How To On Sex Buddy

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by D_Petherick_Poundlouder, Mar 25, 2009.

  1. D_Petherick_Poundlouder

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    I'm searching for one. I'm sure you gay guys have a lot. Your lives just seem so much more fun. No girlfriend right now makes my amount of sex near zero. I say near because you never know, right?

    Anyways, how did you get your sex buddies in the past? And do you have any suggestions in finding one? Where should I start? Being in college makes it sort of easy as to the start place, but I wont be in college forever and this is a life-long problem, lol.

    With no want to find a real girlfriend in the near future (cross my fingers) I need an outlet for bed-room fun.
     
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    Bars? Internet? Be safe.
     
  3. D_Petherick_Poundlouder

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    Too young for bars.
    But this isn't only about me. If you've had a sex buddy, talk about how it went down for you?
     
  4. cozy_n_quiet

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    hmmm..... good question I'm curious to see the replies.
     
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    Part of the "traditional gay culture" (now rapidly disappearing and not really mourned except by dinosaurs like me) involves a very casual approach to sex and an openness to engaging in one-night stands and other unstructured encounters they call hook-ups today. I met FBs on subway platforms, in porn movie theaters (back when they existed), etc. before I was old enough to go into bars. Once I was able to get into bars, it all got much easier.

    In my 20s and 30s, almost everyone I met outside of work was a hook-up first. If they were cool and fun, I kept their number and called them back. Some got serious, some stayed casual. It was universally accepted as SOP. The few guys who wanted to start with a phone number before progressing to sex struck me as faintly ridiculous and aping the social conventions of teenaged girls. Unless I was overwhelmingly intrigued, I threw the phone numbers of those guys away; it probably happened three times in almost twenty-five years.

    These days, I tend to repeat the pattern but do not indulge in sex when I've been drinking, so I go online to find sex partners. As my profile is very clear about what I am about and what I'm looking for, I find it much easier than negotiating limits in a crowded bar or at a party where everyone's listening.
     
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    I wonder if its the same in the straight community. I dont know, I've yet to have a REAL one-night stand. Of course I had sex with someone once and never called them back, but that doesn't really count as a one-nighter.

    Plus, no FB yet. But taking notes from the gay community, I think it's best to assume any girl that matches the flirtatious energy is on the same page of FB until it is made clear.
     
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    Sex buddies are a delicacy. You are not just going to run up on a 'good one.' You're going to have put the effort. I like compliments, flattery, unexpected gifts, flirtations with that person that are hidden from everyone else. If you can excite their brain on sexual level, then you might get the invitation to be sex buddy for someone. Sometimes when you're in relationship, you'll tell a little white lie every now and then. With dealing with a sex buddy, honesty reigns. You can say the nastiest things to someone (especially someone that you're flirting with) as long as it's mature and sensual. It can't be blatant or you might not get the 'best' out of your buddy. Be mysterious, seductive, in a non-pushy way.

    I had one for like 9 years that I befriended first. We're still on great terms but we just don't do that anymore. I did all of the things that I mentioned above and I never had to pry my sex buddy for anything. Whenever we had the time it went down. You've got to get inside of their heads instead of just trying to get inside of their clothes. If you're in their head, they'll give you their up freely. That's been my experience. So, take a step back and look at sexual self and see how you might amend some things about yourself. One small change in your interactions with women could draw a sex buddy to you instead of you looking for them.

    I talked about sex a lot with my friends and their friends in the right evironment. Everyone isn't into everything but most people have had sex. It's a commonality among adults. Striking up a sexual conversation with a stranger could grant you some great opportunities. You have to be bold when looking for a sex buddy. Put all of your cards on the table and rest assured that the things that you like in the bedroom, somebody else like the very same thing. Just be bold enough to say what you like and you might get a knock at the door.

    Happy hunting:cool:
     
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    I found mine (not used yet) through friendship, simple!

    After many months of friendship, we talked about sexuality and stuff and I discover he (just like me) is straight but would like to do it with a guy. So we agreed to go for it.

    So all I can suggest is to talk about it with friends.
     
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    Walked into my classroom in September, eyed up the hottest guy in the class, started fucking him in recent months after he was done with his girlfriend at the time.
     
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    have you heard that grass is always greener on the other side of the fence? :33:
     
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    hmmmm..... interesting
     
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    Pardon my amazement but i would have thought a cute guy like you gets a lot of attention and as much pussy as you want. Don't assume it seems.
    I thought Americans used Craig's List.
    I guess there must be sites on the net where you can state exactly what you like.... maybe you will get it.
     
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    found all mine on the internet fella, maybe worth a try?
     
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    I think it is almost all about self-confidence (which I sadly lack). If you believe in your ability to do something, it gets done. On those rare days that I had that belief, I found a partner, sometimes a lasting one.

    Believe in yourself, Peter Pan.
     
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    I've found a few over the time I posted this - but I can tell ya most aren't good for long stretches because things can get complicated when you dont know what your doing on the relationship side of things and are good on the sex part.
     
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    lol...i know what you mean about gay guys having an exciting lifestyle. at times i've wished i was fully gay because i know life would be very exciting, and it's so easy to find hookups, haha.

    however, i'm doomed for a mostly heterosexual life because i'm addicted to pussy :eek:
     
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    Pity you're an hour and a half away Idris.
     
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    I understand, Idris - I have a lot of difficulty finding a true, honest-to-God fuck buddy. Usually, if I have sex with a girl more than once, she eventually wants a relationship and I bail before anyone gets hurt. If not, we hook up once and never speak to each other again. The fuck buddies I have had have been less than stellar. There's a difficult balance you need to find with a true fuck buddy.

    My advice is to find a scene and look for the girls who seem to be down. Drink with them, get to know them and start sexual conversations and see where it goes. When it comes to fuck buddies, it's probably best not to focus on the hottest girl you can find - beautiful people tend to have their pick of the litter and they tend to get bored quick, so it's hard to keep a hold on them. Think like a 5 or 6 :) Good luck man, find that FB.
     
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