Suggesting that there is something wrong with Matt for being interested and concerned with this question is out of line. To those who suggeested that, would it be unreasonable for you to want to understand why some other part of your body was removed for no reason other than other people's preferences. The days of parents and doctors getting a free ride on this issue are coming to an end. It is a practice that thrives on silence and the cat is out of the bag.
Again - those are your reasons.
I wanted to ask matt, why?
Did it ever occur to anyone, that might be a question his parents will ask him? It may not be a defensive question that they ask, but want to genuinely know why.
Everyone is layering this their projection about WHY it would be an issue for them, but I don't see anything that is offering: "how do I go about talking to my parents."
I'm glad that you know why it would be an issue for you and that you are confident you know his reasons, which may be true or not.
He many not give us a reason, but he said he is STILL bothered by it, he knows he cannot get that back and that's not his attachment, but wants to find a way to go about talking to his parents about it.
The criticism about how we participate or what our motives are, or if by gender we're allowed to comment on this, is starting to wane on me, when everywhere on this board it is littered as a "support group."
So I think suspecting everyone of nefarious intentions or bashing our ignorance and confusing it with lacking empathy isn't serving anyone. Mothers have a hand in making the decision and a mother may have to answer this decision. If we mirror the same behavior, to blast and accuse the reasons for her, the way you are deciding my motives here, I don't see it going over well.
Since I haven't heard back from matt; he doesn't have to volunteer a reason why, I just wanted to ask what is it about talking to your parents that you're afraid of? I wouldn't walk in with an expectation that you know what they are going to say or make accusations about taking something from you, even if you feel that way. You know what the general population thinks and what advice your parents were given or what the norm is, you can chose to say that first, and then state how you feel about it. I don't know that even your parents know what happened during your surgery.
Most of all, you know your relationship with your parents better than any of us. You probably know which parent would be more open to this topic than not. I do think finding another way to broach the subject with something innocuous in the news and then linking it to your concerns.
Here's something that is current: Whether it's true or not, who knows w/ tabloid media.
New mom Christina Aguilera threw a circumcision party for her son. Isn't that nuts? Absurd? Get some comment about it as topic and then proceed with your questions as on off-shoot of something that was already topical.
You know if it would be easier to disarm your parents first with something in the news, before you transitioned to the questions that are bothering you about your parents decision to circumcize you.
At any rate, I hope you get what you're looking for from your parents.