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How to change men?

Discussion in 'Women's Issues' started by gmannen, Apr 18, 2015.

  1. gmannen

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    It seems as there is often a mismatch between the male perception of sexuality and what women actually enjoy. As a woman, what would you change to make men better at satisfying you?

    (Maybe this belongs in another section?)
     
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    cattle prods get the point across nicely :wink:
     
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    Divorce the one you're with and get a new one??
     
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    Find one that I don't feel any desire/need to change anything about?
     
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    A woman marries a man hoping she can change him, and she never can. A man marries a woman hoping she never changes, and she always does.
     
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    True words said in jest. Mostly true I suppose.
    But the woman I married way back in 1980 was simply fantastic.
    Cancer took her in 2005 - that changed everything.

    Luckily I met a new partner in 2006.
    Much much younger than me.
    The most gorgeous beautiful sexy woman I've ever known.
    She's also fantastic. I worship her.
    Now she's also got cancer.
    We're hoping and praying.

    Please pray with us.
     
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    You can't change a man unless he lets you too.
     
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    It seems as there is often a mismatch between the male perception of sexuality and what women actually enjoy. As a woman, what would you change to make men better at satisfying you?

    It's more of finding a guy who's as close to what you want, you know, a good piece of clay, and just tweaking and gently molding him to meet your personal sexual needs. But that goes both ways. For me it hasn't been that difficult because I like my men to be very masculine, dominant, even rough. Sure, not all men are like that but I think a lot of men want (it's in their nature) to be that way with their women, just be the boss in bed. Personally, I dig the boss in bed guy. Experience has taught me that it isn't hard to find men who are like that, or more so, are eager to change to be that guy.

    Once I find a guy, i.e., "good piece of clay", (and I have) who's all guy (for lack of a better term) it's just a matter of letting him do his thing, live his masculine dominant side, fuck, manhandle me. For me it's when a guy is being his inner beast that I'm the happiest and feel my submissive feminine side, a role I'm most comfortable in and get off gangbusters to during sex.

    Then it comes down to dropping hints, telling him I like what he's doing when he does get it right, or that he should, say, take more time there, lick or touch me a certain way, etc.. It's not all about take, his needs, he has to be giving too, I just want it on his terms ... if that makes sense? A strong handed guy who can take a little instruction is the man for me.

    "Change" isn't the right word. I don't want to change him, just perfect the beast. And for the record outside of the bedroom we better be equal or I'm going to stomp all over his crown. He'll find out rather quickly that it is the queen who determines how dominant and powerful her king should be.


    ^Wow, having reread that it totally sounds as if I want to change him. Perhaps if I dropped the word "clay"?

    Naaah, guilty!
     
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    treat her gently, treat her kind
     
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    Truer words....

    Ideally, I think people shouldn't go into relationships with the expectation that the partner will or will not change. Perhaps the best that one can expect is to view one another as pieces of coal and the pressure and bumps and the rubbing together of two people in a relationship can turn those two pieces of coal into dust or diamonds. A relationship can't help but change us - it's our choice to crumble or sparkle. We can choose to smash violently against our partners or bump gently into them. Commitment is the constant pressure needed to create a diamond, no need to add any extra nagging or complaint.
     
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    Can't remember where I heard this, but it's the truest statement about long term relationships I've ever heard. "You like someone for their qualities, but you love them for their faults." If you get into a relationship looking to "fix" something then it's not going to end well.
     
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    I like to think that we both lean in a bit, and inspire each other to improve on our own, and together.
     
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    No shit?!? Man that is horrible I am very sorry.
     
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    what would you change to make women better at satisfying men? nobody ever talks about that, it's like women are perfect but when it comes to sex some of them not so much
     
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    You really want to start that ?
     
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    Nobody ever talks about that? Seriously? You are HILARIOUSLY oblivious to the fact that female sexual performance and sexual appeal is the main subject of all women's magazines.
     
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    Oh, FFS! You are going to be so popular around here.

    Perhaps you are unaware that popular media is constantly on women to make them more sexually attractive and 'better in bed' for males. Magazines that ostensibly for women are crammed full of helpful hints on how to " drive him wild in bed". Women have the "porn ideal" crammed into our psyche so much so, that we are slobbering on cocks, giving anal like champs and screaming like Sasha Grey to make men happy. The fact that some women missed the memo is a blue-eyed miracle. Perhaps some women just can't measure up to what they think is expected of them. They can't maintain that Brazilian, can't service the D five times a day, keep a clean colon for spontaneous anal AND look after the kids, keep a clean house and work full-time.

    So far this thread has mostly about how we DON'T change the person we choose. We grow together. Nobody is perfect, dude. Certainly not women, and certainly not men.

    If you have problems with your sex life, that's on you and your relationship. Not women or men. It's one man - you, and one woman- her. Leave the generalities out of it.
     
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    :popcorn:

    "nobody ever talks about that"? BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
     
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    I like your post and the fact that you are honest about wanting to change him. We all want to make our reality closer to our fantasy. I think the key part is that you enjoy him for who he naturally is. We can't be something we aren't but we can get better at what we are.
     
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