How to score a cougar

[petite]

hey, I'm 58, been in the bar scene almost 40 yrs. let me tell you something. you don't score on a cougar. they score on you. I've seen more bewildered young men hauled out of bars by older gals than I care to count. the young men are like "deer caught in the headlights". I've even been slapped by a cougar or two for comments, like "take it easy on him, he's barely shaving or "don't make his first piece his last piece", or "don't turn into a homo."

Well, this may be true, it's also possible to seduce an older woman, which is what this man's question is. Possibly he shouldn't have used the word "cougar." He wants to seduce an older woman and convince her to teach him everything she knows.

Being from an older generation, you may not be aware that nowadays the use of the term "cougar" has changed. Women in their 30s definitely don't call themselves cougars anymore, they think it's an insulting term. I was called one by a man I've known since he was 17, but is now 26, and who was obviously flirting with me. I was offended. Two days later, it happened again with a 29 year old man! By now, I've just decided that the generation behind mine has decided I've reached "that age" and men in that generation seem to think it's a magic word that will make me chase them.

I've asked lots of men and women about this in the past few months, actually I think I've asked ever single person I know since being insulted with this term three times, and this is what I've learned:

1. The only people who regularly use it are young men.
2. 100% of the women I asked thought the term was extremely insulting. It says to a woman that she's old and she's acting like a slut. Trust me, you can't get a woman to sleep with you if that's what she's hearing from you, "old slut." So don't make that mistake. Women want to feel beautiful and sexy, not like you see them as old and trashy. Seriously, for a woman in my generation, possibly the sexiest thing you could say would be to sincerely utter this sentence, "I think you look like you're 26 years old."
3. Guys seemed to think that it was a compliment! One male friend consoled my bruised ego by saying, "Hey, no one ever calls an unattractive woman a cougar!" That actually made me feel a little better.

I'm going to add another suggestion to the ones I've already given:

Pursue her the way you would a woman your own age. If an older woman is interested, she's not just interested in your youthful good looks, she probably also wants to feel younger herself. If you act like she's an older woman when you're around her, she won't feel younger, she'll feel even older than she does when you aren't around! She doesn't want to feel like you're "aware" of your age difference all the time. She wants to have fun.

 

[eyescream]

The fact that you're being a bit choosy, I would say it's best to keep this purely as a fantasy.

Choosing to lose your virginity to one random person who is being judged by pictures and email skills will leave you potentially disappointed. Remember, you can't lose your virginity twice.

I believe virginity is overrated. People put far too much emphasis on it. But hey, I didn't wait until I was 21 to lose it. Judging by your pictures, I'd say you're still a virgin by choice so it must carry some level of value to you. But I could be wrong.

 

[KTF40]

It is still something I really want to do, so I'm planning on getting a new email and trying again with a more balanced approach. Let me know what you think.

1.) You need to stop being scared about sending out your face pic once you have established contact. Obviously don't post it in the ad, but in the email exhange you have to sned it asap if you want to get laid.

2.) And there are plenty of pic collectors out there. I've been burned a couple times. But if that matters that much to you, then you shouldn't be using craigslist as a way to get laid.

3.) There are hot girls on craigslist so don't be stunned if you find one. When it comes to sex, it's a hell of a lot easier as a woman to get what she wants on the internet than it is to take the non-internet/real life route. But only a small portion of women have been smart enough to figure that out.

4.) And I'd also recommend having a little meet and greet before you guys meet to fuck. Somehwere in a public place preferebly. Meeting up some random couple at night who are visiting the area would be pretty shady I think.

 

[KTF40]

And btw, I was a virgin until I was 21 and used craigslist as way of losing it. I've pretty much regretted that night ever since. The meet up is definitely important so you can be sure this is the person you want to lose it to. Part of me wishes I could go back and time and have a meet and greet before I did the deed. But, that experienced shaped me into who I am today so maybe it all worked out for the best in some weird way.

 

[b.c.]

:33: Hmmm...."score a cougar"....

A ten, three eights, and a nine?

 

[B_howbigeh]

I did have two exchanges that seemed legit, but were probably too good to be true. I'd like to know what anyone else thinks.
- A 21 year old girl emailed me. She sent me a bunch of pics. I'm pretty sure she lives in the same town. She was definitely not a bot; she was definitely not trying to direct me to some subscription site. But the reason for my reservation was that she was young and SUPER hot. Basically, a sexy college girl who had no reason to fuck a virgin off craigslist. She wanted a face pic, but I never gave her one because my suspicion is that she's a guy or something.
- Another girl in her young 20s emailed me and we had a similar interaction. She was definitely not a bot or trying to refer me or anything. She was aggressive via email and wanted to a see a face pic, but I opted out because of the same suspicion that I had with the other "girl." I just can't conceive that a girl that smoking would pursue sex through craigslist.

DAMN you dumb fucker (no offense lol) you should have fucked that 21 and 20 year old!! especially if theyre good looking!!!

why not get them to go on cam first for a few seconds just to confirm, then you can go on webcam? or get her to send a picture that for sure confirm its her, maybe ask to see her boobs outside of her bra or something like that. but you cant be scared to show your face.

I would kill to be in your shoes. and YES, a college girl WOULD fuck a virgin off craigslist, you would be surprised on how many girls look on craigslist versus the local broke ass, loser drunk bar flys down at the bar.

those girls could have not much confidence, very shy, etc... but you thinking " I just can't conceive that a girl that smoking would pursue sex through craigslist." it wrong IMO. I would email them back and see if theyre still interested. like I said, I would kill to be in your position talking to 2 local hotties wanting to fuck.

BUT, im also in the same boat as you.. im scared someone will recognize me/my ad as my town is guaranteed smaller than yours with a population of 3000 people my brothers are also mischevious little assholes who have looked on the kijiji ads (canadas craiglist) and found a local guy ad (very ugly, fat, etc..) it was awkward, embarrassing, and I wouldnt want them to find MY ad there!!