Every woman's body has differences from others. I have had one partner with a roughly 7" girth, and I knew immediately that was my outer limit. I'm trying to remember exactly how it felt, but honestly, the length, also at my absolute limit, was a much greater concern.
I felt extremely full, pressure is also the word I would use. I would also say it felt like too much stretching. Like if a bad fitness coach pushed too hard on me while stretching my legs. Like muscle about to be strained. I never tore with him, as far as I remember.
I don't remember the girth hurting. I remember the physical sensation induced fear. I felt like I was in danger of being seriously injured. I was surprised when I saw it; I wasn't afraid until he penetrated me. I'm not having a clear memory of the sensation, but I do remember feeling afraid, unsure whether or not to trust him to know how to keep me safe, and feeling like if there was so much as a hair's breadth more dick, I was gonna need medical intervention. Absolutely no more room at the inn.
I did have orgasms with him. He could last forever, and even though my refractory period is kind of long, and I cannot become aroused no matter what is done to me right after I climax, we would keep going if we had time, and I would get off again, sometimes a few times.
Let me ask you this. Can you have an orgasm with a broken foot? Right after dental surgery? Even though you are in pain? I can. If a pain is not keeping me from being able to have intercourse, it also won't keep me from having an orgasm.