i'm fairly young, and i've never hooked up before.
just a quick peck on the lips..
lets say i was with this girl at the park with a few friends..
how do i approach hooking up with this girl?
and wat are the steps in doing so.?
freeesh,
I might be too old to know the exact meaning of "hook up". But let me say that nothing helps form a deep and trusting relationship more quickly than being a world class listener. I know this might sound lightweight, but it is profound when it comes to growing relationships.
If you find yourself alone with a girl who you would like to form a relationship of any sort, start getting her to talk about herself. (This works for men, too). If she is in school start asking about her scholastic interests. What is your favorite subject? What are you majoring in? What is your best subject? And from each answer, ask more questions and be as interested as you can be. I don't mean fake it as much as just put everything else out of your mind and focus on her answers.
For a brief moment in time, work to find this person to be the most interesting creature in the world. Its not as hard as it sounds, but it is something we almost always get wrong. What I am talking about is a hugely valuable skill that everyone should develop, because most of us are too busy wanting to tell our own story.
If you do this well, you will be well on your way of forming a meaningful and trusting relationship with her whether you and she are a couple or just really good friends and confidantes. Whatever happens after that, is frosting on the cake.
As a disclaimer, I am not suggesting that you fake all of this. But it does take conscious effort to overcome our own shit long enough to be truly interested in someone else. So rather than faking, I meant to suggest that you should be practicing it.
