how to flirt

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  1. dolfette

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    seems there's a need for a how to thread on here.

    some people just don't know how,
    so post your best flirting tips.
     
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    I would, but really, I have to show you.

    So, it's probably best if you just come on over.
     
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    the most important thing before you flirt, is judging whether is attracted to you.

    If i'm going to try to flirt with a girl, i'm going to start it off with a eye contact, looking the girl down and then back up (the check out) and smiling. This tells the girl that i've taken notice of her, have "checked her out" and i like what she has to offer. (this is done very quickly ... if it takes too long it can just be plain creepy) After this, there will be a response. And the key to this next step, is knowing if she is interested in you by reading the body language, facial expressions, and reading the eyes too.( Heck if you're close enough (and it's not too dark) u can check the pupils for a response to your advance.... )
     
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    always ALWAYS slap a girl's ass before you talk to her.

    if she responds negatively, her face comes second.
     
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    be polite.
    self depreciating humour is better than teasing and joking at her expense, which just isn't attractive or funny.
    acting like she's a dead cert is pushy and insulting.
     
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    o_0 lol ... i've slapped a random girls ass before 2 years ago in a crowded bar. I assumed the girl next to me was the girl i was with. Then when i looked over it was a random girl... i apologized GREATLY, she said it was ok, and winked.... never told the girl i was with at the time...
     
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    haha! that's a good story. you have a lot of those.
     
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    in all seriousness...be yourself. the women will come naturally, because the type of woman attracted to you as a person will naturally gravitate.

    i can't stand when i know a man is trying too hard. it's the biggest turn off.

    also, try being sincere.
     
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    i think... a piercing stare works best. of course, good looks are a plus.
     
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    Serious question, do guys actually do this? Does this work? I've never understood the art of eye contact in terms of flirting.
     
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    :lmao:

    try-hards fail-hard, be yourself
     
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    Or,

    one can just be natural, go with your instincts, be charming, be aware as to the signals the flirted is sending, and treat the other person as a peer rather than a piece of meat. And above all, no acting from preconceived notions or a script, etc.
     
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    i guess i need to clarify ...

    thats how i help judge if a girl is interested in me physically... if the girl shows interest... i go over to the girl. From there i'm completely myself. I really try to act like a perfect gentleman as well ... don't mistake my first 'move' as how i try to flirt with a girl i just met. None of this applies to a case where you've already none the person too.
     
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    The key to knowing how to flirt is knowing that true flirting does not have to lead to getting laid, but taking a social situation to a highly charged level where two people connect and create the spark that could lead to something more... or just making the banal magical.
     
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    Quite!
     
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    :) agree to the fullest.
     
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    just be yourself and don't think of it as flirting. i really don't like it when people try too hard to get people to like them. it comes off as kind of corny imo. i really like people who just know how to be themselves. If you build up the situation into "flirting" then you will probably get all nervous and come off as trying too hard. just be yourself work on talking to strangers for no reason, it doesn't even have to be a girl, just anyone you come in contact with.
     
  19. dolfette

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    pardon me but this is bullshit.

    for those who can do this naturally, great.
    but so many people just can't talk to the opposite sex, or when they do cause offense.
    the ways of conveying interest with body language may be completely instinctual to 90% of people, but the rest are screwed.
    i have a lots of aspergers traits and i'm a fantastic flirt...but i'm only fantastic at it because i studied, figured out the rules and implemented them. that's how people with aspergers have to deal with socialising.

    some people are wonderful when you know them, great with their friends once they're used to them, but utterly inept at communicating with strangers.

    some people have no instincts. or have the wrong instincts.
    to them that tired old cliché of ''just be yourself'' is as much good as telling a cripple to ''just use your legs''. waiting for eye contact and a smile only seems obvious to you because it's obvious to you.

    and if more men were aware of flirt body language in women, fewer men would crash & burn after approaching women who just aren't interested...and fewer women feeling pestered or intimidated by poor approaches.
     
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    Holy fucking christ, somebody [who has some pull] actually understands what the fuck we've been trying to say all this time.
     
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