I am currently suffering from a high anxiouty and all the trappings that go with it. I just wanted to know if anyone else has ever had to deal with this.
I have the most devoted man a gal could ever ask for and I feel like I demand to much of him. He keeps me from loosing my mind, He helps me focus on the here and now. I know I am not giving him nearly enough emotional support as he gives me.
If anyone has been in a similar situation or has any constructive suggest please let me know.
Lisa, I'm sorry to hear that you're dealing with high anxiety issues right now. To be honest with you, it's hard to offer you any kind of input because everything that you've shared is rather vague.
If you're comfortable with it, you may want to share a bit more about what's been going on or why you have identified a need to start this thread, because I think that you stand to get more input from members who stand to reply to you in the future.
Truely that is one of my failings I don't show him how much I value him. The sad part is he has told me what he needs but I keep over complicating it. And totally miss what he has told me in the first place.
Why do you feel as if you don't show him how much you value him?
How are you overcomplicating things?
It's soooo obvious that you love him dearly. :wink:
He's hanging in there b/c he loves you, but he's also used to your dysfunction - even if he says he's not - he's had to carry someone before in his life...somewhere. For whatever reason thinks what he is doing is nurturing and is passive-aggressively tolerating it.
If you recognize you're mistreating him it's on you to rectify it or go somewhere else to get help and take some of the burden off him to keep you together.
Just my thoughts.
Zoe...if you have a look at my posting history, you'll see that it's not in my nature or part of my approach to flame people...so this is said with gentleness and sincerity: Either you don't know what you're talking about or you're expressing yourself incorrectly, beeeeeg time!
:smile:
Passive-aggression is NOT constructive, nor is it helpful. It is a harsh and cruel way of treating others because it tends to destablilize. More times than not, it's used to punish others...but in a deceptive way because it's not upfront and blatant. The subtlety to it is what's so destablilizing because the receiver of this kind of treatment doesn't know what's going on, if they've done something wrong etc. They are left second guessing themselves and the situation that they are confronted with. So there's NOTHING positive about this.
The fact that
aggression is being mentioned ought to tell you what it's all about. Bear in mind that there's a big difference between being assertive and being aggressive.
...I'm just saying....
