How To Tell My Partner I'm Addicted To Flaunting

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Hey guys,
It's been many years now that I've been flaunting in locker rooms and gym showers and spending time on lpsg and chaturbate.
I just LOVE to show off and I really like it that I have admirers and people staring at my cock when I'm taking a shower or getting hard in the sauna. It used to be a lot of fun for me when I was single because, well, I love the attention.
Im not in an open relationship and I don't really have interest in any of the guys who stare at me at the gym, but I do want to feel free of lying to my boyfriend that I'm sitting in the sauna waiting for some fans to drop by and jerk next to me. I don't know how to even start telling him I'm into pumping and PE and that I love the attention of others and love seeing big dicks around me...

We do have our fun time together abroad when we go to saunas when we're traveling, but it's never as exciting as doing it alone.
 

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Depending on the parties in a relationship, even minor flirtations can spell trouble. In others harmless flirtation is permitted and even enjoyed by the partner. So either you hide your activities; or you come clean just like you did your posting. You know your BF better than any of us, so only you will know how best to bridge the topic ; or bury it

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Depending on the parties in a relationship, even minor flirtations can spell trouble. In others harmless flirtation is permitted and even enjoyed by the partner. So either you hide your activities; or you come clean just like you did your posting. You know your BF better than any of us, so only you will know how best to bridge the topic ; or bury it

Good Luck
I know that everything I do is considered harmless by him, but I can't even start thinking about how pervert I'd look like to him haha...
 

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It's unfortunate that you didn't have this discussion earlier, but there is no time like now to own it and have a discussion that could allow you to have more of a complete relationship without hiding things.

If you two have played together on trips, I am sure your partner is aware of what a turn on it can be for you (and, it sounds like for him too). If your hard work-outs and pumping has the benefit of being admired by men (probably both straight and gay), I am sure he enjoys it too! IMHO, it certainly is NOT pervy!

I can relate with your outlook. I love being admired by other guys but, unlike you, I allow it to go further when I feel compelled. In my relationship (17+ years), my now-husband and I established an open understanding from the start (heck, our first meet-up after a month of online chatting & phone calls was at a sex club!). My partner understands me, and had no problems when I was in porn for 6 years. I would have loved starting it when I was younger, but entering that field as a 'daddy' was plenty of fun. While I absolutely enjoyed the sex in porn (they were really just a sex parties with more hot guys & cameras), I also got off on the thought that other guys jacking off to me.

Even now, keeping my physique and sex appeal up (at age 61) remains a positive influence. I get to the gym regularly, enjoy the admiration of other men (straight & gay) there, and having a complete package of a great sized dick AND a muscular build makes me feel great. I know my partner enjoys what I have to offer, and I would not be offering all of it if I didn't have that extra desire to show off some!

Enjoy your life, and I hope the discussion goes well!
 
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It's unfortunate that you didn't have this discussion earlier, but there is no time like now to own it and have a discussion that could allow you to have more of a complete relationship without hiding things.

If you two have played together on trips, I am sure your partner is aware of what a turn on it can be for you (and, it sounds like for him too). If your hard work-outs and pumping has the benefit of being admired by men (probably both straight and gay), I am sure he enjoys it too! IMHO, it certainly is NOT pervy!

I can relate with your outlook. I love being admired by other guys but, unlike you, I allow it to go further when I feel compelled. In my relationship (17+ years), my now-husband and I established an open understanding from the start (heck, our first meet-up after a month of online chatting & phone calls was at a sex club!). My partner understands me, and had no problems when I was in porn for 6 years. I would have loved starting it when I was younger, but entering that field as a 'daddy' was plenty of fun. While I absolutely enjoyed the sex in porn (they were really just a sex parties with more hot guys & cameras), I also got off on the thought that other guys jacking off to me.

Even now, keeping my physique and sex appeal up (at age 61) remains a positive influence. I get to the gym regularly, enjoy the admiration of other men (straight & gay) there, and having a complete package of a great sized dick AND a muscular build makes me feel great. I know my partner enjoys what I have to offer, and I would not be offering all of it if I didn't have that extra desire to show off some!

Enjoy your life, and I hope the discussion goes well!

That's true. I believe a lot of gay men have this part in their life where they are used to hide their sexuality for so long and being used to secret encounters in locker rooms and bathroom stalls and cruising in general, that when they finally come out, they still have those old habits of getting sexually aroused.

So when I began the relationship I thought it would all be over for me so I didn't even bother talking about it with my partner.
My boyfriend already found out about my cockring and thought I was cheating on him although I only wear it for the heavy bulge. He told me I should've told him that earlier because that would be such a turn on for him. I must say I didn't expect this response lol.

I'm definitely not into opening my relationship since I don't feel like the benefits arent that important to me as having a monogamous relationship. However, I don't think I'd ever want others to stop looking at him when I walk around naked out of the shower in the gym...
 

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Maybe try telling him but say it's one of your friends or a story you heard, so he gets an idea of what you are talking about but doesn't know it's you.
It's not like you are out having sex and not telling him. It's 100% safe and pretty tame.
Idk might be better to just tell him, cause the longer you hold on to it, the more you will want to seek this and it might eat away t you.
 

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I've told most guys that I've dated that I find it totally exhilarating to be seen naked, in locker rooms, nude beaches, etc. Responses have fallen in 2 categories:
  1. neutral - he doesn't necessarily share that feeling of exhilaration, but has no issue with it
  2. positive - he finds it a turn on, too
I've never had a negative response. The reward of #2 responses are great...we can get naked together in front of other guys and later have it be part of sex talk...how hot it was being naked, what guys were checking out my dick and/or his dick, etc.
 
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I've told most guys that I've dated that I find it totally exhilarating to be seen naked, in locker rooms, nude beaches, etc. Responses have fallen in 2 categories:
  1. neutral - he doesn't necessarily share that feeling of exhilaration, but has no issue with it
  2. positive - he finds it a turn on, too
I've never had a negative response. The reward of #2 responses are great...we can get naked together in front of other guys and later have it be part of sex talk...how hot it was being naked, what guys were checking out my dick and/or his dick, etc.
Love this. You're absolutely right.
I think I'll tell him exactly that.