how to male BJ

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  1. honeydew

    honeydew New Member

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    Okay, I need some help. I am never given a BJ and have a great guy that I would love to give one to. He has an average size penis so size isn't a problem. What are some techniques that work on giving a BJ?

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    Don't really worry about it. Just put your mouth there, as much saliva as possible. If you really wanna impress him, put it as far back in your throat as you can. But sounds like you guys are young. I'm sure he'll cum at anything.

    Blow on
     
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    It really depends on the guy.

    What pleases me is a lot of licking up and down the shaft, nibbling on the head (some men can't deal with that), sucking the head really hard (again, not all men like it...but the head is so fun!), sucking the balls, massaging the balls while sucking the penis. I like to do this suction thing...I don't know if it has a name, but I do a vacuum suck thing with my mouth and then go up and down the penis, trying to make it feel really tight and wet and vagina-like, while working my tongue around. I'm sure that must be pretty standard dick-sucking, but I don't watch videos on technique or anything, so I don't know. I love the whole give and take of a bj. Seeing what a man can stand, what he gasps at, what he says "stop" to, what elicits the most moaning...

    Just have fun with it and I'm sure you'll figure it out. Listen to him and feel his reactions. Enjoy!
     
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    Tell him that you want him in your mouth, show your enthusiasm, make happy noises 'hmmmmmm", look up at him once in awhile and then tell him that you want him to cum in your mouth.
     
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    EYE CONTACT....

    You can do pretty much anything but if you hold a great eye contact 90% of the time it will drive him nuts. Also make it visual, your techinque dosent have to be great but make it look and sound like its the best thing ever with lots of licking and slurping.
     
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    personally I like having the shaft licked. Also being wanked off while sucking is fantastic, but not really possible if you have big hands :)

    I think if you really want to please him, make sure he gets a great view of the action, like in porno, men want to see a penis being put in a mouth, not a great ball of fuzzy hair!

    I was once deep throated, it was an interesting experience but I felt cheap afterwards, maybe best to avoid it, could taint the whole experience.

    Of course the best way to find out is to watch some BJ porn on Welcome | PornoTube.com - Fuck Around ;)
     
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    dude the eye contact thing is so true, it is so hot when a girl looks up at you while shes doing it...ok it might be a lil bit uncomfortable for a while, but once you get past that, DAYUM...and center your focus on the head and top of the shaft, that's what i like....
     
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    Okay, I'm posting copyrighted material (copyrighted by the author also known as Chrysalis...) but there's a conversation in my current book that deals with the question honeydew posted. Hope you find it helpful, or at least entertaining...

    “Good morning, Sunshine!” Becky purred. “How was it?”
    Becky never beat around the bush.
    “Um…” Charlie paused, searching for the right words. “Becky, I don’t think I’m ever going to be the same.”
    “Oh, my God, girl, dish!”
    She winced. “Sorry. I can’t. And that’s really not the reason I called. Not exactly, anyway.”
    “Oh, come on, Charlie, don’t hold out on me. I haven’t had sex in a month. At least give me something to dream about!"
    “I just went without sex for six years,” Charlie pointed out. “You’re not getting any sympathy from me.”
    Becky sighed. “Party pooper.”
    “All right, I will say this much. He rocked my world. The man can do things I never even imagined. And that’s why I’m calling you. I need your help.”
    “I’d be more than happy to help you with him, Charlie.”
    Charlie giggled. “That’s not what I meant. I realized after last night that I’m completely clueless. I want to rock his world. And I know you’re…experienced, and that I can talk to you about anything. Do you have time to give me some pointers?”
    “I would make time for you, sweetie. But it just so happens I don’t have to be in court for another hour.”
    “Thank God! I’ll owe you, Beck. Okay, first off, I need any advice you can give me, anything at all, about giving a blowjob. I…went down on Bruce a few times, but I’m totally out of my league with Diego.”
    “Get a piece of paper and a pen, Charlie.”
    “Really?”
    “Yes. You’re going to need to write some things down. I’ll tell you everything I know about sucking cock.”
    “Great!” Charlie said eagerly, her pen poised and ready to take notes.
    “Okay,” Becky began. “To start with, not all men are the same, but there are a few things that are pretty much universal. They want you to take them as deep as you can. They like to have their balls stimulated, buy touching, stroking, licking…just about anything, as long as it’s gentle. And they like to have the their dick licked, especially while you’re sucking them at the same time. Lick at whatever speed or pressure he seems to like. It's great if you can really work your tongue while your lips are tight, moving up and down his shaft, but do not, under any circumstances, nick him with your teeth. Licking in any form, in almost any place, is good—his reactions will show you what he enjoys.
    “If you are able to take him deep, there will probably come a point where his cock cuts off your air supply, so it’s kind of like diving in the ocean without scuba gear. You can only stay down for so long, then you’ll have to come up for air. Got me so far?”
    Charlie took a minute to catch up with her friend. “Yeah.”
    “Okay. Next. Some men are too sensitive on the head, so you have to take it really easy there. Others aren’t, and they love to have it licked and teased. There’s a spot just below the head, on the underside, that’s a killer for most of them. And if you can take him deep and really work your tongue close to the root at the same time, it’ll drive him wild. There’s also a spot just behind their balls—the perineum. Press on it with your fingers, and see what he does. If he likes it, you’ll know. Hmm…what else…Oh! They all love to watch. Make sure you do it with the lights on, so he can see you. Make eye contact. Act like you can’t get enough of it. How are we so far?”
    Charlie wrote frantically. “Got it. Keep going.”
    “Okay. His size and shape will really dictate whether you can deep-throat him, and how you should do it. If he curves downward, take him straight ahead, on your knees, with him standing, or the same type of position with him lying on the bed, and you crouched between his knees. If he curves upward, take him upside-down, in a sixty-nine. You know what that is, right?”
    “Duh!”
    “Just checking. If his cock is straight, and average-sized, then either direction will work. But if he’s really big, regardless of the curve, you have your work cut out for you, especially if he’s thick as well as long. It will be difficult to take him deep from any angle, but it can be done. I haven’t managed it myself, but I’ve seen it.
    “While you’re sucking him, touch him. If for some reason you can’t take all of him in your throat, you’ll probably need to use a hand on his shaft, in addition to your mouth. But having your hands free is great if you can manage it—there are plenty of things to do with them. Stroke his balls, grab his ass…if he’s open-minded, stick a finger up his ass and he’ll come like a wildcat. But I wouldn’t try that at first. I’d start with the basics.”
    Charlie scribbled furiously, catching up with Becky, and then looked at her notes. The basics sounded complicated. “Anything else?”
    “Yes. You guys don’t need condoms, so you’ll be able to swallow his cum. Do it. Trust me, he’ll love it. And other than that, just…get creative.”
    “All right,” she said. “Piece of cake…Not! Seriously, Becky, how in the hell am I supposed to do all this?”
    “Well, you’re going to have to practice with something,” Becky advised. “Definitely practice, especially taking something deep into your throat. Tip back your head and learn to relax while you ride out your gag reflex. You’ll never completely eliminate it, but if you want to badly enough, you can work around it. Make sure you have that down before trying it on him.”
    “What should I practice with?”
    “Hmm…vegetables are good. How big is he, exactly?”
    Charlie took a deep breath, and let it out. “Colossal. I’m convinced he’s a mutant.”
    Becky burst out laughing. “Wow. Lucky you. But sucking a big cock is a real challenge. Could you give me a better estimate of what you’re dealing with?”
    “Becky! It’s not like I got out a measuring stick!”
    “Okay…well, is he straight, or does he curve?”
    “I…I don’t know. I was so overwhelmed by his size that I didn’t pay attention to details.”
    “Well, I can kind of understand that, but you need to learn those details as soon as possible. Meanwhile, back to his dimensions. If he were a vegetable, would he be a cucumber, or a zucchini?”
    “Zucchinis are highly variable in size,” Charlie pointed out.
    “Arrrgh!” Becky yelled. “You know I’m going to strangle you the next time I see you! Okay, just find something that—wait a minute—you know those giant dildos Ryan put in our stockings last Christmas?”
    Charlie laughed. How could she forget? Every year, Ryan put something obscene in everyone’s stocking. Last year, Charlie, Becky, and Emina had been the lucky recipients of huge, glittering red dildos. “Yeah, I remember.”
    “Do you still have yours?”
    “I do! I have a box of things in my garage that I don’t know what to do with. Kind of a ‘can’t throw it away, can’t keep it’ box.”
    “Go get it.”
    “Now?” Charlie asked.
    “Now.”
    Charlie opened the door to her office, taking the cordless phone with her to the garage. She looked around for the box. There it was! She put down the phone momentarily so she could reach it. Then, cradling the phone against her ear, she opened the box, and giggled.
    “What’s so funny?” Becky asked.
    “Well, there are like…seven sex toys in here.”
    “You poor child. All right. Got the dildo?”
    Charlie pulled the package out of the box, examining the monster. “One giant dildo. Check.”
    “How is it for size?”
    “Not quite as big…but close.”
    “Holy shit!” Becky exclaimed. “Babe, you can try, but I don’t know if you’ll be able to do this.”
    “I have to try.”
    “All right. Start practicing today, and find out whether he curves! Also, check the Internet. That kind of size is beyond my experience, but you still might find help on the Web. My prayers are with you, at least in the blowjob department. But for all other intents and purposes, I have no sympathy for you at all. You lucky bitch!”
    “Beck…”
    “I’m just kidding. Seriously, are you all right? Did he hurt you?”
    “Yes. No. I can walk. And I can’t wait for him to do it again.”
    “Damn!”
    “Yeah, I know.”
     
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    Some men actually hate to be looked at while being given a bj. It throws off their concentration.

    Again, look to your guy for answers.
     
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    Chris,

    Disclaimer: This is only one persons opinion.

    You've got to cruel to be kind. Didn't do it for me. You should keep your writing simpler, less forced, more like your posts.

    Disclaimer: I'm not a writer!!!
     
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    Does he enjoy going down on you? If so, consider 69.

    Personally, I absolutely adore the sight, scent and taste of a woman's vulva. Having her pussy in my face while she goes down on me is a huge turn on. But at this time it's for my sake. I want to concentrate on what she's doing to me, burying my nose in her adds to the experience. Trying to get her off at the same time is distracting (although it can make good foreplay).

    I love extended foreplay, followed by the above scenario until I come the first time. Then, I can place her on her back, make comfortable as possible and concentrate on her with my lips, tongue and fingers to get her off a couple of times while I go through my "recovery period". Then I'm (we're) ready for a nice, long, fucking session.

    Also, when I receive head to it's conclusion, I much prefer to finish in her mouth, not her hand. But of course, that is up to her.
     
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    If you want to make him feel special you should gag on his cock. Put it as far into your throat as possible and gag slightly. Thats sexy and he will feel good knowing his cock can make you gag! It also has something to do with being submissive to him and bowing down to his cock, maybe try getting on your knees as he stands above you to start off. And enjoy it, there is nothing worse than getting a blowjob from a girl who doesn't like to do it. You have to really ENJOY it to be good at it, and it will show. For those few moments while you are giving him a blowjob and you are face to face with his cock, treat him like a king...
     
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    beats me. I'm an expert in female BJ.

    Although I must admit I have had some spectacular BJs myself from time to time. I think the trick is you have to really like dick in order to give a great BJ. You have to like the shape, color, feel, love to feel it in your mouth, love to communicate with it. That's what comes across. If somebody is just going through the motions, you can tell. If it is somebody who truly loves cock, and is terribly interested in yours, you can tell that too. They start to communicate with you and with it--and a good cock knows when it's found a home.
     
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    Personally, hearing someone make the "throw up sound" when they have my cock in there mouth, doesn't really excite me all that much.:rolleyes: I prefer lots of moaning and eyecontact.
     
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    they don't have to make a sound, its a physical reaction or reflex. This sually that entails them having to pull away from it for a second or two to regain their composure...so hot. The look in the eyes is priceless.
     
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    I couldn't agree more. This is my husband's and my experience exactly.
     
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    Thanks for all the great posts. I now have somewhere to start and will try again soon.
    Chrysalis, thanks for your input. I needed that info the most since this is new to me.

    Honeydew
     
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    Did you read "mooncycles"? Am I seeing things or is the woman in the bottom picture revealing fangs in her smile?
     
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    I'm not sure - but she's certainly no blood sucker.
     
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