How would this be?

[skip22h]

Hi ladies

Please don't take this question as some sort of request to rate, compliment or abuse. This is not my intention. It is not my want as some here call it for fodder

Please consider this scenario as a love making session
A massage
Some cuddling
An orgasm (her) with fingers
An orgasm(her) orally
Short and sometimes premature intercourse

Would this leave you satisfied or wanting more? Would you feel content afterwards?

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

You clearly missed my digital stimulation thread in Women's Issues

Jokes aside, I actually love this kind of session. Not only is it satisfying in itself, but it can lead up to secondary sessions later in the day/night that wind up being pretty hardcore.

Even if it doesn't go there... I love sensual sexy cuddle-fucks.

 

[286798]

This is similar to the first several years of my marriage, minus the massage and often the pre-cuddles. My wasband had problems with PE. He was quite skilled at oral, though. Generally speaking, if I had "gotten mine" orally/digitally before he popped, I was usually happy. On the rare occasions I wasn't satisfied/wanted more, he would go back to oral or use a dildo. I had no complaints.

Toward the end of our marriage, he had become very selfish (in all areas of his life) and I rarely had an orgasm from other methods before we had sex. He liked to feel how I tighten just before orgasm, so he'd get me close orally, then enter and he'd almost always have his orgasm RIGHT BEFORE I'd "get there". He took a long time to recover/come to his senses and I'd be laying there feeling ripped off, resentful and angry before he'd make any sort of offer to finish the job. Not a good thing. By the time he'd offer, I'd be mad enough at him that I'd no longer be in the mood and would say no... which led to even more resentment that not only would I get an orgasm from sex, but that I wasn't getting any orgasms with him in any fashion. Even worse.

Of note, I dated a guy after my divorce who had problems reaching orgasm. This meant he had incredible sexual stamina, despite not having good athletic stamina. I'd almost always have an orgasm or 2 during a session with him. I didn't like that he'd only get there about 40% of the time we'd have sex, and it made me start to wonder if I wasn't attractive, too fat, not desirable, and all sorts of other negative self-image thoughts... I started to resent him, too.

So I've experienced both extremes. I was happier in the scenario you describe than with a man who would fuck me silly and not get there himself. Hope that helps.

 

[MickeyLee]

Dude, primarily gay here. Most of my sex life has been sans penile penetration. What you describe sounds pretty damn awesome, assuming there is a reciprocation of pleasure for my partner. I'm a giver

The short penetration *ponders* It depends on how close to orgasm I got during PIV. If I were about to about to orgasm and my partner came before me I might feel a bit like I missed out on something. That is not likely to happen, though. I am fairly highly orgasmic. More than 80/20 I would orgasm with initial penetration anyway.

There needs to be more cuddle-fucking in porn.

 

[MickeyLee]

I wanted to add my love for a good solid snog. I could make out for hours and want nothing more. Skin to skin from head to toe. Mouths fused and synchronized for breathing. Oh, yeah. That is my jam. If the moment never escalated past kissing and dry humping I would still be one hundred percent satisfied with the going on. It's all desperation for escalation but sinking hip deep in the touch and push of always wanting more.

 

[Holly Doors]

Well it seems like you're doing a great job compensating for maybe some intercourse issues, I would say any woman who loves their man would be more than happy with that situation, if you feel you want to bring a little more to the relationship then maybe think about introducing some toys, role play or other games. but if you're both fully satisfied with the status quo then don't try to fix something that ain't broke hunni xx

 

[AlteredEgo]

Sometimes I really want prolonged, deep penetration. I might like to add some toys for that.

 

[nailz]

We're all totally different. I'm not a big fan of fingers or oral
I'd prefer to skip most of that list and after brief foreplay just cut right to the penetration part
Cuddling is for after sex.

Short intercourse leaves me frustrated and wanting more, but unlike penis size endurance is something that every man should be able to work on.

 

[AlteredEgo]

Expanding on my earlier post:

What I wrote applies to an existing relationship. I'm not likely to want to continue if the relationship is new. I have enough experience with strained/difficult/complicated sexual relationships. I don't want a lot of obstacles right out of the box.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Short intercourse can be fine. It can suck, depending on the attitude of the dude.

I spent too long with a guy who seemed unaware that I wasn’t having much fun, let alone orgasming, with him. As the outside of bedroom relationship deteriorated, the sex went away.

Skip, what you suggest shows you want her to have fun.
Play more, add more non PIV/PIA activities. Find erogenous zones you don’t expect.

 

[skip22h]

Thanks for your thoughts ladies

 

[693987]

Please consider this scenario as a love making session

A massage
Some cuddling
An orgasm (her) with fingers
An orgasm(her) orally
Short and sometimes premature intercourse

Would this leave you satisfied or wanting more? Would you feel content afterwards?

If this was the norm for sexual encounters with my sweetie, I would personally find it a bit lacking. I really, really enjoy the sensation and feeling of connection from PiV sex if I'm with someone who has a penis. I also have only ever orgasmed from oral sex once, so it's unlikely that if oral sex is a part of the foreplay that I would actually orgasm from it.

That being said, as an occasional thing if a man doesn't have much stamina, that's fine for me, with the assumption that he is not selfish. Past potential friends with benefits lost further chances at fucking me if they came fast and didn't do anything to make sure I got mine in some capacity (fingering, toys, whatever).

Also, I'm fine with waiting out a refractory period. Kissing, cuddling, conversation, maintaining or even coming back to the same mood and going another round that may last longer is fine.

 

[950483]

Bear in mind that you are asking an audience of women who are on a big dick website, and may be more interested in penetration than the average woman. Preferences vary, but I think you should also take into consideration that some women don't orgasm from, and don't much care for penetration. What you're doing sounds good to me because you seem attentive and considerate, and I know that for some women you'd be like some kind of magical unicorn.
Personally, I really do like penetration, (and I'm on a big dick site), and I dislike oral, but I have been in relationships with women who were not at all keen on penetration.