How to Convince Boyfriend to..

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  1. Angelique

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    Okay, my boyfriend isn't really big on having sex.
    However, I sorta am.. (even though I'm a virgin).

    [We have a long distance relationship, but I am visiting him in June, then he is coming back to visit me in August then we're driving up from Texas to California]

    Anyways, we're gonna be moving in together and going to college together in Fall 2o1o. I think and feel he is the one who should take it. However, he isn't really big on doing so since he knows that I promised myself I would stay abstinence..but, I don't think I can wait any longer..

    I need a way to politely hint on that I want him to take my virginity without him thinking I'm just using him for sex. (Which I'm not cause I'm deeply in love with him, even if my mom doesn't exactly like him) We've been going out for a half a year, and our anniversary is on December 2nd. His birthday is on the 28th (of December). I want to give him my virginity as a birthday/anniversary gift after I've given him the PSP he wanted.

    [Yes, I do realize its far to early, but I need some ideas to sit and think about without being plagued with the thoughts on the last minute.]

    If you have any questions please ask? :)
     
  2. EllieP

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    OK, Darling, listen. He says he isn't big on having sex. Trust me. He is. But you can take that as a sign of respect for your virginity. And as for him thinking you're using him for sex - if that isn't the definition of a male fantasy I don't know what is.

    And how long does he think you'll want to stay pristine? Did you give him a date? Or an event? Sounds like he's a decent chap who will wait around for you. So that's good.

    And forget the PSP. It's anti-climactic. Or if you have to give it to him give it first. Then show him your crotchless panties. He'll forget the PSP until after sex. Then instead of turning over and going to sleep he'll play the games until you fall asleep.

    Darling, I'm not going to tell you how to run your life, but it doesn't sound like you're ready for any of this. My suggestion: stay in Texas and go to school there. Yes, move out of the house, for heaven's sakes.

    He may be the guy for you. At 18 I was blind as a bat. I found the guy for me. Gave me a beautiful daughter and over 50 grand in arrears on child support.

    Do what you want to do, but please keep your eyes open.
     
  3. EnglandJ

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    Nice info Ellie, I would probably say that everything you said is right... Also if you want sex with him then try talking about it more with him to give him the idea that your not trying to save yourself any longer as he may be thinking that you are ...

    Good luck but don't rush in... ps I think you have waited long enough :) x
     
  4. D_Geffarde Phartsmeller

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    Errr, you're only 18. I've known people that waited to have sex for many years past 18. Many, many years. You either CAN wait longer because you love him, as you say, or you can't wait any longer and he's not really "the one". Pretty simple.

    I've always had a thing for self-control so my money is on waiting. Don't let the urges control you. Discipline!

    I disagree with Ellie, however. You should leave Texas as soon as possible. Everyone should. That state is backwards.
     
  5. D_Sparroe Spongecaques

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    You can't force him.If he doesnt want to have sex with you then he won't.It will happen when the time is right.He probably knows how important it is to you to abstain so is doing the honourable thing.......either that or hoping you might leap onto him and rip his kecks off :p

    Now,as the mother of 2 18 yr old daughters all i can say to you is.....noooooooooooooooo noooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!! You're too young for all that.
     
  6. dolfette

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    if he says he doesn't want to fuck you then respect his wishes.
     
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    Wowwww.

    The mention of the PSP is what really made this thread.
     
  8. psidom

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    lol. you noticed that too huh.

    i thought dolfettes post was funny.
    (just because of her rape thread)
     
  9. dolfette

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    ahahahahahahahahaha!
     
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    Hell, it's 8 months away. If you're living together, I guarantee he'll be gagging for it, & if you're still together by then, you'll both really have earned it.

    You're way to young & inexperienced to bother about crotchless or kinky stuff.

    Just tie yourself in a big red bow, say " Happy Birthday" & nature will do the rest!
     
  11. D_Sparroe Spongecaques

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    I know,all i can imagine is them 2 having a ripping time and then all dishevelled she presents him with a PSP ROFL!!!!!!!!!!
     
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    A PSP or introducing a willing virgin into sex. No contest!
     
  13. psidom

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    ok my honest response to the op...

    like dolfette said respect his wishes,
    but if i was you i would start on birth control and use
    vibes in front of him or just rub yourself around him

    he will be bound to give in, and if you are on birth control
    already and it is in full effect i bet you will persuade him.

    very very very very very easily.:wink:
     
  14. psidom

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    lol right...it's some hilarious shite.:biggrin1:
     
  15. Incocknito

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    The repitition of "he isn't really big" is a "little" bit of a red flag to me.

    It puts the probability of this thread being geniune at less than 50%.

    This thread would be a good way to solicit PM's from horny men. That is all.
     
  16. psidom

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    see you are smart like that...

    i just saw PSP and thought wow what a cool girl.:smile:
     
  17. Angelique

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    Lol. I'm willing to do anything for him, just as he is for me. <3
    It was hard enough getting him to open up in telling me what he wants. D;
     
  18. D_Sparroe Spongecaques

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    Take it from those who have been 18 and frisky.....wait until the time is right.....and buy him a game for the PSP instead of offering him your foo foo (cripes i feel like mummy atm :p)
     
  19. Guy-jin

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    He is probably insecure sexually (or even generally).

    It is more common than you probably realize, especially in young men.

    Do what you can to make him feel more secure and "safe" with you sexually.

    Also, make sure to get him LittleBigPlanet for his PSP. {:
     
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    Foo foo!
    I love it!
     
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