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That's still ultimately about her being a bad person, not about you. It's kind of an unreasonable response to a familiar person asking for some of your free time over hot chocolates.
I can remember very few times when negative rumors went out over my little network of female friends. The very first one I remember was really awful and uncalled for, (and false, from what I can tell-- the rumor spreader is a pariah in our spheres now, but the subject is still a cherished friend 19+ years later) but I chalk it up to the immaturity of high school girls. The others were true, and the information was not shared with anyone who had not already dated the guy. It was gossip among a small number of women surprised to find out we'd been on terrible dates with the same men, and had drawn the same conclusion: No second date. The stories were shared with the men's identities secret, but when the details were all too familiar, the names were introduced to the conversation. The men lost nothing they had not already lost. In fact, my homegirl KNEW I was about to go out with a guy she'd already seen. She KNEW he was boring, self absorbed, too handsy, cheap, and a bad kisser. She let me find out for myself, and only asked me after I reported I was home how it went. She then asked me to confirm his name, and told me about her date with him. Nearly identical. The only difference was he'd picked her up in the car he wouldn't stop talking to me about, and I'd opted to drive myself to meet him. Who on Earth wants to discuss a Nissan Murano for 45 minutes?
Anyway, unless you were like that dude, and put your hands all over her even after she asked you to slow down, or kept calling for weeks after she told you it wasn't going to work out, or something equally appalling, what she (or they) did was childish, and gross. You didn't make her childish and gross, did you? So how can that be about you?
These were just girls I asked out and they flat out rejected me, there never was a date or any chance to do anything weird lol.