How would you get closer to an attractive person?

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So lets say you notice an attractive guy at work, school, or whatever and you wanna get closer to him. How would you slowly get to know them to the point where you are comfortable to do ANYTHING around him like jerking off or undressing. I hear these relationships take years to build, but anyway, how did you guys do it in highschool/college.
 

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Be a genuine person and find a common topic...the end part is entirely dependant on that person's personality as well as yours.
 

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I have the same question, I don't want to wank just yet, I only what want him to like me as a person, but I only have like a few days before he moves to bloody Vienna... :-(
you mean you only have a few days to get him to like you or to jack off? if it's a few days to get him to like you I think your best bet is to be really open and say something like "dude, you're really cool, I'm glad I met you" (or whatever, has to be what you're really thinking and why you really like him). It's just not possible for him to know you really well so quick, but if you're open about how you feel then you have that genuine connection.
 

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So lets say you notice an attractive guy at work, school, or whatever and you wanna get closer to him. How would you slowly get to know them to the point where you are comfortable to do ANYTHING around him like jerking off or undressing. I hear these relationships take years to build, but anyway, how did you guys do it in highschool/college.

I think you just gotta take it as it comes. Best thing is someone you like as a friend anyways, and then you just like each others' company and it turns into messing around sometimes. So focus should be on the friendship, and then the other stuff just happens when it happens.

You could always be blunt about it at some point, depending how comfortable you are and what he's like. But then you run the risk of setting it back, if he's the type of person that doesn't feel comfortable thinking/talking openly about it, but might get horny in the moment. You never know. Just gotta go with the flow and make your best guesses, maybe it'll happen and maybe it won't.
 

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Yeah I think the more you becomes friends, it will be easier. My thing is i have LOADS of friends, just not super close bc i dont live near them
 

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you mean you only have a few days to get him to like you or to jack off? if it's a few days to get him to like you I think your best bet is to be really open and say something like "dude, you're really cool, I'm glad I met you" (or whatever, has to be what you're really thinking and why you really like him). It's just not possible for him to know you really well so quick, but if you're open about how you feel then you have that genuine connection.
to know me, once he likes me, jacking and possibly more will come by itself, there are some rumors about his sexuality... but i like him in so many ways, hes cute and nice and oh so smart, and i think thats exactly what im gonna do... ill let you know. thx
 

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to know me, once he likes me, jacking and possibly more will come by itself, there are some rumors about his sexuality... but i like him in so many ways, hes cute and nice and oh so smart, and i think thats exactly what im gonna do... ill let you know. thx

we finally met, after a whole month of me thinking about him, we were together the whole day,, in a pub,big company, talking, and wow! for a moment the situation got a bit tensed, so we immediately ordered some drinks and a few minutes later it was all fine again :) He is as wonderful as i thought he would be, i couldnt keep my eyes off of him... he is so intelligent and funny but in a not-obvious kind of way... wow! ill have to give it my best and cutest once more just to make sure and then i've a new friend :)
 

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"It's our best kept secret."

Lol. This whole thread is all kinds of messed up!

You can't plan for things like that to happen. If they do, then cool, but it's not up to you to decide that the friendship is going to go in that direction. Friendships are two way streets - If at all you truly do want to be this guys friend, coz it just sounds like you're using him for sexual gratification. And that, my friends, is the sign of a sexual predator. *creeped out*
 
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