How To Find Your Next Partner..?

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Try your local JO club.

I've received many offers from members on lpsg. And done a number of one on one cam sessions.

Also try bateworld as well.
 
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Try your local JO club.

I've received many offers from members on lpsg. And done a number of one on one cam sessions.

Also try bateworld as well.
I have no problem with online cam. And that's the problem. Always find a session online... But logistics and all for the next level (for us discreet guys). But I do love a good cam session. But sometimes it's like a strip club for me: Sexy fun times - but no touching. :( But I do cum! :)
 

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I'm trying a new approach, but.. organically? Y'know.. Doing the whole friendship to relationship pipeline? I feel like that leads to the most fulfilling relationships that apps can't quite capture.

I'm off the apps, but I would try to use ones that cater to people looking for committed relationships. Match; Coffee Meets Bagel, Hinge (?), etc. Experiment and see what sticks.
 
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Why not use the old fashioned way: meet people in a social setting? Like a club, bar or even just out and about...make conversation. Just a thought.
Concur. You know exactly who you are connecting with and not 5 year old pics.
I have trouble discerning if there is a guy/guy connection for more. Any tips ? Have exchanged numbers but then seems to fade
Find that a real meeting makes a better meating. But At least with an app you know why we both there. Saves preliminaries
 
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I'm trying a new approach, but.. organically? Y'know.. Doing the whole friendship to relationship pipeline? I feel like that leads to the most fulfilling relationships that apps can't quite capture.

I'm off the apps, but I would try to use ones that cater to people looking for committed relationships. Match; Coffee Meets Bagel, Hinge (?), etc. Experiment and see what sticks.
I completely misread the question. My bad. This isn't applicable to you. It looks like you're married and not in search of a romantic partner.

Go with any hook-up or casual dating app. I had a lot of hits on Sniffies for the week or two I spent on there. I met my ex on Scruff in 2017. LPSG is also pretty good if you're able to be patient, or if you can do frequent contact with others. Anything can be a source for hook-ups if you communicate well enough. Doublelist has plenty of men in your age range. Set clear boundaries.
 

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If that works for you then I'm pleased for you. As a closeted bi, as I'm sure many others reading this are, it's just not practical to go to clubs & bars, let alone devote the time. It probably sounds very shallow, but I'm not looking for bi relationships or romance, just sex, and that is easier to find online. I'm afraid it's the world we live in.
I met my fuckbuddy from silverdaddies a few years ago. We were both in exactly your situation being closeted bi. In fact he was only really searching for someone around his age and was more than surprised and shocked when I showed a lot of interest, which he found flattering.

We both took things "slow" over the course of a month in the sense that we just wanted to make sure we were both on the same page of what we wanted and didnt want, likes, dislikes and to make sure we were both comfortable with the potential of an ongoing arrangement. We didnt even exchange photos, which looking back probably made things easier and safe for both of us. When the day finally arrived when we would meet up face to face, he arranged for us to meet up for coffee. We were both nervous, however I was especially quiet and shy which I told him beforehand just being out in public. Not to mention the huge age difference so it was natural that I was this way. He fortuantely led the conversation and we chatted for about 20-30mins. I think looking back the coffee date, was more about just making 100% sure we were both "real" and would be comfortable to hook up in the future. He ended the "coffee date" by saying that he would like to invite me over to his place in a few days time when he was free and the words "I would really love that" could not come out quicker out of my mouth. lol

Not surprising the email exchange post coffee date, got very hot as we both were lot more open and had a face and body to connect with. I made especially sure to convey to him, I was very attracted to him and would enjoy everything he wanted to do. Our first hook up was really good, a bit nerves a bit of fumbling, but after a few hookups, we really got into an enjoyable groove and connected. He was very kind and sweet to me, made me feel really comfortable and safe that first time, which I told him laid the foundations of a wonderful ongoing fuckbuddy relationship.
 

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I met my fuckbuddy from silverdaddies a few years ago. We were both in exactly your situation being closeted bi. In fact he was only really searching for someone around his age and was more than surprised and shocked when I showed a lot of interest, which he found flattering.

We both took things "slow" over the course of a month in the sense that we just wanted to make sure we were both on the same page of what we wanted and didnt want, likes, dislikes and to make sure we were both comfortable with the potential of an ongoing arrangement. We didnt even exchange photos, which looking back probably made things easier and safe for both of us. When the day finally arrived when we would meet up face to face, he arranged for us to meet up for coffee. We were both nervous, however I was especially quiet and shy which I told him beforehand just being out in public. Not to mention the huge age difference so it was natural that I was this way. He fortuantely led the conversation and we chatted for about 20-30mins. I think looking back the coffee date, was more about just making 100% sure we were both "real" and would be comfortable to hook up in the future. He ended the "coffee date" by saying that he would like to invite me over to his place in a few days time when he was free and the words "I would really love that" could not come out quicker out of my mouth. lol

Not surprising the email exchange post coffee date, got very hot as we both were lot more open and had a face and body to connect with. I made especially sure to convey to him, I was very attracted to him and would enjoy everything he wanted to do. Our first hook up was really good, a bit nerves a bit of fumbling, but after a few hookups, we really got into an enjoyable groove and connected. He was very kind and sweet to me, made me feel really comfortable and safe that first time, which I told him laid the foundations of a wonderful ongoing fuckbuddy relationship.
Wow--did you have sex on that first time over to his place?!?
 
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Wow--did you have sex on that first time over to his place?!?
Oh no. That first time was just a short "coffee date". While we felt both comfortable with each other chatting prior online, I think he and even myself just wanted to feel physically comfortable and happy with what we were getting in public setting before meeting up a few days late privately.

I was flattered when he said I should have posted photos on silverdaddies as the guys would be lining up for me, he was very happy with what he saw lol. However I said to him, I am closeted bi like him, so naturally with that comes the difficulty of meeting a compatible older guy.
 
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I am curious about this and maybe some in here could tell me, but if youre only interested in a purely physical relationship without any emotional involvement, generally speaking who would be better partner to be with? A Bi guy or gay guy?
 

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I am curious about this and maybe some in here could tell me, but if youre only interested in a purely physical relationship without any emotional involvement, generally speaking who would be better partner to be with? A Bi guy or gay guy?
I think a bi guy would be better. No attachment , just physical
 

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I am curious about this and maybe some in here could tell me, but if youre only interested in a purely physical relationship without any emotional involvement, generally speaking who would be better partner to be with? A Bi guy or gay guy?
Either would work. Just communicate boundaries beforehand and be prepared to dip if it starts going south. Gay men are little more fem, while bi guys are a little more masc overall, so that's really the biggest difference between the two that I've percieved so far. I find chemistry and sexual compatibility to be best with other bi/pan people, but your mileage may vary. Bi/pan people are pretty fun, honestly.
 
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I've never been able to host at home, so have relied on the other party being able to, or using a neutral location. Fortunately, there seems to be plenty of guys out there happy to accommodate for a few hours of fun.
Lucky to have some regulars who can host, but I also host for hj and bj in my F150, usually in large parking lots
 
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Either would work. Just communicate boundaries beforehand and be prepared to dip if it starts going south. Gay men are little more fem, while bi guys are a little more masc overall, so that's really the biggest difference between the two that I've percieved so far. I find chemistry and sexual compatibility to be best with other bi/pan people, but your mileage may vary. Bi/pan people are pretty fun, honestly.
Definitely in my limited experience, the bi guys have been much older, larger taller strong, dominant, masculine Alpha tops, which is fortunate as that is what I like and want. Having that as the foundation has led to have good sexual compatibility without any issues or dramas. Ive only been with 3 guys, the first ended when I moved interstate for college, the 2nd ended because he wanted a deeper emotional relationship, which I could not give and the third guy, I am currently with, is happy and satisfied with our arrangement as I am too.
 

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Lucky to have some regulars who can host, but I also host for hj and bj in my F150, usually in large parking lots
My fucubuddy always hosts, because I live with 3 housemates and given we are both bi closeted, it makes hosting impossible. Not to mention, the inevitable question would be asked, why are you alone in the bedroom with a man his late 60s, when youre in your 20s lol.
 

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I know that many here have regulars they've hooked up. For those here that actively pursing new playdates... How are you looking/meeting?

Yes there are the classic "out in the field" real connections... But for many of us it starts online. So what tools are you using?
For me it's (living in a suburb of LA:

Adam4Adam, Silverdaddies, Sniffies, and sometimes even here.

How about y'all?

Man your post just reminded me of my days hunting on ManJam and Orkut and what was that other site....Jocksomething?
Damn I'm old.

I get my pick of the perfect twink/twunk/otter bottoms on social media man, Instagram/FB/Snap....i don't even hunt, they add/connect and want a daddy to take care of their needs. I obliged, with pleasure....repeatedly and vigorously.
 

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I met my fuckbuddy from silverdaddies a few years ago. We were both in exactly your situation being closeted bi. In fact he was only really searching for someone around his age and was more than surprised and shocked when I showed a lot of interest, which he found flattering.

We both took things "slow" over the course of a month in the sense that we just wanted to make sure we were both on the same page of what we wanted and didnt want, likes, dislikes and to make sure we were both comfortable with the potential of an ongoing arrangement. We didnt even exchange photos, which looking back probably made things easier and safe for both of us. When the day finally arrived when we would meet up face to face, he arranged for us to meet up for coffee. We were both nervous, however I was especially quiet and shy which I told him beforehand just being out in public. Not to mention the huge age difference so it was natural that I was this way. He fortuantely led the conversation and we chatted for about 20-30mins. I think looking back the coffee date, was more about just making 100% sure we were both "real" and would be comfortable to hook up in the future. He ended the "coffee date" by saying that he would like to invite me over to his place in a few days time when he was free and the words "I would really love that" could not come out quicker out of my mouth. lol

Not surprising the email exchange post coffee date, got very hot as we both were lot more open and had a face and body to connect with. I made especially sure to convey to him, I was very attracted to him and would enjoy everything he wanted to do. Our first hook up was really good, a bit nerves a bit of fumbling, but after a few hookups, we really got into an enjoyable groove and connected. He was very kind and sweet to me, made me feel really comfortable and safe that first time, which I told him laid the foundations of a wonderful ongoing fuckbuddy relationship.
May I ask, how old are you guys?
 
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May I ask, how old are you guys?

Oh sorry, I didn’t get to your other post… 20s & 60s.
Our age gap has never been an issue for us sexually nor have I considered or wanted someone younger or my age. We have a great compatibility, if anything the age difference has made the sex more enjoyable from a taboo nature. He wasnt even looking at all for someone my age, probably if not for me giving him attention and making him feel flattered, we would never have hooked up. His main concern about the age gap, was that I may not be interested and or lose interest, but 3 years later, we are still fucking and enjoying it. If anything, the sex has got better as we are now in a good groove, understand each other and our rhythms.
 
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