How to have anal with someone thick

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Hey guys, I'm quite new to anal and would like some advice on having anal with someone with a thick penis. My boyfriend has about a 6.5 inch girth and I feel like I am tighter than average.

Me and my boyfriend have tried multiple times with fingering and all but to me it feels a bit uncomfortable (it feels like I have to use the bathroom and I'm afraid of it actually happening on him). Most of the time when we try, I can't even let his head in. The times we did have anal was with alcohol and quite long fingering. The other times involved a bit of bleeding and turned him off but it didn't hurt for me. Anyone have any tips to reduce the fingering time? I have been thinking of getting a dildo but I don't know where to keep it safely.
 

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Hey man, If you are afraid of shitting on him I guess it means you are afraid you are not properly ready? I sometimes bottom and it can only be nice if I am truly 100% confident that no shitshow is going to happen. Also with my bf we don't use condom anymore and that is a real game changer.

This page has particularly helped me: How to Clean Your Ass Before Anal Sex

Just do it properly, be aroused and everything should be good :)
 

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You mention that alcohol has helped and that is an indicator that anxiety about performing could be your main issue. We all perform better when relaxed and happy. If you have thoughts in the back of your mind that things will go wrong then they generally will. Rather than trying a dildo, try the humble butt plug. They are smooth and much easier to insert, especially with plenty of lube. Make inserting it part of your foreplay with your guy. Once it's in, leave it a while, maybe enjoy each other orally. When it really gets heated and he gets close to fucking you just slide out the plug. You should find yourself much more relaxed and ready to accept him.
 

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Few people are loose. There's a reason anal sphincter muscles naturally keep the gate tightly closed. Fingering alone isn't enough.

I trained/stretched my butt with S/M/L butt plugs + a LOT of lube daily for two weeks before I was ready to take an average sized cock. Took a month to train to take a thick one.

Over the years several bottoms who didn't have access to toys & lube told me they trained originally with cucumbers and lotions or vaseline! :emoji_cucumber:

(In case you didn't know this) the way to relax your anus is to push like you're defecating. What allows poop out allows fingers, toys or cock in. It gets easier with practice.:)
 

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Once it's in, leave it a while, maybe enjoy each other orally. When it really gets heated and he gets close to fucking you just slide out the plug. You should find yourself much more relaxed and ready to accept him.

^This. Leave it in for a while when training yourself solo and during foreplay. Excellent advice. :emoji_sunglasses:
 

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Thanks for all the advice guys. I do have a bit of anxiety because I always feel bad if we can't have sex and I think that gets to me next time when we try again.

Will the feeling of needing to poop ever go away? Maybe I'll try leaving a plug in when playing solo to get more comfortable
 
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Thanks for all the advice guys. I do have a bit of anxiety because I always feel bad if we can't have sex and I think that gets to me next time when we try again.

Will the feeling of needing to poop ever go away? Maybe I'll try leaving a plug in when playing solo to get more comfortable
It means you don’t like getting fucked. You asked your body and it said no.
 
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Will the feeling of needing to poop ever go away? Maybe I'll try leaving a plug in when playing solo to get more comfortable

Yes. It did for me the longer I left butt plugs or a dildo inside. That's part of what training was about--not just learning to relax, open and stretch my hole.

It's a natural reflex to feel like you have to poop when your rectum is full.

If you never get used to it, could mean penetration isn't for you.

BTW I didn't get any pleasure from anal play/penetration until I was 40. It wasn't for lack of trying, It just wasn't for me when I was young. I assumed it never would be. I don't know why my body changed two decades later. Being a top I wasn't worried. The change was a pleasant surprise. :cool:

Some people never get used to it or like it. That's okay too. It's your body. Your call.
 
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Sometimes we have to be realistic. When I'm bottoming I've turned down cocks that are too thick and capable of causing serious damage Yet I know how to relax and I can easily take a good-sized butt plug. But there are still danger zones with some cocks that cause me to say no.
And when I top, which is more often, I never take offence if a dude turns me down — even though I'm not that thick in my opinion, just long
 
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Sometimes we have to be realistic. When I'm bottoming I've turned down cocks that are too thick and capable of causing serious damage ....
Any that you have to turn down you can always send my way! :joy::p
 

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Learn how to control- relax your sphincters- yes you have more than one deeper inside. If you have issues about cleaning out don’t eat (fast) so there’s nothing up farther inside. Push out like you’re on the toilet - that’s the relaxing feeling. Practice on a dildo or butt plug. Learn how it feels. If you want to treat your top right learn how to tighten once his dick is in ;-)
 
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I have a buddy with 6.5 inches of girth. I was scared to even try him for a long time, but I wanted him so bad. Sometimes I think wanting it so bad somehow makes it easier but of course, not sure. lol. Poppers will do the trick though, if you are into poppers and feel safe using them. I use them with my buddy and it is totally indescribable how good it feels. As long as my sphincter is lubed well and he knows how to go in by teasing it a few times before going in, it is all well. As you know I guess, poppers dilates the sphincter muscle of the rectum and makes it quite easy.

I haven't been the same since I took his massive girth. It is wonderful.
 

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Buy a dildo you can handle and also one that's a bit bigger. Fuck yourself with the comfortable one for a while and then try the bigger one, jerk off and cum. Give yourself a few days to recover and any soreness is gone completely. Then do it again. Repeat that for as long as it takes to take the bigger one comfortably. Then buy a new dildo that's even thicker. Repeat process. Eventually you'll work up to your bf's size. Always start the session with the smallest one and work up, don't try to start with the fatty. The same thing applies to your bf's dick. Work up to it with a dildo before he sticks it in.
You may not even need to work up to 6.5 dildo. Real dicks are easier to take.
Take the time to train your butt to stretch and the muscles to loosen on command. It could take a few months but don't rush it. Don't try to take your bf's dick again until you think you're ready. Anal fissures SUCK and can take forever to heal. If you take the time now and put the work in you'll be riding him like a pro and loving it. Try to rush it and it may take 10 times longer to adjust and you may not ever like it.
 
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