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Hello everybody!

I am new in the forum and this is my first post. I need advice in this situation that I am facing right now. I have no choice but to tell this story in this forum because I literally have no gay friends. I am going to try to keep this as short as possible and get straight to the point. I do tend to overwrite, so just bare with me if you feel like I am not getting the point. Eventually I will!

There is this guy in two of my classes this semester that I find really handsome. In our first class the professor asked every student to do quick introductions. When he said his name, I tried to memorize it, so that I could find him on social media later. I found him on Instagram and going through his comments I saw some guys commenting on his pictures and one comment from a guy that says “I am so gay.” I had the feeling that he was gay when I first saw him. But to be clear I am not 100% sure.

Last Thursday, I was waiting in front of the classroom because there was another class inside. Some of my classmates started to show up and he arrived as well. He did not stand directly next to me, but he was close to me. He was talking to this guy who signed up for our class late. From what I overheard they know each other because they had a class together in the past. All of the sudden I hear whispering. He was trying to tell me something.

He tried to tell me twice, but I legit did not hear what he was trying to say. I just said “what, what?” Finally, I heard him the third time and he was asking me the start time of the class and I told him. I immediately wondered why he was asking that. He could have asked the guy he was talking to + he attended the class last week, so he knows the start time. A few minutes later we got into the classroom and he did not seat next to me (last week he did.)

I started to feel some type of way about it and I concluded that he thought I was being mean when he tried to ask me the start time of the class. I decided to be brave and I created a plan. I was waiting for the 10-minute break our professor gives us, but he stepped out of the classroom before the break. I waited like 2/3 minutes and I went outside as well. I pretended like I was going to the bathroom and I saw him on the lobby of the building seating by himself using his phone. I saw him, he saw me and I went to the bathroom.

After going to the bathroom, I started walking towards him and when he saw me he smiled and said: “That class is so boring.” I did not even respond to that I went straight to tell him what I was planning to tell him. I told him that I was not trying to be mean when he asked me about the time earlier. He said: “Oh no, I did not think you were mean. I know you are nice” I told him that I was really focus reading the reviews of the Harley Quinn movie. We had a brief conversation. He told me that he was going to try to see the movie over the weekend and he told me that I should see it, so that I could tell him my opinion. He was smiling the whole conversation and I sensed that he was a bit shy. I was nervous as well. I went back to the classroom and he did the same a few minutes after me.

We did not talk after that. When the class was over, he said bye and told me that he will see me next week. As you can see by the title, I do not have any experience in relationships, flirting, etc. If you guys can tell me what you think about this situation, I would appreciate it. Also, what should I do next in the case you think I should do something. I tried to make this story as short as possible, but if you need more details let me know in the comments.

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I told him that I was really focus reading the reviews of the Harley Quinn movie. We had a brief conversation. He told me that he was going to try to see the movie over the weekend and he told me that I should see it, so that I could tell him my opinion. He was smiling the whole conversation and I sensed that he was a bit shy. I was nervous as well. I went back to the classroom and he did the same a few minutes after me...We did not talk after that.

You blew a golden opportunity to ask him if he would like to see that movie with you. He already thinks your nice. Befriend, flatter and be nice to him. You need to become intimate with one another to learn what feelings you have ,if any, for one another.
 
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You blew a golden opportunity to ask him if he would like to see that movie with you. He already thinks your nice. Befriend, flatter and be nice to him. You need to become intimate with one another to learn what feelings you have ,if any, for one another.

But that was the first time we ever spoke. I thought it was going to sound weird if I suggested that I wanted to see the movie with him in our first conversation.
 

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You are completely overthinking and overanalysing this. You risk becoming obsessive or nervous around him. You just met this guy and didn’t even have a de ent conversation yet. And already you think it’s going to be your first gay experience? Get to know him first. He probably doesn’t even know your name at this stage. Invite him to sit next to you, talk to him about the class, properly introduce yourself. And then see if there’s any connection.
 
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From what you tell me here, I don't want to make any assumptions. I would go with this - after your next class, ask him if he would like to have coffee after class. Be casual about it - "Wow, long class, I need some coffee - would you like to join me?" He may not be able to for any number of reasons - so be prepared for "no." However he might say yes - in which case go for coffee and try to initiate casual conversation - school, movies, weather, etc. Expect it to be quick - don't push, you're still trying each other out a bit to see what the interests / attractions maybe. If he says no, pay attention to how he says no - is it open to getting together later, or is it a brush off like not interested? Asses and go from there.

The situation is a social interaction based on school. Transitioning it to a friendly interaction with potential intimacies down the road can take a little time. To me. the goal would be to explore the potential but not do anything that will embarrass me with the guy. For example getting into sexuality might be more down the road after a casual friendship develops.
 
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been a long time since ive responded to such a post
but being gay my response may be of value

different era than me
tbh

glad i never had that option available
however
respect you for your MOI

having to interpret/analyse what he or others say could place you at a disadvantage,i feel

tbh2
with my experience i have honestly found a direct face to face query,asking straight out,may be the better option

just on that,and in saying that boldly now
ha
my best mate at the sexual burgeoning young phase

he 18 me 23
best of mates even now
i told him i was gay when we were much much older
he claims he never gave it a thought,and affects nothing between us now
i am single,was best man at his 1st marriage
he has had 3 wives,about a dozen kids,15 odd grandchildren,and honestly states he is impotent now
that being neither here nor there

without a word of a lie,i think/believe in our younger age our friendship could well have developed into the occasional sexual experiences

i say that without reservation,having experienced it with no less than 3 persons/friends thruout life,way it was,in my case

you have already made moves with face to face conversation so thats cool
steady as it goes matey,only the beginning in what,your first,
good for you

all the very best for your endeavors buddy
 

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He said: “Oh no, I did not think you were mean. I know you are nice” I told him that I was really focus reading the reviews of the Harley Quinn movie. We had a brief conversation. He told me that he was going to try to see the movie over the weekend and he told me that I should see it, so that I could tell him my opinion...I tried to make this story as short as possible, but if you need more details let me know in the comments.
Thank you!

Did you ever get to discuss Harley Quinn or see any films with him Lambo96? Please provide an update.