I'm gonna get in on this thread. Hang in there, it's worth the read.
wallyj84's comments rub people the wrong way a lot on this site I notice & sometimes he can be cartoonish in his examples.
That burning baby example, wally...hahaha...Nobody's gonna consider the penis size of the child in that instance. Like someone said earlier, they would get the one they could get easiest & try to get the other one afterwards. HOWEVER, if one baby belonged to a wealthy famous celebrity and the other one belonged to just some everyday person...
...if this was known, then SOME people would choose to save the kid who belonged to the rich person first before rescuing the other one. THAT criteria could be believable.
But back to what I was saying. Wally confronts this site with the reality of how people view others.
He speaks out what society acts out. People want to believe they're fair & impartial. That they are not prone to hypocrisy.
But words many times don't follow actions.
People bow to power. This is a fact. In many forms. You don't make jokes against some one you fear or admire. Fear is a reaction to a power & so is admiration. When you joke against someone you are showing that you don't fear them or admire them. You don't respect them. It could be mild, it could be severe but it's there.
In the sexual realm, a large penis is not mocked. There are those who are scared of what a large penis can do & refuse it. There are those who admire what a large penis can do & accept it. But no one mocks it. Any humor towards that large penis comes from a position of fearfulness or admiration.
And since the sexual realm is a subset of the social realm, there is overlap.
Because large penises are valued highly, large penis owners can be valued highly. The owner's other traits can detract from his social value but his sexually-valued large penis won't detract from it.
But, the small penis in the sexual realm IS mocked. There are many jokes at a small penis' expense. People openly smirk, smile derisively, laugh, and disrespect small penises. No one is scared by it & no one admires it. They wrote a whole SONG on the subject for goodness' sake! A song of rejection no less.
"Don't want no short dick man. Don't want no short dick man. Eenie weenie teenie weenie shriveled little short dick man."
As we can see from that song's lyrics, small penis owners often carry the mockery, devaluement, & disrespect that their small penises do. This is because the sexual aspect is a subset of the social aspect. The owner's other traits may augment his social value but his sexually-devalued small penis won't augment it.
People judge by image. All people. Maybe HOW they do it differs but everybody does it. Respect is NOT earned, it's INSTANT & based on how you view a person by first impression. That respect level can change based on later interactions or we can say second, third, fourth, fifth, sixth, seventh impressions. But people always have an idea of how to rank someone socially by their visible traits. Dispute me or not but this is true & testable.
How many times have I read personal accounts in forums about a woman who was smitten by a guy, flirted with him, got to know him, liked what she saw from him, then chose to have sex with him...
...and disgusted, dismayed, disappointed when she saw his penis being small?
How many times did that result in the woman turning ice cold to the man afterwards withdrawing all the affection & attention she lavished on him before she knew of his penis size?
The traits that she could see registered positive to her but his hidden trait (hidden by clothing) registered negative. He was a stranger, he was hot, he was well-dressed, he had a good-paying career, he was intelligent, he had a pleasing personality, he was attentive, he was generous, he was adventurous...he was small? He is gone.
The story is very old to the men who share his small penis trait.
That's why there's such a big chip on many of their shoulders. You can't kick a dog on a chain year after year & expect that dog not to have an attitude problem.
The whole entire culture tells them they are sexually worthless. No escape. They only get poorly thought out platitudes as a respite. And because of some of those platitudes, some of these men are confused about what really is going on. They are so desperate to hang on to what seems to be a shelter from the constant social abuse seen in the larger overall culture but logic tells them numbers don't lie. So they beg for acceptance in many venues such as internet forums trying to see if those platitudes are really real.
That's why you get so many questions about "does size matter?" "does my size matter?" "what do you think about my penis size?" "is mine good enough?" "will they leave me if i'm small?"
Those questions will never end until the culture around the small-sized men changes. When it's not acceptable to mock a man because of his size. When people don't mock their sizes in private. When people openly like them for their size in a positive way.
It's human. Everyone suffers from moments like those. When people aren't sure about their place in the world, they ask questions. But they don't want a truth that says their place is beneath everyone else. Everybody wants to be loved. Everybody wants to be accepted. Everybody wants to be desired. It's a universal trait of humanity & when people don't get this, trouble happens.
Wally hates the platitudes & wants people to talk like they act. He's tired of lies. He's tired of games. He's tired of the illusions. He wants it all laid out on the table so everything's clear & he can make his decisions accordingly. He doesn't want to be in a Matrix & swallowed the red pill. He wants brute honesty in all interactions no matter how painful.
And that's the sticking point. All of life is a series of illusions. Money is an illusion. Status is an illusion. Civilization itself is an illusion. We're all a bunch of delusional animals denying how animal we are. Denying & manipulating our natures.
The United States of America says there's no caste system here in this country. Of course there is. A more modifiable malleable caste system but a caste system nevertheless. If you're born into a poor family, most likely you will live as a poor person & create more poor people. If you're born into a rich family, most likely you will live as a rich person & create more rich people. And yes, there ARE 2 sets of rules for the rich & the poor despite all the advertisement that says law is equally applied to all citizens.
The term "United States" itself is an illusion because people mostly stick to their own kinds. There IS a Black America, a White America, a Latino America, & all the rest. our traits are different & the way our traits are valued are different so our treatment will be different all throughout every aspect of society.
There's always a pecking order as much as we don't like to admit it. Especially if you're the one doing the pecking (or in some cases being pecked). Those who are called beautiful don't understand the plight of those called ugly. They don't live that reality & their personalities are not shaped by the scorn & disrespect those called 'ugly' face.
We are shaped not only by our internal chemical processes but our external environmental experiences—both the natural environment & social environment. Think about how you interact with the world based on how your brother or sister was the favorite child. Think about how you would interact with the world if YOU were the favorite child.
It appears that in the sexual realm those with the large penis are the favorite child. People give out phone numbers to meet up for sexual rendezvous based on the purchase of a pack of Magnum condoms. And the mating game has proven to be a complicated one for most people. Something has to be up when someone breaks through the complications so easily.
Value is subjective but we tend to act as if it's objective. So we rate a person's traits, examine their traits' value to us, then rate the person accordingly. Fashion exists to remind people of the subjectiveness of value. Sometimes values change.
So far, small penises are still not valued hence Wally's comment that there's no need to be proud of a small penis. Pride is a reflection of value. A basketball player is not proud of shooting airballs. He's proud to make monster dunks, 3-point shots, & half-court shots. Those points he gets on the basketball scoreboards AND respect scoreboards have value. It took lots of skill & accomplishment to be able to do that. Skill & accomplishment most people in the world can and/or will never do.
That's that pecking order again.
Wally wants people to be honest about the current reality of that pecking order, that's all.
John Lucas
