How To Fix My Sexual Cravings Without Cheating On My Partner?

[8354111]

I'm 20 and I have a partner. I discovered a few years ago that I like being a slave or a master and that I'm into a bit of CBT, BDSM you know. I know my partner doesn't feel the same way about it. I used to go on omegle for example and find slaves or masters. I also like to do challenges or games of dares. I especially like pain sometimes. Now that I have a partner I feel like I can't do that anymore, but I still crave it. I also love sending dick pics to other guys but I also can't do it anymore because I know my partner considers it cheating. How do I fix this? I really want to do those things again, but I don't wanna lose my partner.

P.S. Feel free to DM me if you want to have a longer conversation about this!

 

[7815281]

As I see it, you have the following options:

1) Talk to your partner about this (assuming you haven't already). Tell him the things you like. Ask him if there is anything within this area, no matter how small, that he would be willing to experiment with. If you ever watch porn together, find a video with some lighter stuff in this area you can watch together. It may not ever be as much as you want, but at least it would be something.

2) Decide if this is an area of your sex life you can live without. If you can live without it, then stay with your partner.

3) If it's not an area of your sex life you can live without, then you have two choices: First, break up with your partner and find a partner that is into some, or all, of the same sexual stuff you are; Second, cheat on your partner by exploring this side of you with either people online or in person and hope he never finds out.

I tend to be a little blunt when giving advice like this, so my apologies in advance if I was too blunt. And I wish you the best of luck.

 

[8354111]

Thank you!

 

[dotdotdot]

You need to talk to him and reassure him that this isn't because tou don't love him but it's something that you like and would like to introduce into your relationship. I'm very open with my partner about thia sort of thing (abeit it's not the same situation) and it's very healthy. Communication is key

And if he's not willing to listen or understand then he might not feel as strongly towards you as you to him

 

[8354111]

Thanks, this is good advice!

 

[marriedasian]

it really comes down to weighing between your relationship and your sexual antics. if your partner is dead-set on not having anything to do with your sexual preferences then you have to decide if that is someone you can continue to live with. you said you don't want to lose your partner but if your partner is not into the same kinks as you then you may be heading down a path that will only yield negative results in the mid- to long-term.

relationships are about compromise and sacrifices especially when both partners have different and/or opposing views on life.

 

[joshuaamitai]

one can not maintain a mariage or relation , when sexuall desires r not tuned to the same interest
it will fail later on in life, sexuall desires change but also grow .
hope u find ur way

 

[cherryboom66]

Pro tip - date people who actually share your passions.... you’re screwed.

 

[elklindoxxx]

From how you are explaining it...you are probably not compatible with your partner. So find someone else who is more suitable for what you need.

At 20....there's lots of fish in the sea.

 

[cherryboom66]

it really comes down to weighing between your relationship and your sexual antics. if your partner is dead-set on not having anything to do with your sexual preferences then you have to decide if that is someone you can continue to live with. you said you don't want to lose your partner but if your partner is not into the same kinks as you then you may be heading down a path that will only yield negative results in the mid- to long-term.

relationships are about compromise and sacrifices especially when both partners have different and/or opposing views on life.

Wow, I agree with you on something! Haha