It makes total sense if there's history which puts you against the idea!For me, it would be a big fucking deal. I know I have emotional baggage about this. I know it and I acknowledge it, but that doesn't make it magically go away. I have an ex who cheated on me, in spite of repeated checking in on my part to make sure our relationship parameters suited him. He didn't use safe sex practices. He exposed me to serious health risks, because we were fluid bound.
I don't do sudden revelations about sexual orientation. Someone disclosing it prior to getting serious is one thing. Disclosing it years into a relationship? What else have they lied to me about? At this point I'm in my 30s. I'm in a location that is very liberal leaning. To me, there's no reason for anyone to NOT disclose their sexual orientation to me, if they intend to get serious with me. There is little to zero risk of violence for being LGBTQ+ out here. I know some families might not be accepting still, but their family is one thing. A potential serious romantic partner is a different thing entirely. I would think people in their 30s should have a pretty fucking solid grasp of what their sexual orientation is like too, at this phase of their life. Especially given how accepting this area is of it as a whole.
So. To me, a sudden revelation about sexual orientation translates to them lying to me, and I would likely drop them like something distasteful left on my front porch getting dropped into a trash bin. I have pretty much a zero tolerance policy for dishonesty from a partner. I do bold, blunt truth. Lies or even game playing? Keep on keeping on, I am not the person for you.
If we were already in a relationship, it wouldn’t change much. I would still expect monogamy. On the inside, I’d be quite emotionally distressed. I have had very poor experiences with bisexual men.
Look at the thread here:
Married men who use a cocksucker
What the actual fuck? What does that tell you? Really disturbing. Pages and pages of unfaithful, lying bisexual men. Doesn’t bode well for relationships with them, does it?
Apparently, lots of men disagree with you. They would rather slip out on the sly and meet up with a man. The men who cheated on me with other men had nothing lacking sexually at home except a penis on my behalf. I’m a little put off.I genuinely can't believe what I've read on that post. Surely the best thing to do would be communicate with your partner? If you want a man to suck your dick then tell your wife. If she's happy to compromise then perfect. If she doesn't suck enough or well enough then they should tell her and work on it. Nobody should stoop as low as cheating on their partner for sexual gratification!
I love the thought of sucking a dick! But only if my girlfriend was doing it with me!
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I am not a person that judges anyone by their sexual Orientation. I observe people everyday of my life. I was molested when I was younger, after that I did everything in my power to not draw attention from the opposite sex. For a long time more than half my life I had no interest in any sex.
I lost my ability to conceive during the abortion (from being molested). The act that took my virginity was the molestation it wasn’t pleasant it was forced. So sex was not something I had any
Interest in. Actually honestly I have many male & female friends that are bi. I’ve been begged by a bi male to have sex. I had no interest.
Trust - honor - honesty are areas where I have no
Flexibility. I would with out a second thought give my life to save yours.
If I’m going to share that part of me with you, you dam well better be honest. To me lying is worse than admitting you are bi, There are a lot of factors: like doing something that would endanger my health. That should be addressed. In a committed relationship there should normally be communication & open communication.
I would wonder if I’m enough, that’s not a good place for anyone to be.
Knowing that I would move on, no I wouldn’t.
+1It depends on the context. If the revelation were to open the doors to infidelity, yes, big fucking problem. If it's an open marriage/relationship and has been discussed and mutually agreed to, then not a problem, as long as he was safe. If he doesn't want to fuck around and wants to experiment with toys, gay porn etc.. im all for it.
I have no problem with how my partner swings, they should have no problem with the way I swing. Communication and trust are more important than genitalia in a relationship imho.
Then again.. lie to me or deceive me I get real nasty. Real. Nasty.
If we were already in a relationship, it wouldn’t change much. I would still expect monogamy. On the inside, I’d be quite emotionally distressed. I have had very poor experiences with bisexual men.
Look at the thread here:
Married men who use a cocksucker
What the actual fuck? What does that tell you? Really disturbing. Pages and pages of unfaithful, lying bisexual men. Doesn’t bode well for relationships with them, does it?
I get where you're coming from, and that thread is definitely cringey, but isn't your take here a bit dismissive to bisexual people who aren't into those toxic relationships considering many have nothing to do with the those lifestyles displayed in that one little toxic social bubble of a thread on a relatively obscure internet sex forum?
Again, it’s based on my experience.I get where you're coming from, and that thread is definitely cringey, but isn't your take here a bit dismissive to bisexual people who aren't into those toxic relationships considering many have nothing to do with the those lifestyles displayed in that one little toxic social bubble of a thread on a relatively obscure internet sex forum?