Of course, nobody ever talks about that. That is an immutable given. We are indeed perfect, and everything we do is perfect. If it does not work for you then it is your deficiency - not ours.
Thanks for the chuckle this morning.
Of course, nobody ever talks about that. That is an immutable given. We are indeed perfect, and everything we do is perfect. If it does not work for you then it is your deficiency - not ours.
Thanks for the chuckle this morning.
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Just out of curiosity, exactly what is your partner "Not so much" at? Cause if it's a pornstar level of depravity you are trying to hold her to, you might want to rethink your sexual standards. Bonnie Rotten, she is not.
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Countless women's magazines and various other media pretty much jam the idea down our throats that all women should adhere to the wants and needs of their males regardless of whether it's anal or blowjobs or BDSM and if a feeeemale doesn't want to do something in bed then she's a frigid bitch.
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Probably anal. It's always anal. A woman's anus is literally the H-Bomb of the Sexual World War.
Never understood the focus on anal that some people have. Porn favorites is one thing, but for their personal relationships?? I don't know anyone that considers that the keystone in their sex life... well... there are a few gay men that highly recommend it, but that's a different issue. Among my straight friends it's not that big of a deal. Granted, my state still has an anti-sodomy law, but I don't think that's it.
Not that I'm against it, mind you. I have dated total sluts, and god bless every last one of you, who loved nothing more than a good ass pounding. It's just not a big turn on for me.
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I like anal porn because it satisfies an urge without me having to fast and eliminate with enemas and/or laxitives. I enjoy anal sex, but don't consider it something that MUST happen in order for me to be fully satisfied. Still, the best sexual encounter I ever had involved anal penetration as the main thing. Everything else we did was just preparation for the roughest anal fucking I have ever experienced or seen. It changed the dude a bit. After that, just casual contact made him paranoid that I wanted to life him up. Weirdo. I just wanted to make sure we stayed friendly so we would have more sex.
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This may be the greatest thing I've ever seen. Yes, this post gave me an erection. Goddamn my fetish for sarcasm.
I've got a friend who is simply enamored with the idea of anal sex with me. If a "San Andreas" style event happens and both our spouses kick it, I am to immediately console her by placing a very large penis in her bum repeatedly. I've explained that I find the scenario disturbing but it doesn't deter her. I'm afraid when the zombies come, it's butt sex forever for me.
And here I am, just a massive, massive fan of vagina. Sigh.
Every time I stumble upon the title of this thread I read it as "How to change men?" as in "How do I change the a lightbulb?"
And it's quite apropos because that's about the only way to change a man - literally, exchange the man for another one.
The thing is I've become extremely attached to this one and have him 75% domesticated, which far exceeds the socially acceptable 50% expectation.
And Guy-jin, that's funny shit right there!
And it's quite apropos because that's about the only way to change a man - literally, exchange the man for another one.
The thing is I've become extremely attached to this one and have him 75% domesticated, which far exceeds the socially acceptable 50% expectation.
And Guy-jin, that's funny shit right there!
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If you loved me enough to get into a relationship with me or marry me, then why are you trying to change me? Did that suddenly change if I've remained the same guy you fell in love with? I don't get this. Why do women feel the need to change their men? We were good enough before we started a relationship with you, now we are not?
Secondly, I don't try to change the woman (or man in my case) when I get into a relationship with them. Why would I? I fell for him as is. Why change a good thing?
Secondly, I don't try to change the woman (or man in my case) when I get into a relationship with them. Why would I? I fell for him as is. Why change a good thing?
The OP is a man...
I can't say I've personally come across that many women who do feel the need to change their partner. I would say that I've probably come across a similar number of men trying to change theirs. It's a personality thing not a gender thing IMO.
Well, strangely enough, most of the women posting in here are saying how they DON'T try to change a person...........
Men are people, women are people.
People don't change unless the change is from within.
Why are we trying to change anyone other than ourselves? We have no right, and if we presume to, we will be going against the current in life.
I may not like how other people live or do....but it doesn't give me a right to insist they change.
Words like "domesticated" tend to translate into "I have insecurities that he or she must conform his/her life around because my illusion of happiness is more important than the reality of them as a person."
I wish more introspection took place before such questions are asked... /sigh.
People don't change unless the change is from within.
Why are we trying to change anyone other than ourselves? We have no right, and if we presume to, we will be going against the current in life.
I may not like how other people live or do....but it doesn't give me a right to insist they change.
Words like "domesticated" tend to translate into "I have insecurities that he or she must conform his/her life around because my illusion of happiness is more important than the reality of them as a person."
I wish more introspection took place before such questions are asked... /sigh.
Well, strangely enough, most of the women posting in here are saying how they DON'T try to change a person...........
Unless he has a unibrow, and then I might pluck him in his sleep! :naughty:
(Really good bj to follow? Or a pluck and fuck?)
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I think I may have just "taken off" from post #5 in this thread. She put it in print but I know I've seen it before. Of my married friends (hetero) it does seem to be somewhat true and it really gets under my skin when I see it. I don't like for that matter to see either partner, male or female, dominate (non sexually speaking) the other or try to change them. I've see both sexes to be fair trying to change the other. That is usually he beginning of the end, the kiss of death to a relationship. Now I can see if one of the parties picks up a really bad habit or something that is, in fact, detrimental to the relationship. But sometimes it just seems that one of the parties becomes dissatisfied with the other and attempts to make unnecessary changes.
This is actually a very good question, and one that troubled me for a while. A few years back one of my girlfriends got engaged, and we went out to celebrate. Sometimes during the night she started talking about what she "needed to change" about him.
I asked your question "Why are you marrying him if you want to change him?"
Her response was that he was about 75% of the way to being a good spouse, which was higher than anyone else had ever come. So, apparently she had a grading system or a scale against which she measured potential mates.
When I picked my jaw up off the floor I realized that most of the other women there agreed with her! OMG! Seriously? I immediately thought of where she rated on his scale, because she was pretty low on mine.
Maybe the other women were just trying to be nice, but I thought that maybe I was the weird one.
I used to have a shopping list when I was single. He was going to be tall, rugged, and handsome. I got the handsome part. Would I change him to be tall and rugged if I could? Not on your life! The rest of his 25% is just so full of surprises that I would have missed out on if I had stuck to my list.
I asked your question "Why are you marrying him if you want to change him?"
Her response was that he was about 75% of the way to being a good spouse, which was higher than anyone else had ever come. So, apparently she had a grading system or a scale against which she measured potential mates.
When I picked my jaw up off the floor I realized that most of the other women there agreed with her! OMG! Seriously? I immediately thought of where she rated on his scale, because she was pretty low on mine.
Maybe the other women were just trying to be nice, but I thought that maybe I was the weird one.
I used to have a shopping list when I was single. He was going to be tall, rugged, and handsome. I got the handsome part. Would I change him to be tall and rugged if I could? Not on your life! The rest of his 25% is just so full of surprises that I would have missed out on if I had stuck to my list.
Suppose you could "change" a man, you might inadvertently change the things that attracted you to him to begin with. Now your stuck with a little bitch of a man. If he has some serious issue like violent outbursts, heavy drinking, or dangerous drug use then maybe you shouldn't get involved with him in the first place. IMO, life is too short to go around trying to "fix" people. If you can help them, fine. Help out as best you can, but don't make it a mission. You have enough of your own shit to deal with.
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How to change men?
Like lightbulbs… lefty loosy, righty tighty.
Be sure to discard used up men in an environmentally safe and responsible manner.
Like lightbulbs… lefty loosy, righty tighty.
Be sure to discard used up men in an environmentally safe and responsible manner.
I concur
this sounds like it's turning into a "how many men does it take to change a light bulb."Similar threads
