how to raise your daughter?

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But . . . I like all my creams and ointments and serums. And I LOVE my make up! I think that's okay. No one dolled me up when I was a child. I was raised with frequent assurances from my mother that my skin was pretty, and my appearance was validated almost as much as my test scores and talents. I watched my grandmother and learned to give myself a mani/pedi; I watched my mother and learned to put on make up and style my hair. I watched my cousins and learned to study hard. I do not see anything wrong with a balance.


I've spent my entire life being told I'd be "beautiful if I only did ____." My mother has been obsessed with my appearance my entire life.
 

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I've spent my entire life being told I'd be "beautiful if I only did ____." My mother has been obsessed with my appearance my entire life.
my mother made us feel shallow for giving a shit what we looked like.

i just tell my daughter that making herself presentable will improve people's first impressions of her, but that trying too hard to be attractive can be ugly.

she wears a little gloss & eye shadow, but refuses to bow to peer pressure and go orange skinned in a mini-skirt.
 

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my mother made us feel shallow for giving a shit what we looked like.

i just tell my daughter that making herself presentable will improve people's first impressions of her, but that trying too hard to be attractive can be ugly.

she wears a little gloss & eye shadow, but refuses to bow to peer pressure and go orange skinned in a mini-skirt.

Can't win for losing, huh?
 

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What wrinkles does an 8 year old have?????
$350 for a cheap bottle of botox over the internet.
Buy the kid a collection of great books of the world with the money.

No concept of risk to a medical procedure by a cosmetician?

I have trouble understanding

The title of the thread - How to raise you daughter?
Short answer - Not with Botox like that loony!
 

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On the subject of objectifying kids' appearances: I was gobsmacked last fall when my 6 year old daughter asked me if she was fat! A female classmate had told her she was.

I think I maintained my outer calm, though it clearly surprised and upset me, and I asked some questions, to get the context. I explained that everybody is different, and some people have strange ideas about what normal is. Hugged and reassured her. She is not a bit overweight, she is quite healthy, very strong and tall for her age.

It was a teaching moment, but the initial shock seeing those tears well up in her eyes as she asked the question was intense, my anger rose feeling like someone has attacked my baby. Then it shifts to what does she need to help deal with this? What can she do to react when others might say unfounded stuff, and keep her equilibrium and security? I think she was reassured. It hasn't been an issue since then.

I was amazed that it starts so early.
 

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On the subject of objectifying kids' appearances: I was gobsmacked last fall when my 6 year old daughter asked me if she was fat! A female classmate had told her she was.

I think I maintained my outer calm, though it clearly surprised and upset me, and I asked some questions, to get the context. I explained that everybody is different, and some people have strange ideas about what normal is. Hugged and reassured her. She is not a bit overweight, she is quite healthy, very strong and tall for her age.

It was a teaching moment, but the initial shock seeing those tears well up in her eyes as she asked the question was intense, my anger rose feeling like someone has attacked my baby. Then it shifts to what does she need to help deal with this? What can she do to react when others might say unfounded stuff, and keep her equilibrium and security? I think she was reassured. It hasn't been an issue since then.

I was amazed that it starts so early.

It's incredible isn't it?
 

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How to raise my daughter? I taught her to swim, starting at 3, and got her into karate at 12. She swims like a fish and has a black belt, and she can handle things. She's in college now. I figured those were things nobody else was going to do.
 

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On the subject of objectifying kids' appearances: I was gobsmacked last fall when my 6 year old daughter asked me if she was fat! A female classmate had told her she was.
been there!

mum, sarah keeps saying i'm fat!
would you ever call someone fat?
no.
why not?
because it would upset them.
so we can conclude from this that sarah must be an arsehole.
*grin*
and therefore nothing she says is worth squit.
*nod*
 

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The only problem I see now is that with this woman being identified, makes me wonder how many more moms are out there doing the same thing, "Where there is one there is another". Our society has way too many technological devices at their disposal, and medicinal items, and it is sad that people take advantage of them for their own benefits or stranger issues that may arise later on...I myself as a father of 2 daughters say this mom is unfit, does not have her daughters best interest, the daughter did not request it, and mom inflicted pain. Basically mom is a nut case, needs to have her daughter removed from her and let the young lady grow up in a sane home. Mom can go to a mental ward and work her problems out with a counselor...I also would like to know where she is getting the medicine, it takes a doctors order unless she is buying it on the street, if so then they need to catch the people who are selling the drug too and put them in jail and throw the key away, or if it is doctor then have him banned from practicing medicine....better yet get a rope and a tall tree and do it the old fashioned way, then we don't have to use our tax dollars to keep them in jail...Oh I get a little upset with society and the people we must deal with on a daily basis, and I see it from the health system side of it...
 

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...I also would like to know where she is getting the medicine, it takes a doctors order unless she is buying it on the street,

Through the internet.
botox no prescription - Google Search

Buying it on the street??
At one time I lived in a neighborhood where there probably was literally a pusher on every other corner.
I cannot see any of the transactions involving Botox.