unless it pertains to the matters at hand. I do not want to talk about anything but sex during sex.

    Communicate (ask and listen) don't assume.
     
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    LOL I only run a stud service for one you lol and your amazing nipples ;p
     
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    I think this is a fair question Drifterwood.

    I suspect that a stud is a more specific term. A stud is someone who is desired for his physical and genetic attributes (hence the term stud, like a horse stud). Therefore sex with a stud is usually more of a "fling", purely physical and perhaps rougher and more animalistic.

    A great lover is a more general term that includes attibutes like being good at foreplay.

    I would be interested in knowing whether any women have ever had experiences with a "stud" as described above?
     
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    last forever.
     
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    It's all in the mind. A man who gets pleasure from satisfying a woman is unbeatable and deserves to be called a stud, a great lover or whatever epithet he wants attached to him.
     
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    women aren't generic.
    whatever one woman tells you, there'll be another woman who doesn't agree.
    some want stamina. some want quickies.
    some want gentle. some want rough.

    one thing is universal though.
    if we think you're running through a routine it'll turn us off.
    the 'hey, i'm a great lover because i'm doing what the last chick said she liked!' thing. ew.
     
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    :rolleyes:

    you've got a LOT to learn!

    seriously.
     
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    and you two are fast learners :biggrin1:
     
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    Soft gentle touches, everywhere and anywhere
     
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