**I have a relationship issue and would like some advice of this lovely community, if you're not up for reading about some simple issues, please stop reading here! Thanks!***
I just broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years after a nasty drunken argument. She is currently studying her masters while I am looking for work. We had an amazing relationship and we love each other a lot but after one very nasty argument she decided that she didn't need a boyfriend during her studies. I was very drunk and said a lot of nasty things I would not normally say, though she says she's past that.
When I asked her if she could give it a try again, she promised me that she will try again in the future but after she's over come the stress of her studies.
The argument we had was a one off, we are in a relatively long distance relationship due to her studies. We used to study at the same university before so we spent a lot of time together before studying her masters. We previously talked about getting married and moving in together etc.
We met up afterwards and we had an amazing time together, it showed that the fire was still there and we are a great couple, however she still doesn't want a boyfriend. She has a lot of exams coming up so she is constantly working hard and studying, so she said she wants to focus on her career 100% without all the stress that a relationship brings.
We still talk on the phone once a day to have a chat which lasts about 30minutes mimimum but it's about general things. The relationship talk makes her sick as she says she is not feeliing it. Normally when I text her, it takes her long to reply and when she does she only texts back a few words or something.
I started off crying with suicidal thoughts but now I'm starting to feel better but the hurt seems like it's not gonna go away. I still anxiously wait for her text messages but it never happens, I usually call her at the end of the day and we talk.
I truly beleive this is not the end of this chapter but I need to stop being hurt because my depression over this is pushing her away but I can't help but talk to her. I'm thinking about learning how to play an instrument or language. I tried to pick up new sports but it doesn't distract me at all.
So my question to you lovely people is basically, how do I feel better about this break up? She promised she will give it a try again but it might be some time (maybe until she finishes studies). How can I stop the need to keep checking her facebook to see if shes onine or anxiously wait till she contacts me? What can I do to make her miss me the way I miss her? Or is it even worth waiting on her even though she promised me she'd give it a try?
(I am currently unemployed but starting a course for career qualifications soon. So I have a lot of free time.)
And by the way, I am not interested in going clubbing or meeting other girls. I'm certain we are meant to be together. Nothing makes me happier than to think of a future with her.
I just broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years after a nasty drunken argument. She is currently studying her masters while I am looking for work. We had an amazing relationship and we love each other a lot but after one very nasty argument she decided that she didn't need a boyfriend during her studies. I was very drunk and said a lot of nasty things I would not normally say, though she says she's past that.
When I asked her if she could give it a try again, she promised me that she will try again in the future but after she's over come the stress of her studies.
The argument we had was a one off, we are in a relatively long distance relationship due to her studies. We used to study at the same university before so we spent a lot of time together before studying her masters. We previously talked about getting married and moving in together etc.
We met up afterwards and we had an amazing time together, it showed that the fire was still there and we are a great couple, however she still doesn't want a boyfriend. She has a lot of exams coming up so she is constantly working hard and studying, so she said she wants to focus on her career 100% without all the stress that a relationship brings.
We still talk on the phone once a day to have a chat which lasts about 30minutes mimimum but it's about general things. The relationship talk makes her sick as she says she is not feeliing it. Normally when I text her, it takes her long to reply and when she does she only texts back a few words or something.
I started off crying with suicidal thoughts but now I'm starting to feel better but the hurt seems like it's not gonna go away. I still anxiously wait for her text messages but it never happens, I usually call her at the end of the day and we talk.
I truly beleive this is not the end of this chapter but I need to stop being hurt because my depression over this is pushing her away but I can't help but talk to her. I'm thinking about learning how to play an instrument or language. I tried to pick up new sports but it doesn't distract me at all.
So my question to you lovely people is basically, how do I feel better about this break up? She promised she will give it a try again but it might be some time (maybe until she finishes studies). How can I stop the need to keep checking her facebook to see if shes onine or anxiously wait till she contacts me? What can I do to make her miss me the way I miss her? Or is it even worth waiting on her even though she promised me she'd give it a try?
(I am currently unemployed but starting a course for career qualifications soon. So I have a lot of free time.)
And by the way, I am not interested in going clubbing or meeting other girls. I'm certain we are meant to be together. Nothing makes me happier than to think of a future with her.