How To Initiate A Friends With Benefits Session

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I have a "friend" and we have been keeping in touch on social media during lockdown. I'm horny and want to go to his place but am too embarrassed to suggest. I have never been to his home. I would love a massage or watch porn but could not suggest it. He is a withdrawn type so might panic. Any suggestions about a nice way to initiate such a discussion or have him suggest it?
 

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It really depends on your relationship with this guy. If you enjoy his friendship be well aware that this will change things forever. It’s difficult to “unsay” things that have been said and you run the risk of ending this relationship.
If you think there is potential I would talk about missing touch. Say you’re looking forward to getting a massage. Doesn’t have to be a HE massage. Tell him your hand is taking you to court for over use. You know his personality best, so approach it from a perspective he appreciates.
I have a friend and it started years ago with me stating that I’d lost the guy who had been manscaping my back. I was just making conversation, nothing else. So I was surprised when he offered to do it. I said that would be awesome and eventually things happened. Nothing happened at first and I was very surprised when it did. Be patient and careful.
That’s my two cents. Good luck.
 
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I have a "friend" and we have been keeping in touch on social media during lockdown. I'm horny and want to go to his place but am too embarrassed to suggest. I have never been to his home. I would love a massage or watch porn but could not suggest it. He is a withdrawn type so might panic. Any suggestions about a nice way to initiate such a discussion or have him suggest it?
I think there is some solid advice above.

One thing that I am curious about, is why you put friend in quotes. Can you tell us what sort of relationship you currently have with him?

Also, keep in mind that being cooped up is driving a lot of people sexually crazy. I've been reading a lot of posts from people who are sexually starved, and fixating on one person in particular who was normally not really on their radar, or unattainable for some reason. It's like when you smoke a joint, and crave a weird food and you just. have. to. have. it.

And echoing a word of caution. He's withdrawn. You've never been to his place. It sounds a bit..off. Maybe there are better choices, of people that would be more eager and willing? It seems like it would be easy to make a wrong step with this guy.
 
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