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I'll probably get a few guys chuckling over this one and call me a girlie man, but due to a very bad experience from a previous relationship, if I even get an inkling I'm hurting my wife, I go limp -- no matter how hard I was.
 

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I have had several women comment "wow, you're a big boy" or "you've got a big dick" but we still had sex anyway. The key is going nice and slow initially, and if she does have pain then only then don't go in all the way. I've found that going in about half to three quarters and slow, then eventually they wanted it all after they got comfortable. In fact, they ended up being on top of me :biggrin1:

The goal should be to make her feel awesome, not hurt her.
 

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I'll probably get a few guys chuckling over this one and call me a girlie man, but due to a very bad experience from a previous relationship, if I even get an inkling I'm hurting my wife, I go limp -- no matter how hard I was.

This is exactly my reaction! It's built in to my system - I can't possibly hurt a woman.
 

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unless she expresses, in no uncertain terms, that she is a pain freak and this is the pain she likes.

Oh yeah. I made a comparison earlier in the thread with blowjobs, that men prefer them without painful teeth scraping just like I prefer my sex without vaginal tearing or depth pain. I know for a fact that some men like CBT and they would like that, but I wouldn't bite a guy's dick on purpose unless he told me that's what he was into.
 
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Men that fantasize about hurting a woman with their penis during sex are emotionally immature, sexually insecure and detrimental to healthy, fun sex. What the fuck?! These men have some deep anger towards women or deep insecurity about themselves. They have some fucking whacked out idea about what makes them masculine, sexy, desirable etc. This not even in the same universe as a little spanking, biting, hair pulling etc. Get a fucking clue.
 

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Men that fantasize about hurting a woman with their penis during sex are emotionally immature, sexually insecure and detrimental to healthy, fun sex. What the fuck?! These men have some deep anger towards women or deep insecurity about themselves. They have some fucking whacked out idea about what makes them masculine, sexy, desirable etc. This not even in the same universe as a little spanking, biting, hair pulling etc. Get a fucking clue.

I think a lot has to do with porn where hurting a woman is considered "successful". :rolleyes: When things like "Leave her pussy sore", "make sure she can't walk the next day", "make her scream and bleed" are seen as "objectives" you have to feel that there's something greatly wrong. It's not just sex - it extends to other states of mind. I call it "porn culture". Even animals aren't that vulgar. (Note: I didn't mean the last line literally)
 
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I think a lot has to do with porn where hurting a woman is considered "successful". :rolleyes: When things like "Leave her pussy sore", "make sure she can't walk the next day", "make her scream and bleed" are seen as "objectives" you have to feel that there's something greatly wrong. It's not just sex - it extends to other states of mind. I call it "porn culture". Even animals aren't that vulgar.

I think you're right. Idiots isolated to their computers and porn think this way. Good. GTFO of real life.
 

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I think a lot has to do with porn where hurting a woman is considered "successful". :rolleyes: When things like "Leave her pussy sore", "make sure she can't walk the next day", "make her scream and bleed" are seen as "objectives" you have to feel that there's something greatly wrong. It's not just sex - it extends to other states of mind. I call it "porn culture". Even animals aren't that vulgar.

I agree with most of the sentiments expressed here except for the last line. Anyone who has heard cats having sex, or seen the reticence of female dogs about to be mounted. These animals don't care about the pain they cause - which I think is the point most of us are trying to make.
 

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I've experienced this with most of the women I've had sex with. I don't enjoy it. No matter how much I've worked a few up or slowly I've gone I've still gotten "Ouch", or even the dreaded "You're going to have to hurry up, this hurts!".

Once I even had a guy who had dated the girl I was with previously , after hearing about my size from her apparently, come up to me and say "Do you think it's hot when a girl says "Ow" when you are fucking her?"

I looked at him like he was crazy... and then told him hell no. He couldn't believe it.

I guess for some men it validates that they are big but for others, like me, it is not an enjoyable thing to know you are hurting your partners unless it's something THEY enjoy (which has also happened, though rarely).

Anyway, get a clue. It's not good, it's not hot, and it's not flattering to you unless, as has been said, it's what your partner expressly enjoys.
 

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I agree with most of the sentiments expressed here except for the last line. Anyone who has heard cats having sex, or seen the reticence of female dogs about to be mounted. These animals don't care about the pain they cause - which I think is the point most of us are trying to make.

I didn't mean it literally! I am sorry if it came across that way, obviously in bad taste. You have species that eat their mates, thankfully that doesn't happen in porn. Anyway, many animals have very refined love making procedure - Emperor penguins for one. I believe humans should be part of this group, and hurting your partner certainly doesn't qualify.
 

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I hate this thread already.

As a woman who has had to endure years of vaginal tearing as if I was a virgin nearly everytime my husband and I had sex.....
As a woman who now has scar tissue from tearing so often....
As a woman who has had to go on Estrogen to help the vagina so sex could be easier....
As a WOMAN....I don't like the braggadocios nature of these threads. It minimizes someone else who is enduring pain which is bad enough but then to think of someone BRAGGING about the pain she is going through as a nice little stroke to his ego. It's sickening.

You continue to be one of the more thoughtful posters on this site. Bravissima, Rouge.
 

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Again, you're all overreacting. I didn't say a girl being a tramp is a bad thing. There's nothing wrong with a gal being a tramp. I'm not a moralist. What people do is their business, and tramps are a valuable part of the community and always good to have around.

And vaginas over time get stretched with a lot of activity. Older women that have been around almost have more spacious pussies, in my experience, just as the girls I had in high school were tighter than the pages in a book. I actually like spacious pussies, because there's less pain for her and it's easier for me to fuck.

I'm admittedly of average size...based not on the sample size of this website, but based on the general population. My sweet wife has had four children...all vaginal birth. And we have used some large dildoes in our sex play to satisfy her occasional need for and curiosity of large cock. Her vagina - which is an elastic organ - is still tight and she still admits that my average dick is her favorite fit, although also admits to really enjoying the full feeling of something larger on occasion. (BTW, women love diversity even in penis size....sometimes big is really fun, sometimes average hits her just the right way. Thank God she's not a "slut." Not sure if you're a chauvinist or a misogynist or both. Either way, you don't seem to understand the female anatomy and, I dare say, that has inured to the extreme disadvantage of what are probably your many unfortunate partners.