how to not hurt a virgin?

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  1. franklin1990

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    my girl is a virgin.. and i really dont wanna hurt her... my penis is really thick and long.. whats the best way to get it to not hurt so bad? maybe even enjoy it.
     
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    I'm afraid the first time it probably will hurt.... it does for most virgins, regardless of the size of the cock.

    You just have to REEEEAAAAAAAALLLLYYYYY take your time, a hell of a lot of foreplay. You need that gal as wet as humanly possible... and then you'll need lube too! lol

    And then, when the time comes..... just be gentle and slow, and if she tells you to stop, YOU STOP, no matter how turned on you are.
     
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    ya man be very careful, and dont put it all the way in unless she tells you to. i've taken 4 girls' virginity and only one of them really liked it. i agree with denise 100%.
     
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    Go slow and use lots of lube. If she's up for it, try using a dildo first to get her ready, or at least finger her a lot. Make sure you do a lot of foreplay, because getting her turned on a lot will cause her to naturally open up a little bit.
     
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    Get your index finger about half way inside of her, and start to SLOWLY moving it in and out of her; if she's able to get used to this, try to get 2 fingers in her. If she can get used to this, make absolutely sure that you're both lubed up to all hell, and then to get the head in. . .no, really: just the head. If it hurts too bad, stop and don't pressure her into trying it again unless she says that she wants to.

    If you do wind up getting inside of her, don't try to get more than halfway in. Most of all: don't try to pound her like a porn star; it'll take a few times before she'll be able to take that, and if that's what she wants she'll tell you.
     
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    I'm a virgin atleast three times a week. I suggest giving her the best oral sex in the whole world and put two fingers up to her gspot and get her sooooo crazy that shes humping your hand for more. When she gets to the point where shes delirious and can't take it anymore because she wants your cock....then whip out the lube and tell her to rub her clit while you are slowly putting it inside of her.
     
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    I agree with everybody here. I lost my virginity almost 2 years ago and i remember it still hurting even though we were going slow as turtles. Of course you would do it missionary. If she slides back on the bed while you try to put it in her that means it hurts. Act like you really care about her and let her tell you what she wants. When I lost my virginity and he went to put it in I scooted back and he had the nerve to say "going somewhere?".
     
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    Hurt the virgin.. why the heck not, she'll get over it. :rolleyes: < added for the dense people...
     
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    because that's just wrong. After the 1st rough pump she'll pull it out and then you'll have to jerk off or get blue balls from being so hard. Nothing is like taking it from a virgin (that's what the guy who took mine said). A woman's virginity should be apppreciated.
     
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    May I add,,,, let the lady mount you from on top... Let her have control.
     
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    good idea but honsetly I tried that my 2nd time and I couldn't inflict myself with the pain. I'd rather have him do it.
     
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    I'm a girl, relax. Jokes? you understand them..? guess not.
     
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    i'm sooooo over that!
     
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    Blue balls???
     
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    it can happen.
     
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    She's delusional and making assumptions.
     
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    Or she's a crackhead or a man - my guess would be the latter.
     
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    so are you saying a guy can't get blue balls from being really hard and putting it in and all of a sudden nothing?
    Wikipedia would think you're the more delusional one!


    This is from wikipedia. Blue balls - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

    Blue balls is the slang term for a congested prostate or Vasocongestion. The condition of temporary fluid congestion in the testicles and prostate region caused by prolonged sexual arousal in the human male[citations needed]. It is often accompanied by a cramp-like ache of prostatic congestion and pain/tenderness or edema of the testes. While the term is usually applied to men, the female homologue is usually referred to by the more general term "pelvic congestion," or "pink ovaries."[who?]
    Two primary causes identified for blue balls include sexually transmitted disease and lack of orgasm in a sexually stimulated male.
    The cause is the prolonged sexual stimulation of the erect penis (intentional or unintentional), either by direct or indirect contact, that does not result in orgasm and ejaculation. This can, in some circumstances, be a consensual sexual act as part of erotic sexual denial.
    During arousal in a sexually mature male, the parasympathetic nervous system increases its inputs to the genital tissues, resulting in increased blood flow to the testicles and prostate areas. As this happens, other fluid outflow muscles constrict, causing less bodily fluid to leave the area than enter, ensuring a high enough regional blood pressure to allow a sustained erection for penetration during sexual intercourse.
    If orgasm is not achieved, blood and lymphatic fluid tend to pool, and the blood becomes oxygen-deprived. The technical term for this is vasocongestion.
     
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    If you look further, you will see that "blue balls" requires that you're sick or your cock takes more than 4 hours to become flaccid. What are the odds???
     
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    Good one bill nye. I know men can get blue balls.. don't think I've slept with enough of them to know? You're trying to educate the wrong person, but good google find. :rolleyes: Your scenario is highly unlikely so that's what I'm calling you on. Just cause you had a shitty first time, doesn't mean others will repeat your huge mistakes.
     
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