Hurting her

Discussion in 'Sex With a Large Penis' started by socky, Jun 24, 2006.

  1. socky

    socky Active Member

    Joined:
    Jun 19, 2006
    Messages:
    213
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    227
    Gender:
    Male
    Although i enjoy having a relatively large penis (9/9.5 -7.5 erect) i have found it a genuine problem during sex.
    1st of all theres gettin it in to start with. There needs to be plenty of lubrication, so that means alot of foreplay.
    Then there the problem of hitting the end of the vagina, which is uncomfortable for both if us.
    Thirdly there the simple fact that my penis seems to hurt them, sometimes to the point that they need to stop because of the pain.
    I'm not writing this thread to brag, coz there plenty of straight guys with much bigger cocks than me but i need advice...I've tried goin slower, but does any1 hav any tips on how i can made full use of my size, without causing her pain?

    Thanks for the help. :smile:
     
  2. Mr._dB

    Mr._dB New Member

    Joined:
    Feb 10, 2004
    Messages:
    675
    Likes Received:
    5
    Gender:
    Male
    Use artificial lube, experiment with positions that put her in a position of control, those things can help. But the big hurdle is mental, she's got to relax her mind to relax her pussy. If she has it in her mind that sex with you is an exercise in pain, she'll never loosen up. But if she WANTS it, she'll find a way to accomodate.

    Sometimes a little alcohol helps.

    For many women, it takes time and experience to learn how to cope with a large male partner. Conversely, often casual sex can be a bit of an ordeal for men like us, if we don't have the time to "invest" in "breaking in" a new partner.

    The best part is when she calls you the next day and says she can barely walk, and she means it in a good way.
     
  3. Pecker

    Pecker Retired Moderator
    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Mar 5, 2002
    Messages:
    83,922
    Likes Received:
    34
    Welcome, socky! You might try encircling the base of your penis with a fist so you don't go too deep, or she can do the same with her hand.

    Look around the internet for 'donuts' which will fit around the base of your erection and limit the depth of your plunge.
     
  4. Love-it

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Sep 7, 2005
    Messages:
    1,884
    Likes Received:
    2
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Northern California
    A set of dildo's of increasing diameter, glass ones are nice, lots of lube and her willingness to spend time dilating. Patience is a virtue.
     
  5. B_Hornaplenty

    B_Hornaplenty New Member

    Joined:
    Jun 11, 2006
    Messages:
    440
    Likes Received:
    5
    The first time I slipped out of my shorts to fuck my wife, she was aghast when she saw the cock I was carrying, hard and high. She's a small woman, and wondered how I was going to get that into her. The answer is cunnilingus. The first thing I did was spread her legs and go down on her, lips to "lips". It didn't take long to have her hot and squirming, with a wonderful wet pussy. My super 8 slid right in, up to the hilt. I'm 71 years and still love to eat pussy, and I advise any guy with a large cock to take advantage of that for easy, painless entry into your lover.
     
  6. Captain Elephant

    Captain Elephant Active Member

    Joined:
    May 29, 2006
    Messages:
    804
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    39
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    North Central Florida
    My first wife and I were quite young when dating, and although we fooled around a lot she was a virgin on our wedding night. Reason was that we tried to have intercourse a few times before marriage, but I could not fit. It was a leap of faith on our honeymoon that a miracle would happen. That miracle was lube. Lots and lots of lube. Since we never had children she never got much looser.

    The downside of the tightness was that I could not last very long in her. Foreplay was the main event and intercourse was the finale.

    My second wife has had children so she is considerably looser. Still I rely on Astro Glide for a more comfortable fit.

    Depth is still a problem though. I've found myself poking in places that should remain unpoked, judging from the reactions of my partners. This is a real problem during climax where I want to push even farther.

    Not knowing female anatomy well enough, I'm not sure where I'm going, but it's best for me to stay in familiar territory.
     
  7. B_horribleperson

    B_horribleperson New Member

    Joined:
    Nov 8, 2005
    Messages:
    1,149
    Likes Received:
    3
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Florida, Americas penis
    1-4. lube lots of lube
    5. more lube
    6. go slow
    7. have lots of sex cuz at some point she will start to open up
    8-10. lube
     
  8. cebe

    cebe New Member

    Joined:
    May 31, 2004
    Messages:
    31
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    1
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Belgium
    Hello, we have had a same problem with my wife (as I explained elswhere). Good lube, natural or not, is mandatory but if length is your main problem, its not really an answer. Try to put your hand at the base of your shaft, or find a rubber "donut", so you cannot go too deep. Take care to your positions. And be patient, my wife needs over 3 years to accomodate me without "restriction".:tongue:
     
  9. SR_Pepe_LePube

    SR_Pepe_LePube Account Disabled

    Joined:
    Dec 8, 2005
    Messages:
    647
    Likes Received:
    5
    I agree, the more the pussy is aroused and thus lubricated the easier it has been to slid in. But not only has it been easier to slid in but because of arousal a pussy will naturally expand to accomadate a larger cock. I have only 'hurt' my wife if I tried to penetrate her too quickly.

    I wouls also say that after child birth my wife's pussy has been stretched and as such it has been easier to slid in.
     
  10. Max

    Max New Member

    Joined:
    Oct 5, 2002
    Messages:
    938
    Likes Received:
    1
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    UK
    I agree with all that's been said about foreplay, lube and taking it very slow. Girth and problems with entrance and tightness are one thing, but I agree with Captain Elephant that depth is another. Although it took us a good long while to reach it, there came a point with us that no further progress towards full penetration was possible.

    I'm one of those who has caused a fair amount of pain and (probably) injury despite generally being very careful. It's easy to lose control and go in that fraction too deep and too hard or at the wrong angle; which is one reason that 'donuts' are a good idea for some of us.
     
  11. D_Coyne Toss

    D_Coyne Toss New Member

    Joined:
    Sep 24, 2004
    Messages:
    1,852
    Likes Received:
    12
    I had (and sometimes i have) the same problem. Since we were both virgin, first times were hard, and it was impossible even to penetrate her.

    We used artificial lube and lots of foreplay, especially oral, and finally we started having good sex.

    Also now, however, foreplay is a must, and I always have to be careful, because if i pound too hard and deep, I reach her cervix (very painful for her). Thickness can be a problem too, and i have to move carefully inside her.
     
  12. Mr._dB

    Mr._dB New Member

    Joined:
    Feb 10, 2004
    Messages:
    675
    Likes Received:
    5
    Gender:
    Male
    If you're talking about the fornix or "cul-de-sac", when they're very aroused and loosened, the cervix/uterus shifts position and allows another couple of inches of penetration. I figure there must be some reason why her gear gets out of the way like that, might as well use the space. As long as you don't bang the bump-stops. That deep penetration is when they scream "OMG no one has ever filled me up like that!"
     
  13. B_NineInchCock_160IQ

    Joined:
    Jan 30, 2006
    Messages:
    6,378
    Likes Received:
    11
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    where the sun never sets
    It would be nice if someone or a group of someones took the time to compile a FAQ of sorts for the LPSG. There are many questions, like this one, that get asked over and over again, and there have been many good answers over the course of the years that this site has been around. My advice to the original poster: do a search on the boards, you'll find loads of information about this.
     
  14. Magnum10x2

    Magnum10x2 Member

    Joined:
    Feb 3, 2006
    Messages:
    683
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    16
    Gender:
    Male
    Come on… that one of life’s best feelings – making her scream…. Enjoy it!

    Lube… I guess…. But I can’t remember a girl not ever being wet before I entered…. I suggest and Andrew Blake porno flick…. If that doesn’t loosen her up – look elsewhere.
     
  15. sometimesomewhere

    sometimesomewhere New Member

    Joined:
    Apr 18, 2006
    Messages:
    52
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    PA
    is this an exclusive thing for guys who are huge? cos i can feel the end of my wife's vagina with my wang, and i've hurt her a few times and i'm only 8 inches long. maybe i'm just doing something wrong.
     
  16. sares

    sares New Member

    Joined:
    Jun 26, 2006
    Messages:
    440
    Likes Received:
    5
    Gender:
    Female
    Remember you are huge everywhere but LPSG!! lol. My hub is a thick 8-8.5" and he bashes the fuck out of me. But he knows how hard to push, when to give me a break, and I love it, so.

    Even an average 5-6"er can hit the cervix in certain positions -- legs over head, bent over from behind. So you can imagine 8" does the trick neatly.
     
  17. openseason

    openseason New Member

    Joined:
    Jul 6, 2006
    Messages:
    4
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    I agree hurting her is the best. Those are tears of sheer joy.
     
Draft saved Draft deleted