I'm a 25 year old guy and have been having sex with a 35 year old woman.
The sex has been great for the both of us.
The problem is that she has a 13 year old son and he is obviously not stupid and knows what is going on. He has seen us the morning after when the both of us get up. Sometimes I get this s**t eating grin from
him and at times does make me feel uncomfortable.
How would you handle this? He probably is jerking off in his room when I'm having sex with his mother.
Don't tell me that we should go somewhere else to have sex - that strikes me of being dishonest.
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I would think about my actions and the fact that I am affecting the mind of a child and that the situation is far more serious than the needs that I or my fuck buddy may have.
I would not have a relationship with a mother of a child until and unless I was able to have it while being a positive influence on the child. Children may hear married parents having sex. The concern that I would have is less about the need for privacy. It is more that your post sounds as though you are having casual sex with this woman and are concerned for privacy. But not about the affect that you may be having on the child.
I mean, c'mon -- you're asking the members of the forum for large penis guys how to handle this?
And you're concerned with being honest?
Are you serious? Are you a serious person?
This is a child. The imagery that you are imprinting on this child's mind may be fundamental to his development, especially his relationship to women, including his mother.
If you do not have a friendship with the child; if you have not talked to him about your relationship to his mother -- if you're someone alien to him who is having sex with his mother that relationship is unhealthy.
To me, it's a demonstration to the child about what are acceptable limits of promiscuity and what role commitment should have. And it defines where his mother should reside in his conception of what is a virtuous woman.
There's nothing wrong with fucking her. As a mother she surely needs it. Take your ass to a hotel or your own damn place to fuck. Don't do it around her children unless they respect and relate to you as a daddy -- and a good daddy at at that. You cheapen her if you do not, and you cheapen her in the eyes of her children. And you cheapen yourself.
And as far as your need for honesty is concerned: this is a child. He's not
supposed to have honesty about the sex life of his mother with a fuck buddy. He's not supposed to have a sex life at that age.
There are so many things about being a man, and a man with class, and dignity, and virtue, grace and self respect that are lost in the age of the Internet.
Trust me, I am no better than you, but I speak from the heart and know what I'm talking about: Take it outside. Keep your sex life with that mother out of the child's world. If you are having more than casual sex, if you do feel some commitment to her, have a relationship with her children. They need you.
Ultimately, I'd rather jerk off in the bathroom and be a good influence on the kids than fuck that woman two sheets of 1/2 inch drywall away from the impressionable mind of a child.
That's how i would handle it.
What the fuck. I'm an idiot though.
Your post makes me so sad. For real.