I ended up teaching most of my lovers because not many were talented BJ artists.
-The mouth doesn't feel as tight as a pussy so there is much less sensation, therefore you have to add it with your hands and tongue which are both rather strong.
- Men are excited visually, that's why we like porn and strip clubs. So you're going to have to pretend to be a dirty porn star for as long as it takes to increase the excitement. That means lots of eye contact, cock worshipping, teasing, being in control and surprising your guy by being unpredictable and wild.
- The sensations are best when a man is at his hardest, so regular hand work (wanking) and squeezing the dorsal vein to keep the blood in during the sucking phase will feel amazing. Keep swapping between these modes to keep the sensations going.
- From time to time, take in as much as you can handle, there is a mix of pain and tightness on the glans when it is forced down the throat.
- Licking the shaft provides light sensations because there are less nerve endings there so focus your tongue on the glans - lick the shaft if it gives you a rest from sucking but don't do it too much.
- The shaft gets it's most intense sensations from firm lips sliding down it and a very firm hand grip or both at the same time, use 2 hands if it helps.
- If you are willing to swallow, it always helps since the orgasm is extended if you keep the cock in your mouth during it - keep stimulating until it becomes too sensitive.
- If he takes a while to cum and you want to swallow, it will be much easier if the blowjob is the first sex he's had for several days which gives his balls time to fill up and increases his testosterone levels.
- I'm difficult to make cum with a BJ so I've tried all sorts. The man needs to be mindful and focus on whatever turns him on the most - find out what that is and use it to tease him until maximum arousal.
- To make someone like me cum, you have to build up the intensity with your hands, lips, tongue and neck remembering to provide a visual show with eye contact etc. Keep up the crescendo until he cums or until you become exhausted. If you didn't make him cum, don't worry, it just means that he has been too desensitised which also means that you are going to get a hard fucking.
- It's probably best that he warn you when he blows his load, you don't want to choke on spunk.
- I find that post ejaculation, receiving a BJ is the best thing to get me hard again as quickly as possible.
- I also found that when I have come several times during a love making session, blowjobs are more painful and very enjoyable although there won't be any more ejaculation.
- Be gentle with playing with balls, too much force can cause the same nauseous feeling of being kicked there and will spoil the moment
- Be noisy and sloppy, saliva everywhere can be a big turn on.
- If I didn't come I always loved it when my lovers informed me that they want my dick inside them - if your jaw is aching do that.
- Blowjobs are great for desensitising the cock before intercourse which helps a guy maintain control easier and increases the duration of sex. It's nice to mix fucking with blowjobs to increase duration and maintain hardness.
Some things to avoid:
- Holding the shaft without wanking for too long,
- Focusing on the glans alone
- Pinching skin
- Teeth contact with glans
- No variation
- Too short duration
- Overly aggressive ball play
- Lack of enthusiasm
- Not enough pressure
- No communication
- Lack of interaction (eye contact etc)
If the cock is a bit wiffy, the best way to change that is to suggest having a shower together, I wouldn't want you to suck my cock if it stinks
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I hope this helps and if you have any suggestions, I'm open to new things.