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Hey guys, men seem to be pretty good at this so any tips for a guy that wants to acquire this skill?
Hey guys, men seem to be pretty good at this so any tips for a guy that wants to acquire this skill?
When you say "separate sex from emotion" are you talking about the Hollywood lie that great sex equals love equals a great relationship? A (straight) guy I once worked with always referred to love as "the dopamine high", which, when it comes to sex is how I view it. I look at sex as the ultimate sport among males and have a partner count in the thousands. Sex can be an extension of love but most often it appeals to our primal sexual needs that have nothing to do with love. I can have as much sex as I do because I look at it as giving my fellow males pleasure we both need. But that great feeling--the dopamine high--sex gives I never confuse for love; it's just the pleasure rush of the moment. Along with that I have to say the people in my life that I love and care deeply about: only 2 of them have I ever had sex with. Treat sex for what it is: a sport among males that leaves us both feeling content (for a few hours anyways) and don't let the dopamine induced "warm fuzzies of sex afterglow" mislead you into thinking this might be the start of a great relationship. Sex is--no matter what they tell you in the movies--never, ever a realistic basis for a relationship.