Rugbypup
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Have found myself in a not to dissimilar situation.
I've chosen friendship of being feared.
Straight men are funny creatures and most have a homophobic mask where as really, they aren't to bothered by (non camp) bi and gay men.
There is just a different set of man friendship rules that seem to apply for bi gay men with straight friends, not all of course, I'm generalising.
When I was younger, I had a friend that over the few month we knew each other I had a crush for, though being young and naive, I just didn't know it or understand it. In the end I chose to purposely destroy our friendship, hurting us both, thinking it would be better to be hated for something I did, than loose this friendship because of what I think I might be.
Grown up a little since then, lol.
I've recently made a couple of straight friends, one I know, without a doubt would have nothing to do with me if he knew, be that insecurity, fear of association, whatever it is. I enjoy our friendship so have decided to keep quite and not disclose anything that wouldn't broaden our friendship.
There I agree that my sexuality is no ones business but my own.
The other, I think knows... he has oddly dominate, aggressive straight male tendencies and seems to know... scares me a little actually but of the two, I think he wouldn't the one who would really give a shit about it. I think if anything, he'd enjoy hitting on the women who I seem to attract. (Just thought about that... does that make me his pussy lure? lol) It's a time thing also, if we stay friends for a while, I may be honest about my sexuality, once he's had time to realise it simply doesn't apply to him in any way.
Like I said though, there is a different set of rule that seem to apply between bi, gay men and straight men... you're one of the guys, but you're not at the same time, if you're accepted. There are things straight guys do with, in each others company (completely innocent you dirty minded bunch) that they are uncomfortable doing with non straight guys around.
As such, I've also just chose to be quiet about my sexuality as I'm really enjoying being treated as an ordinary bloke and not 'the gay mate'.
Ultimately, if you have any issues with your sexuality, it's not worth compounding the matter. It's something, for me, that only my oldest and truest friends need know, once I'm ready to tell them.
I've chosen friendship of being feared.
Straight men are funny creatures and most have a homophobic mask where as really, they aren't to bothered by (non camp) bi and gay men.
There is just a different set of man friendship rules that seem to apply for bi gay men with straight friends, not all of course, I'm generalising.
When I was younger, I had a friend that over the few month we knew each other I had a crush for, though being young and naive, I just didn't know it or understand it. In the end I chose to purposely destroy our friendship, hurting us both, thinking it would be better to be hated for something I did, than loose this friendship because of what I think I might be.
Grown up a little since then, lol.
I've recently made a couple of straight friends, one I know, without a doubt would have nothing to do with me if he knew, be that insecurity, fear of association, whatever it is. I enjoy our friendship so have decided to keep quite and not disclose anything that wouldn't broaden our friendship.
There I agree that my sexuality is no ones business but my own.
The other, I think knows... he has oddly dominate, aggressive straight male tendencies and seems to know... scares me a little actually but of the two, I think he wouldn't the one who would really give a shit about it. I think if anything, he'd enjoy hitting on the women who I seem to attract. (Just thought about that... does that make me his pussy lure? lol) It's a time thing also, if we stay friends for a while, I may be honest about my sexuality, once he's had time to realise it simply doesn't apply to him in any way.
Like I said though, there is a different set of rule that seem to apply between bi, gay men and straight men... you're one of the guys, but you're not at the same time, if you're accepted. There are things straight guys do with, in each others company (completely innocent you dirty minded bunch) that they are uncomfortable doing with non straight guys around.
As such, I've also just chose to be quiet about my sexuality as I'm really enjoying being treated as an ordinary bloke and not 'the gay mate'.
Ultimately, if you have any issues with your sexuality, it's not worth compounding the matter. It's something, for me, that only my oldest and truest friends need know, once I'm ready to tell them.
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