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I have an honest question for all of the straight guys out there, and if its been asked before, i apologize. I have have heard this answer alot in real life when someone has asked "how do you feel about gay people?" and i've heard alot of guys say something along the lines of "I dont mind as long as they dont hit on me".....if this would be your response, how would you react to this scenario assuming the guy doing the hitting was not overdoing it and making you feel totally uncomfortable about it. How would this be different if it was a female that you found very unattractive and totally not your type hitting on you?
 

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The word "unattractive" would be the reason I would be put off. Personality wise unattractive more than physically. Gay or str8 it doesn't matter for me, I'm flattered otherwise. Being happily married and knowing my boudaries I can play along, lol.
I do know where my line is though.
 

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would you react to this scenario assuming the guy doing the hitting was not overdoing it and making you feel totally uncomfortable about it.

I had two kinds of experience: the basic, friendly situations didn't bother me so much, but made me a little uncomfortable. The much more aggressive situations pissed me off. My reaction was like, "Do that again and I'll break your arm."

In the case of women, I always felt a little guilty about hurting their feelings when I turned them down. I never felt that way about turning down a guy.
 

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I had two kinds of experience: the basic, friendly situations didn't bother me so much, but made me a little uncomfortable. The much more aggressive situations pissed me off. My reaction was like, "Do that again and I'll break your arm."

I would have to agree 100%. Same situations for me the first was more of a compliment, but the last guy pushed me to the brink of annoyance. If it wasn't for the fact that it was his brother's house, where I was staying at that night, probably would of knocked him out.
 
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When I have been hit on by gay guys I have been flattered. Now if they touched my junk or something really forward: I would probably be offended.
 

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I have an honest question for all of the straight guys out there, and if its been asked before, i apologize. I have have heard this answer alot in real life when someone has asked "how do you feel about gay people?" and i've heard alot of guys say something along the lines of "I dont mind as long as they dont hit on me".....if this would be your response, how would you react to this scenario assuming the guy doing the hitting was not overdoing it and making you feel totally uncomfortable about it. How would this be different if it was a female that you found very unattractive and totally not your type hitting on you?
"Stop hitting on me."

If he persists there is going to be a problem.
 

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When I first got out of school I worked on the East side of Manhattan just outside of the Village. In my office there were a large number of Gay fellows who were mostly harmless and just kidded around, many of the sales people were gay and the comunity in generay was open minded. So after a year or so I kind of just went with it, learned to accept compliments from men as well as women, not to tense up if someone who was openly gay touched me in a playfulll manner. I will not say I am 100% Ok, but I have no problems with anyone being gay or living their lives
 
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I would have to agree 100%. Same situations for me the first was more of a compliment, but the last guy pushed me to the brink of annoyance. If it wasn't for the fact that it was his brother's house, where I was staying at that night, probably would of knocked him out.

I agree with the guy that agrees ^^^
 

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If a guy hits on me, I am flattered and will say as such; it's a compliment of the best kind. If a guy persists in hitting on me even after the niceties are done and the advances are unwanted, then I don't have to be nice.

No matter who's doing the hitting-on, direct and clear language is highly appreciated. People, for the most part, can detect non-verbal communication. If someone hits on me and I can't return the feelings of attraction, I will express thanks but I will move away from the person and go elsewhere. If someone starts hovering all around me, I will politely excuse us somewhere else, call attention to the behavior, and ask that the person stops. If this occurs online, I generally ignore it.

Seriously, I'm really struggling to think of a time that a gay guy has really pushed my boundaries. Once or twice and quite a number of years ago, if that. I have a couple of gay friends that I'm comfortable hugging and hanging out with, and I don't feel like they're reading any signals or attraction; they know my orientation and are fine with it too. Worst thing I've had to deal with is them ogling dudes as they walk by, but I just laugh about it. (Focus, dude!)
 
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Humanity is made up of many and varying things. Sexuality is but one of those many things. How big a deal someone wants to make out of anothers sexual preferences depends upon the individual. When I was a young bloke I was offered a lot of money to participate in male + male interaction. Never took up the offers and no-ones nose was put out of joint. But as seattle says, it's very flattering to be attractive to the same sex.
 

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i have no problem with sexuality. whatever makes u happy. i dont think ive ever been hit on by a gay guy, but i dont think it would bother me. as long as he didnt make a scene of it. id be ok knowing im fuckable in the gay community as well. :)
 

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When I was in college, a very unattractive girl would flirt with me whenever she saw me. While it stayed sweet and funny, it was no problem. As soon as she became aggressive in her flirtation, I was irritated. Eventually, she became so aggressive that I told her to back off or I would be forced to say or do something in front of our friends that would embarass her. She never got it, really, and I had, on more than one occasion, to physically push her away.

Although no gay man has ever been that aggressive in pursuing me, I would guess that that is how I would handle that situation, as well...
 

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I don't think it would be any different. Of course by "unattractive" I assume you mean not just their appearance, but in other ways too someone I wouldn't be interested in dating.
 

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How would this be different if it was a female that you found very unattractive and totally not your type hitting on you?

Wouldn't be much of a difference. Afterward, it would depend on how aggressive they got. I've never been in the situation but if a guy were to aggressively pursue me, yeah we'd have a problem.

And the problem part only comes up because of the way i see guys pursuing women. That whole dominance/insecurity/whatever thing that happens.
 

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I guess I am on par wih most people in this discussion. Gay or straight doesnt matter to me. If you are bugging me and getting on my nervous, it is the person not the sexual preference. And anybody hitting on me makes me feel good. I put a lot of hard work into my body and I like when it is appreciated.