How To Initiate 3 Way With Bf?

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Okay, I currently have BF (almost double my age) that I've been living with for a short while. He has a business associate in real estate who is also friends (gay). I wouldn't mind fucking him, but would rather have a 3 way with him and my BF (I don't want to step out on my BF).

I would like to blow him while my BF pounds me from behind. The trouble is there is no hint of anything at all. It's sort of driving me crazy since this biz associate is really friendly with me, touching and stuff.

I've gotten flirty with the associate guy. For instance, one day my BF went to the mailbox. It was only a few minutes, but the associate guy and me talked and laughed. I was in short shorts, and I could tell he was interested. There were a couple of incidents like that.

Like I say, I don't want to initiate anything separately coz I don't want to step out on my BF.
 
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How 'bout you privilege the more useful head (the one atop your neck) for pragmatic decision making, and avoid doing something that could jeopardize your boyfriend's career, instead of running toward it with abandon? Because your fantasy could work out in the way you hope, but it also could go really badly.
 

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I would suggest talking to your BF about it first. I'm guessing you two have never talked about having a third join you or you'd already have a good idea what his views on that are. So now it's time to talk.

There is a hitch here, though. It's not a random hookup that you're wanting, the guy you want to get involved with is your BF's business associate (or maybe just a friend), so there are all sorts of potential issues with that. Maybe they don't want to mix sex and business. maybe this is a step too far for one or both. Maybe they know each other so well as friends, this would make their relationship weird. Maybe they're friends but don't find each other sexually interesting.

It may be wiser to suggest to the BF, if he's even open to the idea in general, that the two of you find some willing currently unknown third party who would be willing to be your "special guest", making clear that this is a one-off, not repeated event. Or you might be open to having a FwB situation where you two have a regular third who you can invite for a spit roasting now and then.

But I think you need to start with a new, unknown person and see how that goes before bringing up the biz buddy who's involvement in you and your BF's relationship may well come with way too many strings.

Start simple. If that goes well, then you can suggest adding the Biz Bud to the mix. But in all cases, TALK. And the onus is on you to get that ball rolling.

Side issue: if the biz guy is basically hitting on you the moment your BF is out of the room, that says he isn't all that respectful of your relationship together. That smells like a red flag to me. I'd stay right clear of that potential mess.
 

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I agree that you need to take to your bf about any 3way. Communication is ALWAYS important in ANY relationship.

But seriously, avoid a flirting and a 3way with any business associate of your partner (or yourself). You are just asking for problems later down the road.
 

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Don’t do it, I feel like in the long run it will only bring you issues, if you really want to do a 3some, go far out of town and find someone that neither of you know and will probably ever talk to again.
 

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I for one am way to jealous of a person to even consider a 3some while I have a boyfriend lol. I rather do it while single. I mean if you’re already thinking of having a 3 some it might signify a deeper meaning? Are you satisfied with your man and etc?
 
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