How to talk to your parents about why I was Circumcised?

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If you are unhappy about being circumcised go and start restoration procedures and start getting it back. If you aren't happy about it you yourself can go and sort it.

Why question your parents about it? What good is that going to do? Do you want to persecute them? Blame them? Make them feel like shit? They only did what they felt was best. Do you want to punish them? Think about it. They are your parents and they love you

Ahhh, the Damianster is back? I can hardly wait to hear what pearls of wisdom he/she shall once again roll into the threads on this site.:cool:
 

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I am glad my parents left it to me, to decide whether to have my birthmark removed.

I am for keeping it, as while markings such as tattoos disgust me, not just that most are ugly, but that they are unnatural. I consider a birthmark, especially a hidden-enough one, as a natural marking from God, so I accept it and don't meddle.

But I am glad to have been circumcised as a baby, and have that enhancement behind me. I agree with most of the common reasons for male circumcism, Biblical, better for health, better for sexual sensitivity, more comfortable to not have a tight restrictive foreskin, even looks better and not like some weird "growth."

More natural is best in not smoking, not tattooing, not hair coloring, not anti-life contracepting; but male circumcism when done right, is enhancing, so I am for it.
 

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Hey daddy bear!!!
I will take that as the back hander it was meant to be!
If you want one of my pearls of wisdom or even better a pearl necklace from me I'm happy to be of service dude!
I'm sure you've been given loads of pearl necklaces over the years you've been working it dude!
 

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A "pearl of wisdom" from Damian:
If you are unhappy about being circumcised go and start restoration procedures and start getting it back. ...
Now that I'm in my fifth year of F/R, I don't see Damian being qualified to make such a recommendation. As a matter of fact, that was bad advice.

Damian on a roll:
Why question your parents about it? Perhaps the only source.
If he wants to know why, they would be a key source of information.
What good is that going to do?
It might answer a burning question.
Do you want to persecute them? Blame them?
If done politely, asking a question isn't persecution. Nor would it assign blame.
 

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Steve dude
Many regulars to this site know all too well your views on circumcision and also by extension what should be done to parents who have their sons circumcised.
If you had your way every parent who circumcises their son should be either
Taken to court
Horse whipped
Shit kicked out of them in a back alley
Gang raped
Shot by firing squad
Or all of the above

You know you are the head of the anti circ fascists and pour hell and damnation on anyone like me matt cohen or yogo who are happy being circumcised
We don't fit your world view that circumcision is bad for and hated by everyone
 

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I am circumcised and never once thought twice about it. As a matter of fact I was in my teens before I knew there was any other way. My sons are also circumcised and never said anything about it. My oldest said that he doesn't like the way an uncircumcised one looks and that was it during the "talk", and we never discussed it again. If he kept obsessing about why is healthy functioning penis was circumcised at birth I would be seriously concerned about his mental health. I have said it before, I think as a parent I have and will make way more important decisions for my sons than circ or not circ. For instance, the woman I chose to be their mother, where they go to school, what type of medical treatment they receive, what type of health insurance they have, how much money to invest for their future, the type of friends they can and cannot hang out with, how they are disciplined etc. My oldest son will start high school next year and there is a choice of 3 to choose from. We have discussed it with him but in the end it will be my and his mother's decision not his. Even if they weren't circed as babies and the issue came up now it would still be their PARENTS decision to do it or not regardless of how old they are until they are 18 have their own insurance and or money.
 

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Does anyone have any suggestions on how I could ask them questions such as:
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Yeah... forget about it and get over it!

Doctors routinely circumcized male children for a long time- they told your parents it was in your best interest, all the other little boys were being circumcised, you don't want to stick out in gym class... its healthier...

they told them all kinds of thing... including its not a big deal...
and you know what? its not a big deal.

Either you have dick issues, or, more likely , you have parent issues.

But either way, just leave it alone...
Your parents did the best they could with the information at hand...

Sounds to me like you just want an excuse for making them feel guilty.


Seriously... the tip of your dick is not the axel on which the world turns.
 

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If you are unhappy about being circumcised go and start restoration procedures and start getting it back. If you aren't happy about it you yourself can go and sort it.

Why question your parents about it? What good is that going to do? Do you want to persecute them? Blame them? Make them feel like shit? They only did what they felt was best. Do you want to punish them? Think about it. They are your parents and they love you
Stupid Damian. Restoration is barely the equivalent of a bandaid on the millions of infant circs performed every year. How you going to change anything if you don't start talking about it? Babies can't protect themselves. Since so many people are fixated on their normal healthy genitals for reasons of culture and because they need to feel good about their own truncated genitals, yes, we have a long way to go in correcting that, starting with talking about it.
 

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I am circumcised and never once thought twice about it. As a matter of fact I was in my teens before I knew there was any other way. My sons are also circumcised and never said anything about it. My oldest said that he doesn't like the way an uncircumcised one looks and that was it during the "talk", and we never discussed it again. If he kept obsessing about why is healthy functioning penis was circumcised at birth I would be seriously concerned about his mental health. I have said it before, I think as a parent I have and will make way more important decisions for my sons than circ or not circ. For instance, the woman I chose to be their mother, where they go to school, what type of medical treatment they receive, what type of health insurance they have, how much money to invest for their future, the type of friends they can and cannot hang out with, how they are disciplined etc. My oldest son will start high school next year and there is a choice of 3 to choose from. We have discussed it with him but in the end it will be my and his mother's decision not his. Even if they weren't circed as babies and the issue came up now it would still be their PARENTS decision to do it or not regardless of how old they are until they are 18 have their own insurance and or money.

CURVEDANDTHICKK,

If one of your sons came to you and said that he wished you would have let him make that decision for himself, what would you say to him? Would you dismiss his concerns as trivial?

I know a lot of guys that i consider "normal" guys, they have no issues that i am aware of, but do not agree with there parents decision.

I don't think it's the fact that they are cut that is the problem, it is that something was done to them they had no control over and no say in.
 
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I think as a parent I have and will make way more important decisions for my sons than circ or not circ. For instance, the woman I chose to be their mother, where they go to school, what type of medical treatment they receive, what type of health insurance they have, how much money to invest for their future, the type of friends they can and cannot hang out with, how they are disciplined etc. .

You don't say!

I had to be cut as an adult for phimosis and I so wish my parents had done it when I was an infant and my dick meant nothing to me.

The hysteria over the topic still baffles me though. It's not that we're talking about Lobotomy / No Lobotomy!
 

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I have said it before, I think as a parent I have and will make way more important decisions for my sons than circ or not circ. For instance, the woman I chose to be their mother, where they go to school, what type of medical treatment they receive, what type of health insurance they have, how much money to invest for their future, the type of friends they can and cannot hang out with, how they are disciplined etc.


I don't think Americans realise just how morally shocking their acceptance of routine infant circumcision seems to most in Britain and Europe. As a parent you have the right and obligation to make a whole lot of decisions for your children, of varying degrees of importance. But usually you do not have to make a decision on circumcision as it is rarely medically necessary, and few cultures truly require it. The needless circumcision of a child is very hard to justify. In Britain it is discouraged. We're not yet at the stage of making it illegal, but it will pretty surely come as the human rights act is applied by our courts. Children suing their parents for circumcising them is not a nice prospect, but probably that too will come.
 

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Of the thousands and thousands of circumcisions done each year not just in the usa but also in the middle east africa and asia many of the circumcised guys won't even give their circumcision status a second thought. The guys on lpsg who spend all their time moaning wingeing playing the victim ranting at their parents and blaming all their ills on being circumcised have self worth and parent relationship issues but are in a minority in the wider world. Most people don't focus all their rage on being circumcised


UOTE=dxjnorto;1351699]Stupid Damian. Restoration is barely the equivalent of a bandaid on the millions of infant circs performed every year. How you going to change anything if you don't start talking about it? Babies can't protect themselves. Since so many people are fixated on their normal healthy genitals for reasons of culture and because they need to feel good about their own truncated genitals, yes, we have a long way to go in correcting that, starting with talking about it.[/QUOTE]