How to increase glans sensitivity?

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  1. mattflanders

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    I'm looking for a way to increase the sensitivity of my glans because I literally last for hours. And it's starting to worry me that I can't cum unless it's my hand. And I'm worrying about the effect this all has on my relationship, since he's only been able to bring me to orgasm once.

    I think I lost a lot of sensitivity due to the fact that my parents started retracting my foreskin at a very early age because my dad once had phimosis and they were scared I'd get it too. So bath time was hell for me! And my foreskin doesn't even cover half of my glans now, unless I pull it up. (a bit painful)

    Anyways, does anyone know if there is anything I can do to solve this?
     
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    Sorry to hear about your situation. I'm not a doctor but this is what I use to help regain sensitivity. I'm not connected in any way to this site other than I ordered the product. You can also search NORM. Anyway I hope this helps.

    foreskin restore
     
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    After looking at your pics it seems you're glans have sufficient cover. I'm not sure what would help. A visit to the doctor?
     
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    you've got a great cock - good luck with your situation.
     
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    Hey, misschien moet je een fleshlight kopen, eens je penis met iets anders stimuleren dan met je hand. Heb ik ook schrik voor dat wanneer ik zou vrijen, ik niet zou komen omdat ik altijd ruk en dat gewoon ben. Zoek een andere stimulatie voor je eikel zou ik zeggen en zeg het tegen je vriend, dat is niet iets om je voor te schamen en misschien helpt hem je ook wel. Misschien wilt hem je wel pijpen en extra aandacht besteden aan de eikel en pisgaatje, zou kunnen helpen. Succes!
     
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    I trust that by now you may have resolved the situation. If not, try going with out manual stimulation (jacking off) and get into a sexual routine. You will probably find out that because you may have jacked off a good part of your life that you need to retrain your stimulators.

    Practice makes perfect and good fortune to trying new procedures.
     
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    Maybe try a moisurising or emolient cream, something simple and unscented like E45.
     
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    Yes, you certainly have a longer foreskin than I have (C 8 as against C4 or so ?), but I see that the head doesn't look particularly moist, which can be the case if you have a loose foreskin (or if you are taking antihistamines, there was the thread about that I'll try to find).

    I tend to come too quickly... or at least more quickly than I often want to. So I wouldn't mind being able to last for hours, as you can!
     
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    There's nothing wrong with you! Your cock is perfect and if you need to help yourself to get the final satisfaction it's allright, because we are all different. As long as you two have fun, what's the matter?
     
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    i'm having a similar problem, i think. i just started dating someone but can't cum during sex. i get really close during the first 15 minutes or so but could probably climax if i wanted to then, but after a while, i just become less sensitive. what's going on here? this is my first relationship in a long time, and i masturbated frequently beforehand, so i know it will take some time getting used to a different kind of sensation. but is there anything else i can do to speed this process along? (i haven't jacked off since--major blue balls going on.) or am i missing other possible reasons that anyone can *diagnose*?
     
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    Same situation for me - through visuals and masturbation I can cum as quickly as I want to. With my partner though I don't get there without my own hand to the rescue. I had many hangups about my sexuality through my teens and 20's and only became sexually active late-20's. So I figure all the years spent masturbating have now made me accustomed only to that. I've learned to live with it :)
     
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    Checked your gallery pics. That is a great looking uncut cock. You have to concentrate less on cuming when your partner is doing you. Relax and enjoy the sensations and you will cum. Sometimes worrying about cuming only makes the situation worse. Go with the flow and relax and you should find that it gets easier to cum. You need to retrain your cock to enjoy anothers touch and not just that of your own hand.
     
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    what about kegel exercises? will that make it easier to cum?
     
  14. mattflanders

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    I've had a good talk with my boyfriend and he says he doesn't mind (anymore). He understands I need to finish myself off so I'll just have to live with it. So if he doesn't have a problem with it, neither do I :biggrin1:
    Thanks for all the suggestions though, I can still use some of them. You never know, it might work :rolleyes:
     
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    Hi Matt. Have him stick his finger in your bum and rub your prostate. That always helps me.

    Sorry to hear your parents were fiddling with your foreskin your whole life. This can cause phimosis, not relieve it. I have heard permanent retraction in childhood can cause a shorter foreskin because it is meant to grow along with the penis. Plus basically you are masturbating your kid. And it doesn't sound as if you enjoyed it at all. Ignorance abounds.

    But yeah it looks like it's in good shape in spite of all that.
     
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    The retraction would not have caused phimosis. I say get a little more creative in the bedroom. If you can cum with your hand you have to work with your partner enough to the point where he can make you cum.
     
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    Premature, forcible retraction of an infant's or young boy's foreskin can indeed produce scarring, sometimes resulting in artificially induced phimosis, as well as other damage. But you don't seem to have that problem, Matt, with that beautiful wide 'skin of yours...nor would phimosis alone cause decreased sensitivity anyway.

    I don't know of any method of actively increasing the sensitivity of the glans, but it can be "passively" improved by keeping it hooded at all times and avoiding abrasion against clothing, and too much or too forceful manual stimulation of the bare head. (There was another thread not too long ago by a circumcised OP asking this same question.) If you don't "literally last for hours" solo, but only with partnered sex, most likely you have no residual damage to your glans or inner foreskin that might cause your problem. If it does apply to masturbation, then possibly you should consult a good urologist, who might in turn refer you to a nerve specialist for an examination of the entire nerve system governing the genitals.

    But to begin with, a few speculative suggestions: (1) Use your nondominant hand when you masturbate--will require adjusting to a different feel and technique. (2) Use a little lube under your foreskin and on your entire penis when masturbating or being masturbated--will accustom you to a lighter, slipperier touch and give your foreskin more mobility for stimulation. (3) If you're used to retracting behind the glans during masturbation or sex, try keeping the foreskin as far forward toward the tip as you can (you seem to indicate that you automatically retract partially upon erection, which is quite normal), with inner lubrication--will give gentler, steadier stimulation, perhaps avoiding possible nerve exhaustion in the glans. (4) And most important, experiment with frot, alternating at intervals between one of your hands and one of your partner's--will "wean" you gradually away from reaching climax with your hand alone, with some of the stimulation coming from your partner's. The transfer to his alone after some time should follow.

    You don't say what you and your partner's sexual activities are--so in addition to applying the above suggestions during sex, give your imaginations free reign to devise any and all possible means of bringing you to the highest level of erotic excitement and tension. This assumes, of course, that you are both completely at ease with each other sexually--if not, there may be a psychological block at work, since you climax with solo masturbation. Think about this aspect, too--just possibly your problem lies there...?

    Good wishes and best of luck to you, buddy. It'll work out sooner or later.
     
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    I've got an update on the situation!
    Last night my boyfriend did it! He brought me to orgasm all by himself and it didn't take long either. We just changed to another brand of lube that doesn't dry up that fast. (He tends to pinch my foreskin so it's more comfortable with lube) And I just laid back and tried to not focus on coming. And it worked after about 15 minutes!
    Even though my boyfriend said he didn't mind me not being able to, I saw it in his eyes that he was really happy too :biggrin1:

    Once more, thanks for all the tips!
     
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    Awright, Matt! Good going--very happy for you! :biggrin1: Keep it up [no, that's not a pun]...! :tongue: ~ Any details you'd like to give? Apparently Sounder's good advice (and switching lubes) did the trick for you. Were any of the other suggestions helpful...and if so, which...? :confused:
     
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    Maybe mastubating less will help increase your sensitivity. Trying to relax more and enjoying the situation can help. And there is nothing wrong with using your hand to help out if needed.
     
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