How to help wifey be better in the bedroom.

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I've been married over 10 years and sex with my wife is great. I just wish she'd be more confident, when she's on top or taking control. I basically do it all 99% of the time. We've discussed it before, so she knows that there's room for improvement. My wife is 100% not into porn or anything that shows nudity, so I wouldn't be able to use any applicable examples that can show her how to ride me better.

Do any of you have any tips? If you feel your "on top" skills are great, how did you get to that point? She does have weak legs, which we've been working on in the gym lol.
 
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Tell her what she does wrong. That's what my guy did/does and I'm the best fuckin lay of his life. I'm absolutely positive of that.

No one will fuck him like I do, because he tells me what he wants/needs..

He needs it? He gets it.
 

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Her genuine interest in being on top/in control.

"Knowing there is room for improvement"

Like, does she critique your dick game?
I mean......yes.....she does. If she wants me to do things different.....examples - not be as rough, being too gentle, scratching her insides when fingering, if it didn't last as long as she wants, if I'm just pounding away and not connecting. These are all things we've talked about along the years to get to the point of knowing what your partner likes. You're quoting the improvement line as if it's a bad thing. There's always room for improvement. I've done my own research too in lasting longer, better positions, different techniques, etc.

We've been together in total for almost 20 years (dating + marriage) and we communicate about our sex life. She does have genuine interest in getting better, but sort of gives up when in the actual act of trying to get better. This isn't a slight to her at all and as I said sex still feels great. I'm just trying to get some tips from women, since I'm not a woman, to see if it would make things easier for her and give us better results.
 

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Tell her what she does wrong. That's what my guy did/does and I'm the best fuckin lay of his life. I'm absolutely positive of that.

No one will fuck him like I do, because he tells me what he wants/needs..

He needs it? He gets it.
I tell her what I like and she does as well. I think it's more of the technical aspect of it. For example, when she used to give me the occasional hand job, she used to squeeze my dick too hard and just go one fast speed the whole time. We also found that using oil was 1,000 times better than using lotion. So, once she adjusted her technique, it became amazing.
 

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Distractions in the house? Kids? Pets?

Do you give adequate time for sexual intimacy? Not just a before bedtime or early morning thing. Weak legs or tired body?

The same old same old is a surefire sex killer. "Get 'er done," is not the goal.

Afternoon delight is probably perfect. Nobody's too tired or too busy.

How do you get in the mood? How does she?

I'm telling you nothing get's me hotter than to see him cleaning the kitchen. Well, ok, some other things do too, but that's a surefire starter.

Heck, just being together in the kitchen can start things with me. He loves to touch me, and I love him touching me.

Remember, sexual intimacy is much more than sex, and starts long before you get undressed. Make love to her every day, and sometimes have sex.
 
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Distractions in the house? Kids? Pets?

Do you give adequate time for sexual intimacy? Not just a before bedtime or early morning thing. Weak legs or tired body?

The same old same old is a surefire sex killer. "Get 'er done," is not the goal.

Afternoon delight is probably perfect. Nobody's too tired or too busy.

How do you get in the mood? How does she?

I'm telling you nothing get's me hotter than to see him cleaning the kitchen. Well, ok, some other things do too, but that's a surefire starter.

Heck, just being together in the kitchen can start things with me. He loves to touch me, and I love him touching me.

Remember, sexual intimacy is much more than sex, and starts long before you get undressed. Make love to her every day, and sometimes have sex.
All great advice! Lol @ the cleaning the kitchen. We don't have kids yet, unfortunately (been trying for a while), so we definitely make time for intimacy.....foreplay, massages, cuddling, etc. This is specifically related to technique.
 
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