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Hi ladies I am new here. Came across this site while looking for info on my question. My new gf and I started having sexual two weeks ago. She has had past partners before me so not new at this. She said it hurts a lot when we do it, but she cums really quick. Quicker then she has with others. I do a lot of foreplay so she is well warmed up and very wet, we also add lube. I am very thick. My question is is it normal for a women to cum quick even when it is hurting her? Thanks ahead of time for your replies.
 

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Sure it’s possible. Especially if she cums quickly. You’re probably still going and causing microtears in her vaginal canal. It happened to me all the time. Even if you start with lube, after she has an orgasm, you might want to pause and add some more lube. Or stop completely and get her aroused again. It depends on her refractory period.
 

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Sure it’s possible. Especially if she cums quickly. You’re probably still going and causing microtears in her vaginal canal. It happened to me all the time. Even if you start with lube, after she has an orgasm, you might want to pause and add some more lube. Or stop completely and get her aroused again. It depends on her refractory period.
She says she never really came quick before, yet she has been with me while it hurts her. I just never figured a women would cum if it hurts.
 

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Or stop completely and get her aroused again. It depends on her refractory period.
This. I have a long refractory period, and I need a minute or two before I can tolerate clitoral stimulation. Too soon, and I'm ticklish. Ignore my giggle fit, and I will start getting overstimulated. I do not mind the tickling (though I do not like it) but I cannot tolerate the hyperstimulation at all. Lizard brain will emerge. My partner is immediately in danger, though I will try to control my reflexes and instincts if I can.

What works best is to leave my clitoris out of it for a couple of minutes, empty my skene's gland manually, kiss me, and wait for a sign that I am ready to continue. My orgasm can last over a minute, and if you let me have the whole thing, I need less time to recover.
 

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This. I have a long refractory period, and I need a minute or two before I can tolerate clitoral stimulation. Too soon, and I'm ticklish. Ignore my giggle fit, and I will start getting overstimulated. I do not mind the tickling (though I do not like it) but I cannot tolerate the hyperstimulation at all. Lizard brain will emerge. My partner is immediately in danger, though I will try to control my reflexes and instincts if I can.

What works best is to leave my clitoris out of it for a couple of minutes, empty my skene's gland manually, kiss me, and wait for a sign that I am ready to continue. My orgasm can last over a minute, and if you let me have the whole thing, I need less time to recover.
This is the same with her. I have to leave her clit alone for a few mins after she cums. Problem is she gets really sore and does not want to go again after she cums.
 

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Sometimes, the right kind of pain can get me to cum quicker.

Not always, but definitely not never.
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Not for me. Girth causes little tears to my perineum. This is why foreplay should empty my skene's gland several times, and it should be filled and emptied again at the start of round two.

When I am not quite ready, pressure to my g-spot with fingers can hurt a little, but I like it. Length can sometimes get my posterior or anterior fornix too soon, and that also hurts pleasantly. My own arousal can be pleasantly painful too. I do not enjoy pain from girth. That is always tiny tears in my delicate flesh.
 

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This is the same with her. I have to leave her clit alone for a few mins after she cums. Problem is she gets really sore and does not want to go again after she cums.
Sounds like you are tearing her. I can be super wet inside, and have one tiny dry spot at my entrance ruin the evening. You need to make sure to completely coat her labia, clit, clitoral hood, perineum, and her entire entroitus. Lube, saliva, vaginal discharge, even water is better than nothing. Lube the base of your cock too. Wet inside is not good enough. Wet outside too.
 

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Sounds like you are tearing her. I can be super wet inside, and have one tiny dry spot at my entrance ruin the evening. You need to make sure to completely coat her labia, clit, clitoral hood, perineum, and her entire entroitus. Lube, saliva, vaginal discharge, even water is better than nothing. Lube the base of your cock too. Wet inside is not good enough. Wet outside too.
Ok thx. I thought we had enough, but will really make sure. Is that why it is hurting her because I am tearing her? Also she can still cum while being torn?
 

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Another thought. The little tears are tiny, perhaps microscopic in nature. However, they feel HUGE. They do not bleed. But they hurt like hell during penetration, and that pain multiplies exponentially after orgasm. At best, it feels sore. At worst, it burns. Like a minuscule section of coochie is totally on fire. Get some urine on it? Jeebus fucking Christ on a cracker! The worst part? Some candida yeast (they live in every vagina and foreskin) can get in it and make a yeast infection. Other bacteria can find it and cause bacterial vaginosis. These are not considered STIs, but you can catch them from her, AND re-infect her. It's BAD bad. No fun for anybody.

Anytime she is feeling that soreness, you can, as a prophylactic measure, give her probiotics to take, or put plain, unflavored/unsweetened yogurt right from the fridge directly where it hurts. The cold will be very soothing. The live, active cultures will help her body defend itself.
 

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Ok thx. I thought we had enough, but will really make sure. Is that why it is hurting her because I am tearing her? Also she can still cum while being torn?
Yes. I do. I will grin and bear the raw feeling if I am horny enough. I regret this later.
 

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Um, microtears in just the right (thin) spot can bleed a tiny bit. Think pinkish discharge.
AE is absolutely right that most of an area can be more than adequately lubricated, but one spot, and it’s never the same spot for me, but a possible five, will not be and it will give way.

the more troublesome aspect of this is microtears can harbor wee beasties and lead to minor infections.
 

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Hi, so I talked to her last night about it hurting her. She said it doesn’t burn that it’s more like a lot of pressure and feels really full. She said it’s hard to explain that it starts to hurt once it starts to get it then is very uncomfortable while it’s in her. We do have to have easier sex. I can not go really fast.
 

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Hi, so I talked to her last night about it hurting her. She said it doesn’t burn that it’s more like a lot of pressure and feels really full. She said it’s hard to explain that it starts to hurt once it starts to get it then is very uncomfortable while it’s in her. We do have to have easier sex. I can not go really fast.
Every woman's body has differences from others. I have had one partner with a roughly 7" girth, and I knew immediately that was my outer limit. I'm trying to remember exactly how it felt, but honestly, the length, also at my absolute limit, was a much greater concern.

I felt extremely full, pressure is also the word I would use. I would also say it felt like too much stretching. Like if a bad fitness coach pushed too hard on me while stretching my legs. Like muscle about to be strained. I never tore with him, as far as I remember.

I don't remember the girth hurting. I remember the physical sensation induced fear. I felt like I was in danger of being seriously injured. I was surprised when I saw it; I wasn't afraid until he penetrated me. I'm not having a clear memory of the sensation, but I do remember feeling afraid, unsure whether or not to trust him to know how to keep me safe, and feeling like if there was so much as a hair's breadth more dick, I was gonna need medical intervention. Absolutely no more room at the inn.

I did have orgasms with him. He could last forever, and even though my refractory period is kind of long, and I cannot become aroused no matter what is done to me right after I climax, we would keep going if we had time, and I would get off again, sometimes a few times.

Let me ask you this. Can you have an orgasm with a broken foot? Right after dental surgery? Even though you are in pain? I can. If a pain is not keeping me from being able to have intercourse, it also won't keep me from having an orgasm.
 

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Every woman's body has differences from others. I have had one partner with a roughly 7" girth, and I knew immediately that was my outer limit. I'm trying to remember exactly how it felt, but honestly, the length, also at my absolute limit, was a much greater concern.

I felt extremely full, pressure is also the word I would use. I would also say it felt like too much stretching. Like if a bad fitness coach pushed too hard on me while stretching my legs. Like muscle about to be strained. I never tore with him, as far as I remember.

I don't remember the girth hurting. I remember the physical sensation induced fear. I felt like I was in danger of being seriously injured. I was surprised when I saw it; I wasn't afraid until he penetrated me. I'm not having a clear memory of the sensation, but I do remember feeling afraid, unsure whether or not to trust him to know how to keep me safe, and feeling like if there was so much as a hair's breadth more dick, I was gonna need medical intervention. Absolutely no more room at the inn.

I did have orgasms with him. He could last forever, and even though my refractory period is kind of long, and I cannot become aroused no matter what is done to me right after I climax, we would keep going if we had time, and I would get off again, sometimes a few times.

Let me ask you this. Can you have an orgasm with a broken foot? Right after dental surgery? Even though you are in pain? I can. If a pain is not keeping me from being able to have intercourse, it also won't keep me from having an orgasm.
The pressure and fullness you describe sounds like what she said. She said it’s hard to explain when I asked what hurts