How to tell if female orgasmed?

[Riven650]

I can tell. And I can give you some pretty reliable hints. But first a little background:
When my wife and I met (back in the late 80's) and were becoming attracted to one another, we talked a lot about honesty before we had sex. I said I'd prefer a sex partner not to pretend to have orgasms to try to please me. I said that if she didn't come during intercourse that would be fine as we could always find a way to get her off after me if I came first. This was me speaking as someone with premature ejaculation issues. When we did have sex it was very good. She didn't come, although I could tell that she was trying to. I lasted better with her than I had with a few of my previous partners, and I realised later that it was because I felt more 'secure' with her. Eventually, she managed to relax and just feel it rather than chasing the phantom orgasm and one day when I was fucking her real slow and keeping it buried deep (it was a way I'd found of staying in control), she started to come, and it built and built and she stayed relaxed, then we exploded together - her orgasm triggering mine. There is NO MISTAKING the real thing when it happens. The texture of the vagina changes as orgasm starts and you do feel it open as it 'tents', plus there's a lot of extra wetness and (in my wife's case) her hips seem to almost dislocate in an attempt to get me in even deeper. Straight after the contractions of her orgasm subside I always noticed that my wife's areaolas would be scrunched and her nipples would be standing up erect for a few minutes even in very warm weather. Sadly, that particular show is a thing of the past as she has now lost both breasts to cancer, but I trust myself to know when she's having an orgasm, and more importantly, I trust her to tell me the truth about, well, anything. That's why I married her.

 

[corridor]

There is a huge difference between:

Can I tell if my woman had an orgasm?

Can I tell the difference between a real female orgasm and a skilled fake?

Answer to the first is mostly yes, answer to the second is mostly no.

 

[blanique]

I have actually had men call me the next day and ask if I came? :wtf2: Most men can't tell when I cum and I don't know why as I practically hyperventilate, sometimes cry, and almost always become an immobile, yet quivering mass of jello from head to toe.
Good luck with that :rofl:

Uhm okay, but I'm rather brown in complexion. I don't think I get red or blotchy.

^So am I. Also do you men notice our skin flush?

 

[Eisenhower]

My girl is the most orgasmic girl I've ever been with and I love it (who wouldn't?)

She's capable of cumming 10+ times every time we have sex and it always makes me walk away feeling like a stud. I think it's due to the fact that she has a rather large g-spot (the most noticeable one I've ever felt anyway) and my cock happens to have a sort or hump in the middle that seems to stroke her g-spot even with very minimal movement on my part. Slow or fast it doesn't seem to matter, she's going to come within 3-5 minutes and recently (we've been together about a year) she's started having back to back orgasms where she'll come, and then as it's trailing off she comes again. Sometimes we'll just start laughing ... it's a beautiful thing.

But as was mentioned ealier, (the discussion of tenting), I know when she's about to come because I can feel her pussy slowly getting tighter, then suddenly it will expand and she'll queef loudly, then it will contract again and almost feel like it's pushing me out.

I can honestly say sex with her is so rewarding simply because I know she's coming and coming repeatedly. I really feel lucky to be with a girl as sweet and sexual as her.

Eisenhower

 

[bigdog83]

how about a rush of juices? does a waterfull signal a "O"? and does an "O" have to acompany a waterfull of juices?

 

[Gordon025]

There's one simple rule, which we European boys learned from Miss Xaviera Hollander: "only if your dick gets wet up to your balls, you can tell your girl orgasmed."

Xaviera is right, but to an extreme. I have experienced being wetted up to the balls many times. That is a female ejaculation, often known as 'squirting' or my preference, 'gushing.'

There's a myth that FE can only happen as the result of a G-spot O. That's not exactly true. What's required for FE is a heavy-duty, industrial-strength O. But they can happen with other than G-spot triggering. G-spot work is just the easiest way to set off an O of this volcanic intensity.

I'm a mature dude and I was bringing multiple gushing O's to several ladies before the G-spot had been invented. I did have the advantage of 8"+, which makes it possible to trigger several sensitive spots deep in the cavern of love.

 

[yorkshirebunny]

Ok, I know you guys are going to hate hearing this but I have probably 3 different types of orgasm.
The most common for me is during sex, my pussy tightens and I seem to get a wave of pleasure reaching from my pussy up to the top of my head, that can happen many times during a session.
The biggest is often from a good vibe or a clit-licking ideally coupled with nipple tweaking which will rack my whole body with waves of pleasure, often I try to get the person to stop so I can catch my breath but if they persist it intensifies. I need a rest after one of these before I can continue.
The 3rd type is what I call my mini orgasm. I get these just having my nipples sucked and tweaked (ideally both nipples sucked and nibbled at the same time if you know what I mean :wink or I usually get it while sucking cock (cos I love giving bj's) and have even had them while driving home after a good session and getting off on the memories of the great sex. These feel like little pulses of pleasure deep inside my pussy.
Dunno if this is unusual but I do orgasm a lot and can never seem to get enough! :smile:

 

[D_Barzillai Whackingsauce]

I can tell when the music cues, the confetti falls from the sky, the lights flicker on-and-off followed by a man in a suit presenting me with a door prize. Also the crowd cheers!

 

[jerreo]

Absolute proof every time: Immediately after her orgasm her lips will be cold. I don't know why. A legendary lover told me this and I observed from there.

 

[poizen-ivy]

If you can't tell fake from the real thing.... I'm worried for you.

Be in the moment and pay attention to your partner, it's not just about thrusting at the speed of light or how wet she gets.
Look at the process of change that she goes through from foreplay to penetration to climax. Breathing is a dead give away, as is the tensed and relaxed muscle change over.

My lower spine and tail bone pulsates when I have cum and I know that I clench onto his cock too, I've been told they can feel it. Similar to how a female feels a big cock cumming inside of her.

Everyone's different, so best to just pay attention to her natural body language and and not just the vocal language.

 

[Serial Kisser]

There's one simple rule, which we European boys learned from Miss Xaviera Hollander: "only if your dick gets wet up to your balls, you can tell your girl orgasmed."

Um, I don't think that's always true. I get soaking wet during sex, but I've never cum from anything other than solo masturbation.

I had a guy say that to me once after we were done.

"You came, I know you did, you left a huge wet spot." - him
"Well, I think I'd know if I came or not better than you." - me.

Shrug.

 

[poizen-ivy]

ROFL... did you forehead slap him?

 

[tiff86]

Yeah I dont get if its not obvious, like I think when I do its really obvious. 1 time my roommate overheard us cuz she was in her room next door and she even told me it was really obv when I was cumming lol. :smile:

 

[B_casualtxt]

Hmm... look what I dug up...

1. If you can't tell, the answer is frequently "no"
2. Even if you THINK she did, the answer is still sometimes "no"
3. Women who fake are doing the whole world a disservice by letting men who are crappy in bed think they are really doing something
4. If if she doesn't cum, it doesn't necessarily mean anything was wrong
5. Porn has confused a lot of people, men and women alike. That shit does not sound hot

That was my 2 cents. I'm going to eat some more Girl Scout cookies now.

 

[rojji]

Damn, Girl Scout cookies sound delicious right now! Please tell me you have those chocolaty ring-shaped ones!

Anyways, I always wondered too.. but I figure since I'm still young I'll learn the signs in due time. Sigh, why do all you women have to be so DIFFERENT, gosh. :grin:

 

[gotAbigMAN]

I have different types of orgasms. There's a dry one where I get the shakes right before. And my pussy gets mad tight. We usually orgasm at the same time when I do this. Then I have wet orgasms. Where I jus moan. No words. Jus steady moaning. Then I feel my pussy get really really wet. I've never actually seen wit my own eyes it squirt out but I assume it does because when he pulls out its all over my inner thighs and where I'm layin n bed. And after that I'm good for nothin. I'm overly tired. My body Feels mad weak and heavy. And only have enough strength to roll over and go to sleep. I only have wet orgasms in missionary.

 

[modulo]

My e/w had an orgasm while we were having sex. I tried the "riding high" position and needless to say, she let out a roar and I felt her cervix hitting my head. Her abdominal muscled were also contracting. I read somewhere that if the man is on top and shifts his hips so that his shaft is stimulating her clit, this could happen...and it did. She had never had that happen during the time we were together and judging by her reaction, it was probably the first time.

 

[B_nuketully]

I have noticed 2 things (not always together) that usually let me know a girl had a big orgasm. (I have noticed that some ladies have a couple diffenent types of orgasms but i'm talking about the OMG version)

1) She gets really really wet when she does
2) She will get you to stop fucking her or slow you way down as she digs her fingers into you and cums.

Some girls are done after one good orgasm for a bit but most can keep going.

I've never been able to feel a difference with my dick as far as tightening goes though when a girl cums.

 

[Drifterwood]

Who cares?

 

[quintessence]

This

Asian orgasm

May sum up what has already been said.

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