wow!
i know what you mean about it being thrust down your throat though. i'm making sure my girlbelieves she can do anything and my boy knows how to cook for himself...it's just as unfair to never teach a boy the basics of house keeping.
True... Unfortunately, I was also criticized for everything I did, even down to the way I walk and the way I talk. So I grew up thinking I was useless at everything except book-learning. (And the teachers even thought my ability at that was just overcompensation for my lack of ability at everything else!) So I grew up having very few skills, which is biting me back now because I have trouble keeping a job, despite really, really wanting to keep it and do well.
I knew a lot of parents who wouldn't allow their boys to learn to cook or clean house! I kid you not! That was "women's work", so only women and girls did that. UGH!!! That's why I got a little anti-staying-at-home growing up. I'm not as much now - more "to each their own" - as a result of the illness I had in 2003. It made me change perspectives on a few things. But I personally still wish I had the skills/ability to do well at a job, and my career interests have always been in traditionally male fields at that. (I work in the IT field, but have also been interested in sciences, engineering and electrician work - although I didn't develop the skills needed to do any of these kinds of jobs. I can do entry-level IT work but mostly people are only hiring for senior-level.)
I think that both boys and girls should grow up learning both sets of skills. Unfortunately, I learned
neither set. I was stubborn about not wanting to learn the traditional female stuff, and wasn't allowed to learn the traditional male stuff (actually, my parents would've been ok with it except that my dad could get gruff with me when I didn't do it perfectly right away, so I pretty much gave up because I don't deal well with people getting gruff with me.) I think if I could've learned the things that interested me, without gruffness from home, or in the case of school, etc., not being allowed - I would've been more open to learning to cook and clean. Well, I CAN clean house, I just don't want to! :biggrin1: