How to get over someone...

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by HairyTXdude, Jan 17, 2009.

  1. HairyTXdude

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    when you just can't stop talking to him or can find someone else/fuck someone else...i've been trying for 6 almost 7 months....any advice?
     
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    Unfortunately, theres no magic cure, it just takes time. That and sometimes meeting someone new . Im still gettin over my ex, Just go out, dont sit at home, meet new people, work out and it will start to get easier as time goes on
     
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    ...Does it make a difference if your don't wanna get over him...your just have/need too?
     
  4. ManlyBanisters

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    Yes - it does.

    Why don't you want to get over him? Do you think it isn't over?
     
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    i've written it before around here and i'll write it again. the only cure for a heartbreak is
    another heartbreak. at your age and with your looks it shouldn't be that difficult, unless
    you're in a really small town and the choices are nonexistent.
     
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    cause i love him and still want to be with him...
     
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    Explain?
     
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    Go To Therapy! Seriously, it is neither healthy nor logical for you to mourn your relationship this strongly 7 months later. Especially since you know he has moved onward.
     
  9. ManlyBanisters

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    Yes - but you seem fairly certain, from the jist of this thread, that he is finished with you. therefore surely the goal should be to get to a stage where you accept you are not going to be with him. Once you can accept that you start being open to other relationships, which you probably aren't at the moment.
     
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    real love is intense. the only way to get over real love is for real love to rear it's ugly head once again. they've written blues songs about heartbreak. you are not alone.
     
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    You have to break off all contact with him...

    You're only hurting yourself more by trying to hold on to something that isn't there...

    He doesn't want to be with you anymore...

    Realize that...

    And then realize that you deserve to be with someone who DOES want you and the only way for that to happen is for you to free yourself...physically...and then emotionally...
     
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    I find that the best way to get over someone is to get over somebody else...
     
  13. HairyTXdude

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    I can't do that he needs someone in his life that really cares about him. his family is cruel to him, his friends are apathetic even his so called boyfriend doesn't seem to care. (and no im not jealous of his boyfriend, cause i know some of you will think that, i want him to truly be happy no matter what, even if that means that i am not the one for him) I don't have conversations with my other friends like i do with him, we just dont click like i do with him and i tried going three months without talking to him...nothing happened except the death of my brain cells.
     
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    Aint got the money...
     
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    Did you do what I suggested? If so, what was the result? If not, why?
     
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    would you please refresh my mind on what i was suppose to do. then i can tell you if i did it or not. :tongue:
     
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    I know exactly where you are at TXdude - I've been there more than once. Really killer_b's advice is best but very, very hard to follow. The other thing you can do it let life take its course. See, he may need you as a friend, but he doesn't love you the way you love him and sooner or later he will move on. The end result is the same as cutting him out of your life, except this way is more drawn out and painful... but easier to do because it is passive. Cutting him off is active. Not what you want to hear, I guess, but it is the truth.

    I think the answer is in your 'destined to be single' thread...
     
  18. HairyTXdude

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    Ya i know he will, almost all my friends "move on", but i guess thats kinda my life purpose, im here when they need me then they all "move on"...

    oh...hmm must go look then...
     
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    Even if it means getting a part-time job, go to therapy.
     
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    Actually I was referring to this one:

     
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