I met TheBF at a coffeeshop and we were both instantly attracted to one another, but I already had a boyfriend. He was a new friend of my friends and he fit in with the group so well that he was always around, so we became acquaintances but we kept enough distance between us that we weren't actually friends ourselves. A few months later I broke up with my boyfriend, but I didn't know that he was leaving town to return home just a week later! We kept in touch by phone and planned a weekend together. It was after a month of talking on the phone together, about 5 weeks after I broke up with my boyfriend. Neither of us planned on having sex together that weekend, but we ended up in bed late that first night and stayed in bed all day the next day... It was wonderful!
It wasn't like the typical first date. We had talked on the phone for 1-3 hours every single day for about a month, probably over 100 hours total, which is a lot more getting to know each other than most couples do in the first 3-6 months, more than likely. We didn't need to get to know each other better on our first date, I knew him so well already, so I didn't feel any guilt about sleeping with him so soon! Besides, after we had already talked so much, and after I knew that he got along with all my friends so well, the only thing left to discover was if our attraction translated into actual physical compatibility. It did! :smile:
He's had me wrapped around his finger ever since.