How to properly give a man a bj?

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If you don't mind watching porn videos to learn, search: Marks Head Bobbers and Hand Jobbers. Almost all of them are perfect!

-some moaning/ slurping
-kissing/ licking everywhere
-suck and massage the balls
-lick and stroke the frenulum
-lick around the head/ swirl your tongue
-suck the head/ frenulum while stroking the shaft or massaging the balls etc.

Main point is to prolong and delay the orgasm, which results in a bigger more pleasurable orgasm.
Thank you. I do watch alot of porn. I will definitely look up those videos. Thank you. I appreciate your comment.
 

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As always, find your energy and what excites you and then use these ideas.

Things I like: long, slow licks from my balls to my tip. Then envelope my head and suck on it for a bit. Then go back down to my balls and play with them (suck on the skin, play with the balls with your hands, etc), then long slow lick up my shaft. I also love hand work during this. A twisting motion up and down on the cock sends me through the roof! At this point, do things that feel good to you. You have this gorgeous cock, what feels good about touching it. Do you want to run your finger around the bottom of the head? Go for that. Want to rub it on your face, breasts, neck? Do that. This is foreplay for the cock. You can focus on the "Make him cum hard" stuff later.

At this point, you should start to aim for getting the cock nice and wet. Slippery. I dont care for gagging, so i prefer that left out. After jerking my cock off for a bit, she returns to licking and sucking on my balls, then licks up the shaft and takes me as deeply as she can.

Here is a fun technique that I will try to explain with just words. (its much easier to show.) Take the tip of your tongue and put it at the base of your bottom front teeth. Arch the middle and back of your tongue to the roof of your mouth. Think of it this way: you are creating a ramp for the cock A Cock Ramp. Firmly push the back of your tongue to the top of your mouth. This means the cock has to push it away to move forward, so it gives the cock something to "pierce" as it enters your mouth. It feels great.

So, up and down on the cock with your mouth, slight twists added for good measure. Slowly swirl your tongue against the cock while it is in your mouth. Do this until I am really hot and bothered and then back off. Go back to the slow licks, and sucking on the head. Too much of anythings gets boring after a while, so move on and build back up to the hard sucking and taking the cock deep. Now, proceed back to taking the cock deep as you can and stroking the shaft with your hand. Look up and tell me you want me to cum and say how much you want to make me cum. Take the head of the cock in your mouth and suck on it forcefully (watch to see how much it is liked or disliked) and go up and down the top part of the cock while your hand jerks and twists on the bottom of my shaft. Keep a steady rhythm until I cum. In your mouth, face, breasts, whatever works for you. In the mouth feels amazing but is also very intense at times, sometimes a much more chill orgasm by hand on her face or breasts is great.

That sounds like an amazing blowjob that I want right now.
Thank you. I appreciate your very detailed comment. This definitely helps alot.
 

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An old girl friend told me the best way to give really good head is,

1. Grab the cock with your hand
2. Put your mouth on the head
3. Go up and down and squeeze a little.

It simulates masturbating with the added benefit of a mouth/tongue
on your dick. We dated for 8 years! :p
 
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First don't fake it, a man feels really fast when a girl does not like it, she does a scripted BJ up and down, up and down, up and...... and you can read on her face : Hey, are you done yet? I'm getting tired of holding this. (.......'s world 1991)


Take it in your mouth while watching him straight in the eyes, bite his glans gently, spit on his glans while you jack off his cock. Sometimes stop for a few seconds and say something like this "I too want your cock deep in my tight and wet pussy " Lick the back of his shaft, from balls to his glans, play with his balls with one hand while the other hand continues to jerk him off and your mouth sucking his glans and so on ...... (Thanks the porn industry :) )
 

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Don't rush. Honestly, a lot of men prefer getting a blow job to fucking (so I've heard). Make it all about worshipping his cock. Take as much time as you can last, licking up and down the shaft, swirling your tongue around the head, licking the precum, sucking, back down the shaft to gently licking the balls, taking one into your mouth if you dare, because he will tell you when he's had enough, meaning either he's about to cum, or its now time to fuck. :)
 
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I ended up teaching most of my lovers because not many were talented BJ artists.
-The mouth doesn't feel as tight as a pussy so there is much less sensation, therefore you have to add it with your hands and tongue which are both rather strong.
- Men are excited visually, that's why we like porn and strip clubs. So you're going to have to pretend to be a dirty porn star for as long as it takes to increase the excitement. That means lots of eye contact, cock worshipping, teasing, being in control and surprising your guy by being unpredictable and wild.
- The sensations are best when a man is at his hardest, so regular hand work (wanking) and squeezing the dorsal vein to keep the blood in during the sucking phase will feel amazing. Keep swapping between these modes to keep the sensations going.
- From time to time, take in as much as you can handle, there is a mix of pain and tightness on the glans when it is forced down the throat.
- Licking the shaft provides light sensations because there are less nerve endings there so focus your tongue on the glans - lick the shaft if it gives you a rest from sucking but don't do it too much.
- The shaft gets it's most intense sensations from firm lips sliding down it and a very firm hand grip or both at the same time, use 2 hands if it helps.
- If you are willing to swallow, it always helps since the orgasm is extended if you keep the cock in your mouth during it - keep stimulating until it becomes too sensitive.
- If he takes a while to cum and you want to swallow, it will be much easier if the blowjob is the first sex he's had for several days which gives his balls time to fill up and increases his testosterone levels.
- I'm difficult to make cum with a BJ so I've tried all sorts. The man needs to be mindful and focus on whatever turns him on the most - find out what that is and use it to tease him until maximum arousal.
- To make someone like me cum, you have to build up the intensity with your hands, lips, tongue and neck remembering to provide a visual show with eye contact etc. Keep up the crescendo until he cums or until you become exhausted. If you didn't make him cum, don't worry, it just means that he has been too desensitised which also means that you are going to get a hard fucking.
- It's probably best that he warn you when he blows his load, you don't want to choke on spunk.
- I find that post ejaculation, receiving a BJ is the best thing to get me hard again as quickly as possible.
- I also found that when I have come several times during a love making session, blowjobs are more painful and very enjoyable although there won't be any more ejaculation.
- Be gentle with playing with balls, too much force can cause the same nauseous feeling of being kicked there and will spoil the moment
- Be noisy and sloppy, saliva everywhere can be a big turn on.
- If I didn't come I always loved it when my lovers informed me that they want my dick inside them - if your jaw is aching do that.
- Blowjobs are great for desensitising the cock before intercourse which helps a guy maintain control easier and increases the duration of sex. It's nice to mix fucking with blowjobs to increase duration and maintain hardness.

Some things to avoid:
- Holding the shaft without wanking for too long,
- Focusing on the glans alone
- Pinching skin
- Teeth contact with glans
- No variation
- Too short duration
- Overly aggressive ball play
- Lack of enthusiasm
- Not enough pressure
- No communication
- Lack of interaction (eye contact etc)

If the cock is a bit wiffy, the best way to change that is to suggest having a shower together, I wouldn't want you to suck my cock if it stinks :p.

I hope this helps and if you have any suggestions, I'm open to new things.
 

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well everyone has their own way of liking their blowjobs, it's important to know what your man likes.
Personally I could care less about balls and anything behind the balls is off-limits. Some people said you have to do this or that, but I assume you know what your man doesn't like.

But what makes blowjobs better, for me at least is:
No teeth (duh)
No gagging sounds
Eye contact (not the whole time but moments)
Don't immediately stick it in your mouth, build it up a little (licking w/e)
use lips, and tongue both.

Eh, yeah you can't do much wrong actually.
 

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Tips based on what works for me:

Apply pressure with your lips on my cock. No guy likes a slack jaw blowjob.

Don't forget that while your lips are working your tongue should be working also.

Variation: suck on first 2-3 inches; suck on half; take it all the way in. Slow movements; fast movements.

I prefer all mouth (some guys prefer mouth and hand to be used).

I'm not a fan of the spinning head, tilt-a-whirl sucking technique.

Don't slap my cock around. Just suck it.

Slowly milk out my precum with your lips while massaging balls.

Definitely suck on my balls. One, then the other, then both.

Lightly touch the perinuem (area behind balls) with your fingertips, like you would under the chin of your dog. I'm super sensitive there and it can drive me crazy... in a good way.

Slide a finger in my ass and massage my prostate while sucking my cock.

Take my load in your mouth and swallow my cum. As my cock dwindles, go back down, put my cock in your mouth and milk out the last drops of my cum.

And yes, I pay my wife's Amex bill every month. :)
Oh man you're my dream master! I do everything you like
 

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use a lot of spit always keep his cock really wet running in salvia, the wetter the better the suck. Take the length of his cock as much as you can just like fucking pussy. deep is better. I love a long slow deep fucking wet cock sucking. That is about as short and blunt as I can make it. One more thing pull down on his balls while you sucking his cock. I love having my wife suck my cock and put her other hand around my balls and pull down on them like you are stretching them downward. Just remember long slow deep wet suck and it will be good.
 

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What is a good bj? What are your needs and how would you like that done. Im trying to understand a mans oral sex needs. I enjoy doing it but i want to do it good to my husband. Guys please help! Men know it best.

For me I like it sloppy and I like her mouth to get a good way down my shaft (although that can be difficult when your huge but generally mean don't focus on the first 1/4 of the dick the whole time). Don't constantly concentrate on the tip/head, its very sensitive and although a bit of interest there feels good, consistently 'attacking' this area gets really irritating after awhile. You want to try to make your mouth like a vagina i.e. let him be able to stuff as much of his shaft down there as your mouth can handle and move it in and out. In other words try to throat as much as you can, spit on it, get sloppy and gagging all over it will make your man feel like a stud.
 

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Okay, I am in the minority, but I love teeth scraping lightly, nibbling, and even some biting. Hurts SOOOO good! Not all the time, not the whole blowjob. And my wife really likes to do this, so I guess it's a fetish for both of us.

Point being, never assume what many want is what everyone wants !
 
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You already have a lot of good suggestions, but I will add / confirm:
  • Enthusiasm goes a long way
  • Really get your face in there, rub your face on the cock occasionally
  • Definitely cup his balls as you suck, and deepthroating is something to practice
  • Start fully or at least partially clothed, and start to strip as you go. Whipping your tits out at some point can really move things up a level
  • Swallowing gets major points -- even if you spit afterward
  • You need some good saliva, or way to keep it wet -- dryness doesn't help
  • Eye contact at least some of the time
  • Alternate sucking and fucking
By the way I am in Boston also. Hi neighbor. ;-)
 

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Main thing is to enjoy sucking, to make sure the guy being sucked is enjoying the experience, and if you're 69ing make sure you keep up to speed, Deep throat is always a nice experience but work up to it, don't suck the guys cock in quickly , enjoy the pleasure of his cock length, tease his cock head, most of all keep it smooth. Use your hands on his body , nipples and balls and maybe a little light finger fucking as extra stimulation. When it comes to "that" time make sure you get him to cum where it gives you pleasure - personally I like a guy to cum just inside my mouth so I can really enjoy his hot juices. Then, once he's fully discharged his spunk have a nice swallow then quickly suck him down into deep throat again and feel your nose in his pubes before coming up for air.
For me, if I'm being sucked or sucking its important that my cum is swallowed - and that when I suck cock I swallow the guys cum
 
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An old girl friend told me the best way to give really good head is,

1. Grab the cock with your hand
2. Put your mouth on the head
3. Go up and down and squeeze a little.

It simulates masturbating with the added benefit of a mouth/tongue
on your dick. We dated for 8 years! :p

Damn...she was a lucky girl?! Given half a chance I'd spend every spare second either sat in your lap or working my way down your torso to a bulging crotch...;)mmmm