OK..... this question is stemmed from my envy of large cities with well established gay communities: NYC, Chicago, San Francisco, etc. Despite my living in a small city (Wilmington, DE) we have very limited participation in lgbt events and half of that is due to the wealthy conservative mentality of the city itself. But how can I, or a group of us, drum up the motivation of my lgbt community to bring people out. I have yet to see a rainbow flag displayed anywhere, even at gay bars. It's incredibly frustrating. I've talked to gay organizations around the city and they feel too uncomfortable to step on toes. So essentially, the gay community of Wilmington is dead and needs help.... How did the big cities do it?