How'd you get your sexual confidence?

[glennb]

I'm curious how most of you guys got your sexual confidence...and what gave it to you? Was it just inherent because you figured out at some point you were well-endowed? Or maybe you're average sized...and it was after many sexual experiences you became more confident with your abilities? I'm just so astounded at so many guys and their confidence or ability to find others to sleep with. I must have missed that day in school or something. Cause I still haven't found it. I shy away from sexual interaction.

How'd that confidence happen for you? Not everyone is super handsome or hung or has a great body.

I have no sexual confidence. Every time I was with a woman it's because the encounter basically fell in my lap and I could tell several stories about that. Even sometimes when I definitely could have gotten more I didn't have the confidence to push forward. I've been with a handful of women but it was always because the woman initiated. I've been faithfully married almost 15 years so it really doesn't matter anymore and I'm not sure marriage has increased my confidence.

 

[1373263]

With women, it developed about the time I realised that I was a bit bigger than average and could usually make them squirt or at least have a very strong orgasm on a routine basis. With men, when I realised that I liked MM sex and became happy with my interest.

 

[deleted1025121]

I'm still struggling with that confidence. I guess because I dont feel like I could please either a male or female with what I have. It's just pulled me completely out of feeling of desire to even find an experience. So really there are no other ways to meet other people. So that introvert in my makes it worse. I do wonder if well-endowed men ever have no sexual desire at all too. I always think if you're hung so well, that you're libido is stronger and when you are with other sexual partners its so great..it keeps that sexual desire strong, so you keep looking for it.

 

[chrisrobin]

Guess I started young enough not to have hang ups and then found guys liked my cock and ass and I liked sex and cum so it was a marriage of flesh on/in flesh. Plus in those early days I wasn't overly fussy about my sex mates

 

[deleted814719]

I got my confidence while through "on-the-job" training with my girlfriend who I married more than 40 years ago. She was the second girl who let me feel her up (we were both of legal age) and then things got much more interesting over a period of weeks and months. When I "discovered" how to give her an orgasm, my confidence soared and to this day I've never grown tired of making her orgasm.

I'm supremely confident that I know how to pleasure her

 

[deleted784661]

I am not a large man physically. That is much different when it comes to my endowment. I am well above average. I learned during my sophomore year of college that I was well endowed. Until that point I was a virgin. I have had sexual confidence ever since then. I am an older, senior and have no difficulty getting males or females to have sex with me. Many of the men I meet in media comment about my size. Of course this boasts my ego. Yes, my confidence level is very high even now in my later senior years.

How tall are you? You're fortunate to have such confidence. Since I'm 6'1",in my life experiences especially supervisors,it seemed that the some of the shorter men had a "rooster " complex,and others didn't. The ones who had a positive attitude and self confidence were great to work with. Don't know if this works out sexually,but you seem to be well rounded.

 

[GS_PL]

Feeling better about myself and changing my appearance naturally were a couple of factors in increasing my sexual exploits. For my personal desires, I'm into other men who like me are cut (narrowing the field down rather substantially right there), and being with a man no taller than 5' 9", as even guys who claim to be that height often are lying, which makes them closer in height (shorter) to me! A fit body along with these other two preferences and I have that rare trifecta.

 

[MNpervert]

I became more confident after being with a few older women when I was young. I knew my cock was slightly above average and I watched a TON of porn in High school, but having sex with a friends mom and having her guide me and tell me how good I was kind of set off my extreme sexual confidence.