bigguy: I'm not sure what I expect, but I figured this was a good place to post for help. I've been with my girl for nine years now, yet every time we have sex, it hurts. No matter what the foreplay, lube, etc. we've used. We've tried astroglide, KY, etc. No luck. Over time, it's made her more reluctant to have sex. She finds it pleasurable, but after nine years she's tired of being sore the next day. Any ideas or suggestions? I've asked her to speak to her gynecologist about it, but so far she's been "too embarrassed".