How To Get Over Being Small

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  1. DeclanBrent

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    To all 'small' men (roughly 5in or below)
    How do you deal with the humiliation heaped on those classed as 'small'? Whether that's by family, friends or past girlfriends?
    I've had plenty of humiliation, particularly from male friends who have seen me in the showerr after sport events, or at the urinal or when sharing rooms on holidays away with my group of male friends. A couple of instances where I've slept with women connected to my circle of friends where it's got out and led to lots of sly comments and small dick references,
    I find it incredibly hard to deal with and even sought therapy to help me overcome - to no avail.
    Also, I refuse to be cuckolded or enjoy humiliation. Just wanting to hear from guys who've had the same experiences as the above, been deeply affected it, but have worked through it and come to accept yourself.
    Thanks
     
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    Oh good Lord. Not another SPH thread.
     
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    Did you not read the part about 'I don't enjoy humiliation?'
    Get your sight tested, dickhead
     
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    Okay we'll play it your way. Let's let the thread go and see what it degenerates into.
     
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    Sounds good to me. A genuine question, by the way, whether you believe it or not.
     
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    Perhaps include a pic or two in your profile. I agree this forum has seen way too many SPH threads that were only instigated to arouse the OP with the SPH issues. But you are truly asking about how to handle the confidence (for lack of a better word). That is a fair question. I'm 6" fully hard. But I'm just 3" soft. Not porn star material. I did learn that most men and women in reality don't care. It's the full experience that makes it. If you can learn good orgasm control, you will impress way more than cock size will. I rarely dated within my friend circle. I thought I was not the "stud" that some of the others in the group were. That allowed me go off in a more low pressure environment and have good sex. Any thoughts?
     
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    @WilliamG Thanks. Yeah, loads of thoughts.
    First, I don't fancy placing a pic of myself or my dic on this site. Definitely not the two together, and even not just my dick as it's the part of my body I hate the most.
    Second, I understand all the suspicion regarding SPH, but trust me, if that's what I wanted, I'd go to a porn site or a cuckold site. I'm here with a genuine heartfelt question because my fragile male ego finds humiliation of my masculinity very depressing.
    Third, I agree about the 'reality' thing - most girlfriends I've been with laughed off my insecurities. I never got the impression a girl wanted to dump me because of my size.
    Fourth, I suffer from delayed ejaculation and suspect this may have helped me as most women i have been with have orgasmed due to me being able to last for a very long time.
    Fifth, trust me I've never regarded myself as a stud, and have always been wary of relationships that connect back to friends - but two have, and I suffered for that. I truly struggle to deal with the fact that friends and ex girlfriends can be so cruel about size and it has hammered my confidence and masculinity.
     
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    Try not to conflate your penis with the entirety of your masculinity. There's so much more to it than that and there's a lot more worth to a man than penis size. It's not even the only penile variable out there, there are some beautiful and ugly dicks out there in a range of sizes. Case in point with the big v small dick, here are two well known cases:

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    The first guy has a big dick, the second guy has a small dick. 99.9999% of the gay/bi male and straight/bi female groups are gonna go for the second option. It's about the overall package not a single body part.

    My main advice would be, focus on looking as good as you can and be as active as you can. And develop your confidence as much as you can. The main thing is don't let the insecurity get in the way of good sex. Personally, I'm large, but I remember dating one guy who had a small cock (more below average on girth than length), who had gorgeous eyes, gymnast's body and was kind and intelligent. The insecurity about his penis size (and constant mental comparisons) is what ruined the sexual experience, despite my telling him repeatedly that I didn't care.
     
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    I always try to look past a persons limitations, if that person is born / accidentally developed an affliction. I know many short people with hott GF / wives and great jobs, who worked past their born limitations, in a society where people are 3-8 inches taller than them People who are born with defects; or had an accident that causes the loss a limb ( arm - leg ) , some do give up ; but many lead as normal a life as they can. GF / Wives children Etc.

    When I read yet another my 5 inch penis makes it hard to cope posting, I think as always what if these guys had real afflictions, that existed 24 / 7 ? Your penis is covered 97% of the time, so you can lead a relatively normal life 97% of the time, count yourself as blessed. Blind people are blind 24/ 7.

    Solutions"

    When you go to the bathroom use a stall, no one can see you. If you use a urinal, never use one next to someone. At sporting events, shower and get dressed. If someone is sneaking a peek, here is what you do. Ask are you Gay ??? A straight / Str8t / curious / voyeur guy will 99% of the time even if he is looking will zip up and exit ASAP. If the person looking is Gay; and if you ask the question with an attitude, he will immediately zip up and move along, as he has no way of knowing if you are about to start swinging. ( swinging with your hands, not sexually )

    Your women problem, first thing increase your oral game to to 10+. Second thing stop dating friends and friends of friends Third, learn to use what you have to the best of your ability

    I have alway said small guys need their own support group, something patterned after AA.
    Hi my name is Jeff and I have a small penis
     
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    newest forum added to LPSG main page :cool:

    "Ask Ronin001" or " As Explained by the Ronin001"
     
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    There is no real getting over it. I have been using locker rooms for over 40 years. Zero privacy in most. In my college dorm in the 80's most guys walked the halls to the shower nude rather than take clothing. Yeah soft I'm hung like a hamster but I have to live with it just like if I had any other smaller than most body part. I don't try to hide it, it is only shameful if you allow it to be.
     
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    Ha Ha Inkiee, Interesting though it may be, I am pretty sure many members would not like my candid answers.

    Trust me Dear Abby, I am not :cool:

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    THIS

    Anyone who mocks the size of your dick has done you a favour by announcing loud and clear that they are no longer deserving of your attention.
     
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    The average guy is good for a minute or two of penetrative sex max. Learn to control your nut and partners will appreciate that a whole lot more than some eye candy that performs like the "average guy."
     
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    Thanks guys for all the advice and moral support.
    I guess I have struggled because of a combination of it being ridiculed by people I like/respect (straight male friends are the worst) and a stubborn belief that women are very judgmental of it (even though no woman I've slept with has been deregotory to my face).
    Trust me, I've done my best to minimise people seeing me naked but it's virtually impossible to avoid in male friendship circles and work situations where there are sport activities/urinals/obligatory shared hotel rooms for work. and once it's out there, it's out - and I know it's sonething people love to ridicule because I've experienced it.
    I get that it's a petty problem and that it is nothing compared to what a blind person would suffer from, for instance.
    Just finding it hard to get past. The whole thing was triggered years ago when a friend saw it at the office urinal and said'well at least you can use your tongue' and then girls in the office started making references. felt like a freak for something I can't control.
     
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    Honestly, if people are pulling that shit, throw it right the fuck back in their faces. "Why the fuck are you inspecting my junk?" is a good start.

    - today's Life Advice From A Loudmouth Queer
     
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    Candid? No. Wise, yes.

     
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    A minute or two? Is that really so @mako shark
     
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    Yep, I'll have some of that attitude.
     
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