ShannonH
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I'll probably get a few guys chuckling over this one and call me a girlie man, but due to a very bad experience from a previous relationship, if I even get an inkling I'm hurting my wife, I go limp -- no matter how hard I was.
You're definitely not a girlie man. It's strange but for some reason men think something that kills the mood for them means they've failed somehow. When a women loses interest or things start to feel bad for her, she can be upfront about it (or if she's dishonest, fake an orgasm..), but if something kills it for a man we're like "must... maintain.... erection...."
I had a similar bad experience just a few years ago and it took months before I felt safe enough that the slightest concern didn't send me in to a panic.