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How would you feel if you met your mr perfect tall handsome and well endowed but had a succesfull career in porn and has fans from all over the world.

How would this affect your long term view on your relationship with him and how would you aproach the issue of having children with a succesfull pornstar?
 

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It wouldn't matter to me as long as there was mutual respect and an honest and monogamous relationship. Porn career in the past? Don't care. Existing and ongoing porn career? I don't think I could deal.
 

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I'm not a jealous person by nature so if his job is to fuck other girls and he's good enough at it to make a nice comfortable living, then it wouldn't bother me (as long as he doesn't bring his work home with him and has time to fuck me too~~ :wink: )

I'd expect totally honest and openness and would imagine that sex would be only part of the reason I fell in love with him in the first place. Everything is is what makes a relationship complete.

Children? Depends on if he wanted them too. I'm sure there would be a way you could deal with "what does daddy do?" when those questions come up.... "daddy is an actor." "can we see his movies?" "Uhm.... no... not right now... not until you are 21!" :biglaugh:

As far as worrying about disease? I'd imagine that pornstars have to take all kinds of precautions to make sure they are clean and dont' have any STD's to pass on. So I'd now worry there.

His "fan base" would be no different from a Rock Star or Film Star.... anyone with a bit of fame is going to have a following... and out of that there will always be stalkers and groupies to deal with. I'd hope he'd share his thoughts and stories with me so that I could help him deal with them.

Now, if he is Mr. Perfect for me... that means he meets my needs... For a LTR to be considered... I'd have to be Ms. Perfect for him too,right? So, that means that he would care for me far more than the actors or groupies he has to deal with on a regular basis... Maybe he would need someone to keep his feet grounded?

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I don't know. If and when I have kids I would want to explain to them that sex should be between people who love each other. I think I would feel uncomfortable dating, marrying, having a family with a porn star. However, since I've never been in the situtian I can't say for sure one way or the other. I do know that I would never want anything myself or a spouse ever did to affect our future or our childrens future. I just don't know.
 

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I wouldn't date a porn star at all. I don't watch it and it has never appealed to me. Any man who I have ever dated and the one who I am with now knows that they must be one woman men.
 

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How would you feel if you met your mr perfect tall handsome and well endowed but had a succesfull career in porn and has fans from all over the world.

How would this affect your long term view on your relationship with him and how would you aproach the issue of having children with a succesfull pornstar?

As in past tense? As long as he was honest and faithful, there would be no issue.
 

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Fancy pretty much hit the nail on the head for me, too. I don't want kids, so that wouldn't be an issue. The rest would be dealt with as it came up. For that relationship to work there would need to be a LOT communication and trust... But I won't be in a relationship without that anyway.
 

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Clear and honest answers.

How about the issue of family, colleauges, children at school etc.
As in you introduce your man to your family and they recognise him from their secret porn collection or he picks you up from work and everybody knows him. Children at school picking at your children because their daddy was a pornactor.
Or just the town you live in treats you like outsiders as if you were a devilspawn.
 

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I would be less concerned about my family. Even if my Father didn't approve I know he would still love me the same. The rest of my family could pretty much go their own way. I wouldn't care.

As far as work is concerned I doubt a husband's past would effect my job.

Towns people can get bent, who cares.

Children having problems .... well as I said before I would never want myself or a spouse's past to affect their future. I think when you create a little person their well being comes first.
 

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Well, when I think about it my husband's past could have been considered parallel to that of a porn star. As a travelling musician his history with women is a few chapters long. Believe me, he's been tested and tested and tested again before I considered getting serious.

Unlike a porn star he has no recorded history so there's no explaining things to children. My daughter is now an adult, and she's put two and two together a long time ago: rock star = nookie. She even asked him about groupies one time when she was in high school, and he just laughed her off. I told him it's a sin to lie. He said I never told her anything.
 

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Anybody can make something from nothing.

If it is not a problem between my partner and me, then I'd hold my head up high and teach my children to do the same. (I'm sure there would be women, and men, in the town envious of me/him.) As far as the "you're a sinner" folks? Fuck'em... I try not to judge, and not gonna waste my time trying to justify anything to anyone. It is what it is... either you accept it or don't. If you don't, then just kindly keep on walking by.

The person reconizing them from their "secret stash"? What's the problem there? What the pornstar does is done in the open... the other guy is the one with the guilt, if there is a problem.

You know that kids listen to their parents talk about other people and that's where the bullying can come in... "I heard my dad say your dad was a porn star" (probably not fully even understanding what the words mean, but knowing from the tone of the conversation it MUST be something terrible!) Parents really should be more careful what we teach our children and how we talk about others in front of them. And is really is a shame that something like that would be brought to attention before the parents felt the timing was right to discuss it.

You know what? Life is hard.... but if there are two people who truly love one another, they can overcome any obstacle, together.

FP